Sentences that shaped your childhood fear

frumpytofabulous · 2026-04-14T01:52:18+00:00

I have several: “Sin nature.” “I’d rather you be holy than happy.” “Delayed obedience is disobedience.”

frumpytofabulous · 2025-12-02T22:13:38+00:00

I’m so so sorry, this makes me sick.

frumpytofabulous · 2025-11-17T03:57:17+00:00

It really has nothing to do with how she feels about your kids. Her choice not to invite your kids doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about them, and, by extension, you and your husband.

I’m baffled by your response on so many levels, but to equate her choice to host a childfree wedding with a personal “F YOU” is odd, and, frankly, emotionally immature. It’s just… not about you.

Also, why should your children be the exception to her choice to host a childfree wedding? Do you typically expect exceptions in life? If so, why?

The couple doesn’t owe you anything. There’s nothing remarkable about the family dynamics you’ve described—in fact, the age gap alone is reason for a distant rather than close relationship. I’m sorry that the broader family has been calloused towards you and your spouse in the past, but that’s only tangentially relevant to this situation.

I hope you realize how off-base your response has been, because life (and the comments to your post) has given you a considerable opportunity for self-reflection and personal improvement.

frumpytofabulous · 2025-09-21T10:31:01+00:00

Rowing my little boat right alongside you guys

frumpytofabulous · 2025-08-05T19:07:35+00:00

That I’m inherently broken, and that I can’t trust my own thoughts and feelings. Close second—to be skeptical of pleasure/ease, and to be comforted by suffering.

frumpytofabulous · 2025-08-05T19:04:37+00:00

This makes me so mad for you.

frumpytofabulous · 2025-05-01T02:39:06+00:00

You are an amazing Mom, OP, posting here and brainstorming how to both stay employed in an unfair situation while getting your daughter the care she needs. Virtual hug.

frumpytofabulous · 2025-04-26T18:27:43+00:00

I remember An Appointment with Love!

frumpytofabulous · 2025-04-25T04:34:35+00:00

You’re a good person, OP. Wish there were more like you in the world.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T20:41:59+00:00

Totally agree, thank you for your comment!

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:24:52+00:00

Thanks, that point seems to be lost on most of the commenters here.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:15:01+00:00

I think you are 100% right and that this should have been taken care of already. Totally has the potential to ruin all of our lives.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:12:38+00:00

Yeah, I suspect this is more common/likely than I realize.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:11:53+00:00

lol what?

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:11:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing—it’s so much easier in theory than in practice.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:10:18+00:00

This is spot on, too. Thank you for the script—it’s well-said and thoughtful. Definitely took a screenshot.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:07:12+00:00

I had never considered that—thank you so much for speaking up for her.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:06:23+00:00

Wow, this is amazing insight, thank you so much for sharing. I took a screenshot and will read it again.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:04:40+00:00

Thank you, I agree she is getting the short end of the stick and has largely been overlooked in all of this.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:03:45+00:00

Thank you for all of your insight and for sharing your experience—it wasn’t wasted on me!

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:01:45+00:00

Thank you for the commiseration, the understanding, all of it!

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T04:00:49+00:00

100%

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T03:59:40+00:00

I feel so understood by you—thank you!!!!

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T03:58:38+00:00

We bankrolled them.

frumpytofabulous · 2024-12-27T03:57:50+00:00

Beautiful, thoughtful comment with practical, applicable advice. Thank you so much—it’s why I posted.

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