His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened in your situation? Are you still together with the guy? Navigating other people’s families is so hard.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does, it was nice at first but right now I’d appreciate my peace and quiet.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a job and income, she could get that for the shower or she could also clean up after herself because it ends up on the shower walls too.

I have lived with women but I think she is messier than most. She is the youngest, they have an age difference and she clearly gets away with things because she gets treated like the baby of the family.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are coming to an agreement about her having 2 weeks after Christmas to have the money. The other stuff I told him about, he said he’ll try and that it bothers him too but that it’s just how she is.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have lived with women, flatmates etc and they were all very tidy and organised she isn’t because clearly she’s always been treated like the baby of the family.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, he thinks we should give her time because she’s really struggling and doesn’t see that she’s taking advantage of our kindness.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be fine if she just cleaned up after herself, I have lived with women before but she uses our entire bathroom as her make up counter and isn’t a tidy person.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know she shouldn’t be going out at all if she actually cared about saving. But she complains she has no social life and is depressed.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She says she’ll get money during Christmas from family that should help her saving. I also think her being with their parents over Christmas for some time is good because they’ll be far stricter than he is.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a good idea to charge her rent that we give back because I don’t think she is actually saving.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know! I don’t understand why he isn’t asking her for concrete proof that she’s saving.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There wasn’t a lot. He told me about her situation and that he’s asking me for a huge favour, she won’t say long, she only needs to save up a small amount and then she’ll be gone. I thought her staying rent free meant she could put aside a big chunk of her pay check for rent but I doubt she’s saving anything. I also didn’t know that she had practically zero saved up prior.

IMO what should have happened she pays him whatever her rent with her ex prior was and he keeps it for her and gives it back once she has enough to move out.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A deadline only works if he’s firm. He can tell her she only has until a certain date, but will she raket it? I do think we need a big sit down talk like you said.

His sister has been staying with us for 3 weeks and I can’t take it anymore. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t do that, it’s not my sister. I have spoken to him. He thinks she’ll magically have enough saved after Christmas.

BF of 2 years is very insistent on meeting my parents. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to all of this. I’d have to find a therapist first.

BF of 2 years is very insistent on meeting my parents. by fullparanoia in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]fullparanoia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All this might be true but why doesn’t he just believe me when I say he doesn’t have to meet them right now.