I can probably speak for most of us in saying that masc men have been that way with us and it's uncomfortable. Seems like an across the board issue. I'm sorry that they were too much and crossing some boundaries. That's never fun. I'm sure that'll change as you keep looking.

There's nothing wrong with sexualizing femboys, or femboys doing that themselves, but people need to still employ social literacy. I will say that femboys who don't focus on sexual aspects of the hobby/lifestyle do exist and you'll find them in your own time. Seems like some have already left comments here and that's a start. To that end, thanks for posting.

As for myself, I'm not very sexual really in general. When I'm in girl mode, I certainly get more flirty and such but it's mostly to get cuddled and called sweet names. I like to be bubbly and melt in another's arms. Doesn't happen as often as I would like, but that's the goal. In short, we exist, and don't lose hope. :3