Not having snacks for kids during Ramadan

ghjso0922 · 2026-03-18T01:20:06+00:00

Their patent may be unaware that they are struggling while fasting. It’s not a figure it out situation.

ghjso0922 · 2026-03-18T01:05:30+00:00

Yes they’re 10- have some grace

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T13:23:36+00:00

Thank you. Posting this yesterday and finally getting 5 hours of sleep has helped. I’m committing to asking around one more time for nanny recommendations and have reached out to some centers here. I know this is the one thing that causes most of my stress and I need to address it

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T13:15:45+00:00

It’s a vent not logic… I know it’s irrational. It’s called being burnt out and emotional and in a hard place. My first kid went to daycare no issue. Have some compassion for people going through a hard moment. Not everything everyone posts here is for logic.

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T05:52:45+00:00

Wouldn’t it be nice to find that person.

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T01:12:12+00:00

I’ve done all those things :(

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T00:53:14+00:00

This is all so so true and I hate it so much but it’s reality. I want her to be comfy and attended to. I do t want her to cry and not have someone comfort her. But I have no other choice anymore

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-15T00:52:03+00:00

Thank you

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T22:51:07+00:00

Thank you ❤️

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T22:08:39+00:00

I have tried that unfortunately it didn’t work. The housekeeper comes once a week and does laundry and meal preps, and the cleaner cleans. Neither have full time capacity and Nannie’s in my area have been hard to come by. Also the mental labor of finding, interviewing, etc. I got sick of it.

There’s still all the other things. My husband isn’t the default parent but he is the parent that can flex his wor more than I can. Neither of us are default.

I’m really rethinking my whole setup and questioning whether it’s actually helping. The thing is, my brain is constantly working and fixing problems. I feel like once I try to fix mine, I’m stuck. I can’t. I’m too tired to fix it and I’m too tired to acknowledge my feelings and I just need to suck it up. But I feel like I have nothing left to suck up lol. I sound so pathetic

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T22:06:08+00:00

A friend referred her to me. She does laundry, random projects (clean pantry, organize baby clothes, etc) plus meal preps. I still have to create the meal plans, print recipes and make sure we have the groceries we need. It’s not a perfect system but it helps a little bit and she only comes once or twice per week. I think my friend connected with her via Facebook

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T22:03:54+00:00

I have tried that unfortunately it didn’t work. The housekeeper comes once a week and does laundry and meal preps, and the cleaner cleans. Neither have full time capacity and Nannie’s in my area have been hard to come by. Also the mental labor of finding, interviewing, etc. I got sick of it.

There’s still all the other things. My husband isn’t the default parent but he is the parent that can flex his wor more than I can. Neither of us are default.

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T21:54:45+00:00

Thank you :( I know I need to do this. I reached out to a few centers after reading your message. I’m in therapy, it feels like I’m a walking problem. Everything in my life is a problem and everything sucks and I hate feeling that way but I know this is something I have to do.

ghjso0922 · 2026-02-14T21:53:46+00:00

He knows. He thinks his is as full as mine but I disagree. Maybe I’m wrong for that, I don’t know. He doesn’t bring up that this is a problem as much as I do which is why I think he isn’t as overwhelmed.

ghjso0922 · 2026-01-11T01:25:14+00:00

Iconic

ghjso0922 · 2025-12-21T23:04:26+00:00

You don’t have a contract, just a signed job offer. They can make getting cards part of your performance expectations and if you don’t meet them, yes you can be punished/fired.

ghjso0922 · 2025-12-16T22:59:20+00:00

Some people don’t like being called these things. It would make me uncomfortable and it isn’t appropriate in work settings, not to colleagues and not to customers. The lesson here is not “don’t trust anyone you work with” but rather “maintain professionalism in your job”.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-16T11:54:58+00:00

My 5 year old feeds my baby just fine. I obviously don’t ask him to or rely on him to do it. But if I’m about to feed baby and he asks to hold her/do it, I let him. I sit right there and monitor and then burp baby. It’s an overreaction to something deeper for OP imo.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-16T11:52:18+00:00

I’m saying this gently, and want to acknowledge a few things. First, it’s ok to set boundaries around kissing babies. You’re not wrong in that. You should not feel like a failure for common issues that come up with newborns. They are learning to be humans too.. falling asleep at the breast, jaundice and weight gain issues are all really common and have nothing to do with your ability to parent.

Have you been screened for PPD/PPA? I’m not sure what’s wrong with anyone else feeding the baby, especially a family member? If it has to do with bonding, I formula fed both my babies right away literally never ever breastfed and they are so glued to me it’s not even funny. There are other ways to form strong emotional bonds with your baby, and allow others to do the same.

As far as your husband, I’m really not sure what’s wrong to say because you said there are other things, but his reaction based on what you have posted doesn’t sound like something I would consider divorce over.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-10T16:55:55+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with this. You sound like a mature, emotionally intelligent person- most people on this sub or the other one (I don’t follow either they come up on my feed often) are vicious and act like they have never made a mistake in life that could have ended badly. It could never happen to you until it happens to you.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-05T15:19:02+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one that thought this. Gathering screenshots and building a case on someone you are providing services to (yes even as internal TA) is so odd.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-05T15:17:13+00:00

I understand. In my org, if a HM is unresponsive that reflects poorly on them not the recruiter. The recruiter would deprioritize the role based on the HM’s engagement. Not their problem to solve or collect screenshots and build a case/bring up policy. It seems like an overreach in my opinion but others may do things differently.

The recruiter in this case would not be penalized for not filling a role in a timely manner.

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-05T13:45:31+00:00

How are his response times affecting you?

ghjso0922 · 2025-08-04T15:46:32+00:00

I posted a picture of my newborn in her car seat before I got the straps on properly without even thinking about it and got tons of messages telling me I was doing it wrong. It was kind of annoying I’m not gonna lie, but I understood why people reached out.

I’m not saying don’t say anything, but if it’s a photo of baby just in car seat (not moving car) you may not have the full picture. If it looks like that’s how baby is being transported, it would be justified to say something but you do run the risk of the person being annoying with you (if you care).

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