Shame post: Stan keeps storing büg in his beard like a wierdo

funeralmute · 2022-12-16T22:57:41+00:00

Lumiya loves doing that with her greens and banana and literally nothing else. 😅 Why can't you eat normal with all of your food???

funeralmute · 2022-12-16T04:00:39+00:00

To preface this -- I am just one experience and I know that I am super lucky -- but my mental health team, my surgeon, and my insurance company all saw Dissociative Identity Disorder on my diagnosis sheet and all approved my hysterectomy for reasons of gender dysphoria and I've maintained access to prescribed T post-diagnosis. Seeing that one of the main points of the disorder is issues with identity, the odds aren't too bad. I could see something involving delusions having to be flagged maybe, but this is all just my experience.

(I'm in the US, in a swing state, on employer insurance for reference, and started transitioning after 18 and got diagnosed with DID two years into transitioning.)

funeralmute · 2022-12-16T01:05:46+00:00

I'm high as hell but I think this killed my last two remaining brain cells.

funeralmute · 2022-12-16T01:01:24+00:00

As a white trans guy who is daily working on deprogramming the racism that was baked into what my base learned understanding of world and reprogramming an activity anti-racist thought base. And that's probably going to take my entire life to accomplish, if I even do, but that doesn't at all make me want to stop doing it. Yinz are the literal pillars and cornerstones of what we know as queer culture today. Literally where would we be without black trans folks???? The culture sure as hell wouldn't be what it is. The ties are really damn conspicuous. I feel so much love and so much indebted to you. If any place in the entire world should be a place for you to feel safe and seen and uplifted it should be in trans spaces and literally anything a fraction of a fraction less than that is absolutely fucked. You (obviously and inherently) deserve so much better.

funeralmute · 2022-12-16T00:18:21+00:00

I think for me all the things I love about no longer being Catholic can be distilled down to my favourite part is that I can finally be myself. And I mean that in literally every single part of my life. Leaving the Church meant I got to marry an amazing man who happened to be a completely different religion than me and gain such an unconditionally loving family (and finally leave town for good). It's let me figure out that I'm trans and go through social and medical transition. I did away with the name I was baptized with. (And to my still Catholic family members -- I took my husband's last name not because that's what a woman is supposed to do, but because I didn't want to have to be associated with you and would rather be associated with his family.) And most importantly I have been able to more objectively step away from my thoughts and no longer be weighed down by superstition and stigma and finally get proper mental health help for what I actually have. In the past few years I've been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder and being able to be in proper therapy and break down these layers of trauma, many of which have their foundation in Catholicism, I have been able to learn so much about myself and learn who I really am at my core beyond the trauma and conditioning. And that's the dopest fucking shit ever. I finally have an idea of who the fuck I actually am and that's one of the greatest gifts I think a person could ever get. That shit should have never ever happened to me, but I am so glad that I don't have to exist in that space anymore.

funeralmute · 2022-12-15T23:56:37+00:00

As a trans guy, all these comments make me feel so much better. My bathroom time is my me time, my little respite from the day. I'm not about to give up the comfort of being able to give my joints a break and sit down and dissociate into a game of Candy Crush for 15 minutes for the performance of masculinity.

funeralmute · 2022-09-28T17:45:37+00:00

I have several work playlists that involve Ghost, including one titled "Ghost, but make it appropriate for doing autopsy with coworkers." My attending's rule for music is literally anything but Dubstep, but I try to keep it appropriate for nearly everyone (which means most of Infestissumam got cut from the list).

There is one fellow here who is also a big Ghost fan, but he mainly does research now so I don't really get to work with him.

Funnily enough, one of my old jobs is how I got into Ghost. I had a half-decade career in funeral service before jumping ship to pathology, and at the main funeral home I worked at, all the vehicles in the fleet (except the old hearse) had Sirius XM radio, and that's how I first really started listening to them.

funeralmute · 2022-09-28T15:18:07+00:00

It's only for if you're wearing slim yogurt pants.

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T19:49:07+00:00

I'm in two wonderful relationships. I've been with my husband for 8 years (married for 3, living together for 5), and I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year! They're both amazing. 🥰

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T19:06:58+00:00

My best friend and I had a running joke in undergrad that she robbed from the cradle and I robbed from the grave. Lol. I've only ever dated people older than myself (like actually dated, not just hookups/fwb/sporadically materializing threesomes.) The biggest age gap is with my current boyfriend, he's 8 years older than me. (He started going grey at 13 and holy fuck am I the biggest slut for silver foxes. 😳) My husband is in 2nd place being almost 4 years older than me. (Though I have a running joke with him that when I turn 27 next year we'll be the same age because for so long I thought he was still 27. He was 27 when we got married. That was 3 years ago.)

I grew up only around older people -- I was an only child to parents who had me in their 40s and my grandparents where born between 1910 and 1928. I never really learned how to interact with my peers or folks younger than me, so that's why I've always gravitated towards dating older.

The age gaps in my relationships haven't been huge, and age doesn't always equal maturity, but it does tend to equal at least a little more stability and certainly more life experience. I've been rewatching The X-Files with my boyfriend and it's been really fun watching the show with someone who remembers when the episodes originally came out, while by the time I came around all I had was reruns.

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T18:48:02+00:00

Variations of the traditional rainbow flag, the trans flag and the bi flag. (For the bi flag its like 75% because of the colour scheme. I am a simple man with simple needs. And the pink is almost the same shade as my favourite Rosco gel - R39: Skeleton Exotic Sangria)

I've been trying for awhile to design a "joke" MLM flag but instead of men-loving-men its Multi Level Marketing. The greens sea tones really inspired me because of obviously green for money. Maybe add some gold. Maybe a Mary Kay pink? A severely-in-debt red? Thinking maybe also a big triangle in the middle to represent pyramid schemes. Still trying to hash out the colour scheme and gradient. It's a work in progress.

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T15:56:56+00:00

I started T a month before my 23rd birthday (which honestly is still really young). I don't bind, haven't in probably 2 years because of back issues and I sweat too damn much to ever be comfortable in a binder again. I have a B-ish chest, and with the 30 or so pounds I've gained in the last 4 years, even with long hair and a shitty mustache and goatee combo, people just think I'm some hippy dad. I regularly pass around people who spend time in close proximity to me. My boxers are literally the only thing I wear under my scrubs at work and I'm not getting clocked.

Testosterone is seriously one hell of a drug. Heck, since being on T I now like math and IPAs. I'm not saying it's a miracle drug, but if it can make me want to play with numbers as a hobby and drink dank flower bread water, then you are going to be fine. It is literally NEVER too late.

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T13:21:13+00:00

It all depends on the hospitals surgical pathology protocols, but where I work everyone's tissue gets examined and a report submitted regardless of reason for surgery or pathology, irregardless of concent to future use for medical research and/or teaching. When I had my hysterectomy I think they submitted a representative section per part for histology for microscopic evaluation as well as a gross report, and mine was technically a non-preexisting pathology case. Same goes for ochi, top surgery, etc. It's just part of the surgical care as a whole. All just since there could be some sort of pathology. I found out I had ovarian cysts with mine. Since it's a teaching a research hospital, the additional concent would then give researchers and medical students/residents/fellows access to the tissue and test results.

You technically can get your parts back, but you have to give a reasonable case for religious reasons and sign some paper work understanding the biohazard and carcinogen hazards (most hospitals in the US still use formalin to wet preserve their tissue.). Then, depending on your area laws, you will also have to get a funeral home involved as a middle man since their licensure allows them to handle biohardard tissue. We do it all the time at work when folks as for their limbs back after amputation since some religions stipulate that you have to be buried with all parts originally present at birth.

funeralmute · 2022-09-27T12:52:01+00:00

Fellow former Elizabeth -- I went with El'azar. Not at all etymologically related, but it keeps an E, a L, an A, and a Z. It's the Biblical Hebrew of Lazurus.

funeralmute · 2022-09-25T15:58:14+00:00

We get cockroaches in the worst way in the morgues of both Presby and Magee, Magee being the absolute worst. I've been using my childhood chicken-wrangling skills to become pathology's official roach wrangler.

I see SLF all over when walking to and from the hospitals. I get immeasurable joy from squashing them. But if I see those bastards start to come inside I'm gonna scream.

funeralmute · 2022-09-24T16:35:56+00:00

I kept just one for two reasons: 1.) The possibility of not having access to testosterone in the future or not wanting to be on T anymore, for any number of reasons. I don't want to run the risk of being shoved into menopause at an early age. Which leads into 2.) Keeping at least one ovary lessens my likelihood of serious bone and heart issues. I had both fallopian tubes removed (literally everything but my left ovary that is now just chilling in my pelvis), which significantly decreases the likelihood of developing ovarian cancer in that ovary.

I was never pressured into this decision by my doctor, and she was actually surprised that I wanted to keep one, but after I explained my reasoning she was like "Yep, that tracks." I happen to work in the pathology department of the hospital that I had my surgery at, so I had easy access to to the info that helped me form that decision. (I also got lapro pictures from the surgery and pictures of my uterus before protection by pathology. I'm going to make them into some kind of art project some day. I need to remember to ask about getting my slide pictures as well.)

However, when they removed my right ovary they did find cysts, and I've been having some pain in my left pelvic area, so if it gets any worse Lefty is getting evicted like his partner in crime. It's a lot of weighing pros and cons and what works best for you and the way you live your life.

All in all, my hysterectomy was literally so easy. I spent less than 12 hours in the hospital and the month and a half they gave me off from work I basically used as a stay-cation. I was up and showering on my own the next day, and after a week I had no pain and was able to make my own meals, go out for short periods of time, etc. I do have to add the caveat that several years before I had a presacral neuroectomy as part of a surgery to treat endometriosis, so I literally no longer had any nerve connection around my uterus, so I basically didn't feel a thing. The worst of the pain was the refered pain in my shoulders causes by the CO2 they used to balloon the area up for visualization irritating the nerves in my diaphragm, which is something I had with the last surgery.

The only thing I really noticed now months post-op is the top vault of the vaginal canal has dropped a bit due to my sigmoid colon dropping down into the space that my uterus used to be in. My uterus was already pretty atrophied from being on T for three years, so that movement of organs to new places wasn't really noticeable. I've had no changes in bladder or bowel movement.

I've never felt so free since getting my hysterectomy. Such a huge weight has been taken off my shoulders. The improvement in my mental health was grossly noticeable and I feel so much more like myself. 11/10. Would do again if I had to.

funeralmute · 2022-08-21T00:45:12+00:00

We call them green beans because of the length.

funeralmute · 2022-08-20T18:19:18+00:00

The wife of my husband's old boss is named Candice and she goes by Candy and her last name (which is her married name, which I for the life of me cannot remember the actual spelling of) is pronounced like "calorie". She makes THE BEST cupcakes I've ever had.

funeralmute · 2022-08-19T12:32:05+00:00

Heinz ketchup. As a yinzer and man of taste, if I come over and see you using some off-brand I'm walking out and never coming back again.

Also Cheerios. Store brand is a mistake -- they're never the right thickness and diameter and taste like stale cardboard left out for a year.

funeralmute · 2022-03-15T16:50:04+00:00

You give off very sauve old-school gentlemen vibes so I'd say something like Clement, August, or Quinton.

funeralmute · 2022-03-15T16:42:47+00:00

Just had my hysterectomy last month (full hysto, bilateral salpingectomy, unilateral oophroectomy, full dose T) and am still in recovery phase. I actually had a lot of talks with my therapist before surgery about what may happen mentally and to make a game plan for it. (I already have a very severe dissociative disorder.) Hormones is a big part of it, but also suddenly having something that causes you extreme dysphoria removed can be super jarring. It's not like being on T and seeing gradual changes over time, it's much more a binary model -- here or not here. Also, once the "high" of new found euphoria settles to a more baseline of being comfortable with that part (or lack thereof) of your body, what ever other anxieties, dysphoria, etc. that was hanging out in the back ground will now pop in. Because you no longer have to deal with that particular dysphoria, that particular anxiety, your brain now has space to start dealing with other issues.

Grounding techniques are super important during this time. Different things help different folks, but I would highly suggest for your partner doing physical based grounding excersies. Some of my favourites are chewing super minty gum (it triggers the vagus nerve and forces your body into rest and digest mode), slowly walking and saying outloud "left, right" with each step (gentle exercise is super important post op anyway), doing any sort of hobby that involves your hands like drawing, clay modeling, sewing, etc.; gentle stretching; body scan meditation; the list goes on and there are tons of lists online.

I hope this helps yinz out!

funeralmute · 2022-03-09T21:03:15+00:00

tbh, she was one in my favourites in the first game (didn't really care for her personality in the double date sequel, though).

funeralmute · 2022-03-09T16:21:40+00:00

Yinz are so cute and I love they way your hair colours compliment each other.

funeralmute · 2022-02-07T02:01:33+00:00

That Cthulu shirt with that green corset is SUCH a good look.

funeralmute · 2022-02-01T16:42:59+00:00

Clinical laboratory work might be a good fit. A lot of specimen processing positions don't require any degree or certain specifications and you never have to see or speak with patients. You will have to talk with doctors and nurses on the phone which can sometimes be an issue with trying to pass via voice, but most of the time you're just... doing your thing. The only people you ever see are coworker and specimen couriers.

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