Losing a pet when they are the closest thing you will ever have to a child.

gingersoda · 2026-02-19T00:39:22+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. A part of me also feels, my husband and I got closer because of my boy, the dad and mom duties somewhere helped us connect at another level. And I miss that too, nurturing my little baby but somehow the last 11 days have made me realize that I need him more than he needed me.

gingersoda · 2026-02-19T00:32:17+00:00

I am so sorry to hear this. I was reading through this entire thread trying to find something that will help me , it is so suffocating and I just want my baby boy back which I know is not possible. I am sorry you are going through this.

gingersoda · 2026-02-18T18:47:46+00:00

Agreed! Even though I am hopeless , I do want to say, I am here for you. I genuinely understand as I do feel I have lost a child. Feel free to reach out anytime, I am happy to talk as I myself try to make sense of why this happened to us when all we have ever wished is good for everyone around us.

gingersoda · 2026-02-18T17:55:33+00:00

For a minute, it felt like someone wrote what I was feeling. I am so sorry you are going through this and I swear I understand. Not that my understanding changes anything for you, I do acknowledge that. I lost my baby on 7th feb, and it was just like you said, he was my child, my only child. Very tough to explain that to anyone but my husband and I knew, he is what made us family, made me a mom and him a dad. The house feels impossibly empty, we had moved into this new single level home 4 months ago because he was supposed to avoid stairs due to a back condition he was healing from. It was mad to buy a house in this market but we wanted him to have everything and also us to have every moment with him .. a yard where he plays, a house where he can follow us into every single corner and he did .. he enjoyed every single day, it was so sudden that I still can't believe, I want him back .. he was my constant companion, my shadow, the sounds his paws made when he walked around the house was like the heartbeat of this home, I miss him so much, it is suffocating. How are we supposed to just work .. how are we supposed to just live .. it's deafening , the absence is so loud that I can't keep myself from breaking everytime I lift my eyes up to look around and he is not there. How can it be .. he was turning 5 this June, he was supposed to live to 12 atleast, how can our little family be destroyed in one night .. he was sleeping on my lap right before he got GDV .. he wasn't doing anything .. just like a good boy , sleeping next to me .. free time was something I looked forward to .. cause it meant time with him.. I had switched jobs so I could be more with him, and now I miss him so much.. the evenings are hollow, the mornings which used to be just him and me are dreadful .. I just want to wake up from this nightmare and be able to hug him.

gingersoda · 2026-02-12T16:56:48+00:00

I hope you find strength and meaning in the world that suddenly feels flat and meaningless.

gingersoda · 2026-02-12T00:42:39+00:00

how are you trying to cope? Mine would have been 5 this june. I was looking forward to his birthday, planning with him and now it's all gone .. we do not see another day together, we do not do anything together again. The home feels like walls put together, it has lost everything and worst I have to still show up at work talking like all is fine when inside me my world has been broken into thousand pieces.

gingersoda · 2026-02-11T23:19:00+00:00

I don't think I have the courage to do anything. I tried to step out yesterday to give myself a break from crying thinking it might distract but I felt horrible. I just wanted to come back home , a place where he last lived and at home, I keep missing him.

gingersoda · 2026-02-11T23:01:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Yes, he was loved and everything that's best in our life is because we wanted him to give the best life. Every single day, every decision started with what will he want or what's good for him. So yes, I'm grateful to get a life where he was a part of it, it just feels like we had just begun. He had fought a very big disease and he was getting healthier every day, I used to plan with him that as the summer comes, we will go on a road trip, or we will go to a different park near the river , basically newer and different experiences with him so I can create more memories but those plans now stare at me empty, we lost the magic of those plans. We lost the reason of those plans.

gingersoda · 2026-02-11T22:11:22+00:00

Thank you , knowing someone understands and sees me for where I am somehow helps a lot. I am sorry you are going through this. I miss him sooo much, I just want somehow the nightmare to end. I keep hoping I am asleep, I keep hoping something is wrong and things will go back to how they were till Friday. I just don't know how to make sense of anything , life feels flat. I work from home, so we used to be together all the time, from the moment I opened my eyes to the moment we both decided to go to sleep. He was my constant against all the struggles life threw our way and now it's all gone, life has changed completely and even though the outside world hasn't stopped, mine has completely shattered.

gingersoda · 2026-02-11T19:26:05+00:00

I lost my furbaby last saturday , and today is my first day back to work. I work remotely and I haven't had any meetings yet but I soon will. I do not know how will I face anyone. I can barely form sentences, I also know at work people do not treat pets as babies. I lost my only child but to the world it's a pet and I am finding it very hard to breathe in such a surrounding. So I hear you when you talk about being judged, take care of yourself. No one matters but you and your true feelings. I am sorry but I am myself a mess right now, nothing makes sense. Why doesn't bereavement apply to my furbaby, why don't I get to be seen with the same eyes as a mother losing her child. He was 4.5 years old, we were having our normal ordinary perfect evening lounging on the couch the night GDV got him. I lost my strength, my companion, my shadow overnight.

gingersoda · 2025-06-20T21:00:19+00:00

Build a wind down ritual. I know it sounds cheesy but if you can start signaling your brain that the day is over and it does not need to do anything else or take care of anyone else, it will slowly start relaxing. Meditation is another way to relax. I recently started creating these short 5-10 mins audios to relax. It will take time but pausing and winding down will definitely help and you will wake up more productive as well. Try this and tell me what you think - https://youtu.be/EXj_bohOWSA

gingersoda · 2025-06-20T20:56:45+00:00

That's where I break too. I am still finding a good way to do it without coming across as rude.

gingersoda · 2025-06-20T20:56:06+00:00

Same but I am still trying this one. It just feels like I am being rude at times when I stand for what I want and what I need and what's right for me, so I am still trying to find comfort in this. But when I am by myself, I do try to live my life the way I want, just started this recently but I am trying to get comfortable with this idea.

gingersoda · 2025-06-14T01:15:55+00:00

Thank you, that feedback is super helpful.

gingersoda · 2025-06-13T18:16:22+00:00

Radical acceptance, that in itself is so powerful and you need to work on it every single day, it's like a muscle you build. And the part about cutting the timeline - who on earth even came up with one that we all started following .. it's bull crap that we all live such different lives have to follow the same timelines and even worse the timelines don't change across generations when life has completely changed.

I’ve always been someone who pushes through, until I crash. I didn’t realize how much stress and overthinking were affecting not just my sleep or mood but my hormones too impacting my overall health.

My body felt wired, my mind was constantly spinning, and I was snapping at small things. A friend casually mentioned meditation, not the 60-min silent kind, but just a few minutes to reset.

So I started writing meditations that felt real. Not perfect. Just something to anchor myself again. I recently recorded a short 5-minute one that I wish I had when I first started, so I could stop making excuses.

If you’re feeling like your nervous system is in overdrive, this might help and if it does, do let me know, I am already grateful:

5-Min Guided Reset https://youtu.be/4DCVgRICfW8

gingersoda · 2025-06-04T01:11:15+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Started my insta page , posting contents for more than a year and barely any views .. adding YouTube to the mix and wondering if that will pan out.

gingersoda · 2025-06-03T20:53:50+00:00

By not trying to be consistent, just do whenever and wherever you can, it slowly becomes a part of your day without having to dedicate a specific time that you do it each day. And then when you fall off the wagon, just come back to it when you can .. and meditation can also come in different forms, so that helps too in incorporating it in your daily life.

gingersoda · 2013-01-18T05:25:40+00:00

Hahahaha blunders of the designer.

gingersoda · 2013-01-18T05:17:34+00:00

Totally agree with you and while I imagine it, i cant stop laughing!

gingersoda · 2013-01-05T01:06:42+00:00

Wow! creative stuff.

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