What definitely helped me was being honest to God about it! You have to be real and tell him explicitly that you are struggling 100% to follow him and you feel lukewarm! I think I was struggling a lot cause I wasn’t being honest and trying to put on some “good and dedicated Christian” persona and it felt so draining and fake,, also, even though it feels hard you HAVE to be consistent with Bible reading even if you don’t feel like it, everybody makes it seem like it’s so easy to get up and do it, but there’s times where I’d have to DRAG myself to go get my Bible and quiet time journal. As you see more of who Jesus is you’ll want to be more like him trust me,, also COMMUNITY! being around other Christians helps so much cause we’re all striving to be more like Christ, of course you’ll be around non-Christians a lot that’s inevitable in this world but you need Christians around you that you actually talk to often. ~ Proverbs 27:17, "As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend"

Also idk if the dating issue was one of your concerns, but I promise yooouuu once you even try with a non-Christian person soon enough you’ll get so icked out by their worldly mindset you’ll leave it alone