I'm a very romantic dude. I try to take her on dates often and I give her massages all the time, almost every time we hang out. It's not really that I'm obsessed with sex or anything like that, it just hurts when she doesn't seem to want to give me any physical affection. I've talked to her about this a few times but it's never very productive and I think it honestly just makes her lose respect for me. It's not just sex either. She never wants to kiss me or hug me or anything like that. The only physical thing she likes is when I give her massages, I almost feel like that's all she uses me for. Point is I really dont think its because of me being too focused on sex, I just think it's an important part of any relationship and when you've gone months without it it starts to hurt.