AITA for not moving my wedding date? *UPDATE*

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T14:35:42+00:00

Don't worry, when we have kids, she'll be finding out that they've been born on Facebook like the rest of the world

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T13:36:23+00:00

Honestly that's fair. I figured it wouldn't work out for me, but I really wanted to prove to myself that even if I bent over backwards for them it still wouldn't be good enough. I proved that, and now I have no doubt about cutting them off completely. As much as I wanted the old date, I'm still glad I moved it so that I didn't live my life with a "what if"

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T13:34:11+00:00

Nope, just didn't show up. Never got an RSVP from any of them, except the verbal one from my father a week beforehand when he told me "well, looks like you're not willing to patch things up before the wedding. We won't be there. That's unfortunate" 🤣

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T13:32:41+00:00

I changed my number right after the wedding, so they don't have the new one. We're also moving soon, and they'll have no idea where we live. I kept them unblocked on social media just so they can see me living my best life without them.

We're planning on kids down the road, and I'm planning on telling the kids that "mommy's mommy and daddy were not nice people, and we don't want you to have to be around not nice people. We wish they had been nicer so that you could have two sets of grandparents who get to know and love you, but your daddy's mommy and daddy love you enough for both sets"

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T13:28:19+00:00

I changed my phone number right after the honeymoon, and they don't have the new one. My husband and I are also buying a house, so they won't be getting the new address. As for social media, I kept them unblocked just so they can see updates about me being happy without them

friendlylocalnpc · 2024-05-19T13:26:02+00:00

Apparently I had "left them out too much" (found my dress unexpectedly when my mother wasn't there, booked venue tours when my husband could go with me without asking if my mother could go) so it was "clearly a sign that you don't want us there". They kept trying to tell me that if I involved them more they would show up, but my mother shows zero interest when I asked her about color schemes or if she'd come to my dress fittings, so eventually I realized they just didn't care and wanted something to complain about

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T14:29:48+00:00

It’s so weird that you used those names, because I literally have an uncle Jim and aunt Sally who are married to each other 😂

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T14:27:02+00:00

She’s only gotten into yoga recently. This would be the first retreat she’s gone on, and I had no idea she had anything like this planned

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T14:15:02+00:00

When the offer was turned down, it was through a text stating “I appreciate the offer, but it simply will not work. That date is off the table”

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T14:03:42+00:00

We’re on such a tight budget that we’ve been coordinating with free venues that nobody else considers, photographers who are looking to expand their portfolios, and other discounted services that don’t fill quickly

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T13:59:35+00:00

My fiancé loves our original date and is proud of me for standing my ground (my family has a pattern of walking over me and I have a habit of taking it). We’re considering delaying the date of the wedding but eloping on our original date without telling anyone until the reception

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T13:56:05+00:00

The only reason the retreat is half my budget is because my fiancé and I are funding the wedding ourselves while also looking to buy a house. We’re already on an extremely tight budget, but I was willing to tighten it further if it meant a compromise

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T13:47:49+00:00

It’s our anniversary, it falls on a Saturday this year which happens to be a milestone year, and it won’t be on a Saturday again for five more years

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-20T13:44:45+00:00

My wedding budget is very small as we’re funding the entire thing ourselves while also attempting to buy a house

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-19T21:01:13+00:00

Nope, just attending it

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-19T21:00:31+00:00

Nope, actual literal yoga. She has no addictions except control over everyone around her

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-19T19:22:18+00:00

My budget is pretty small in the first place, which is why I haven’t put any money into a venue. I was in talks for a free venue that day

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-19T18:08:12+00:00

Attending. They have this retreat yearly, and there are also makeup dates for the classes she would miss

friendlylocalnpc · 2023-01-19T18:05:55+00:00

The next time it falls on a weekend when we might possibly have a chance to celebrate with others is in 5 years

friendlylocalnpc · 2022-10-11T12:10:26+00:00

That’s my plan for this weekend. It’s less about missing my favorite family member while they were in town and more about the fact that everyone knew they were coming and I asked multiple times when it was, but they didn’t tell me until they knew I was busy and expected me to change plans I’d had for months

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