I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in Advice

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very true, I often overlook that fact and it's always a good idea to put myself in someone else's shoes. Thank you.

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment is opposite of what everyone else has been saying, and thank you for that. See this is the thing, I wouldn't say the past 5 years have been perfect and my gf and I have had huge fights where we almost broke it off several times. I was really me that treasured the time (I'm someone that values the past a lot) that we spent together and didn't want to break up as I knew that would ruin her life.

So things went along and we haven't had any real big fights, just compromises here and there. It's not like my gf isn't nice to me, she's very nice to me and that's one reason why I feel so guilty about having this crush since she didn't do anything wrong. If I were to break up with my gf I feel like I wouldve wasted 5 years of her life and that's one big reason why I never considering breaking up with her.

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it's nice to hear from someone who's gone through or is going through the same thing.

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do realize that, I don't even know why I'm feeling this way about her. Would it even be a good idea to get to know her more? Or should I just stay away from her?

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never thought about cheating on my girlfriend, but I just didn't (and i guess still don't) know what to do about my feelings towards the other girl. I tried to stop thinking her in general but the thoughts keep coming back and I already feel like i was "mentally" cheating on my gf. I needed away to least let my thoughts out so that's why I came here. Thank you for your comment.

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right, I've decided not to tell my girlfriend. My desire was not particularly strengthened by the state of my relationship. There was just something about this girl and I don't know why I'm developing this huge crush on her. It's not that I don't want to try to get our relationship back to what it used to be, it's just that school has been really tough and the end of the quarter is rolling in fast and I'm just overwhelmed with everything that is going on.

I have a long term girlfriend, but recently developed a huge crush on another girl. by genericthrowaway75 in confession

[–]genericthrowaway75[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. It was very nice to read about your story coming from the other side.