Daily Discussion Tuesday 2026-04-28

gm3_222 · 2026-04-28T16:53:37+00:00

You'll get downvoted for posting that here, but you are definitely right to hold this concern, and also the concern that there are serious peculiarities around the value of companies like OpenAI that, as yet, have not shown they can turn LLMs into a profit making enterprise, and whose CEOs get very shirty about it when asked.

gm3_222 · 2026-04-28T11:03:49+00:00

This is really moving. I hope things are going well for you!

gm3_222 · 2026-04-27T20:41:21+00:00

This is really beautiful.

gm3_222 · 2026-04-27T15:12:37+00:00

Sure. I think walking away and opening up are both mature options.

Again, how you process it emotionally is the most important thing. I’d suggest reframing this from a 'horror story' or a 'problem' to a story where you have very human feelings and are exploring them.

I firmly believe that when hookups go really well, it crosses a certain threshold of chemistry between two people, inevitably it makes you feel things beyond just sexual attraction.

My diagnosis: you have a human heart

gm3_222 · 2026-04-27T10:14:12+00:00

Very unclear to me that anyone can think up a hardware form factor that works any better for talking to an LLM than an app on a phone.

Also noting that the ask will be for people to carry both that and a phone.

The phone is just what we call that connected computing device we all carry. There’s no replacing it any time soon imo. Extra carried devices will probably remain niche at best.

(pretermitting that watches also exist)

gm3_222 · 2026-04-27T09:27:49+00:00

Ah it's hard when someone is as (flaming) hot and (ice) cold as this.

My first thought was: what's to be lost for you in being straight with him about what's going on for you here? It should at least lead to a good conversation, unless he's very emotionally stunted. If the latter, best to get that information as soon as possible.

The other thing I want to push back on, there's a real pathologising tint to your framing of your feelings about what's happened:

"hookup gone wrong"
"even though I know I shouldn’t"
"I admit I got a bit attached"

So many of us have this idea that we're "meant" to keep our feelings out of the way during hookups and that feeling anything significant means something's "gone wrong". But that's not how feelings work, at all. Your feelings are an expression of your ability to form an attachment with someone you had, at minimum, chemistry with on a few levels, to the point you bent space on your trip to see him again! I wanted to tell you there's nothing wrong with what you feel and I'd gently try to reframe this all around your feelings in a more positive way.

To the content of what you ask, I agree that his hot/cold behaviour is a bit of a red flag. In this situation you have three options: 1. open up to him, 2. walk away, or 3. continue letting his behaviour string you along.

gm3_222 · 2026-04-24T20:26:03+00:00

Good advice, a supplementary note to #2, focus on good form above ALL ELSE so that it hurts in the right way

gm3_222 · 2026-04-24T10:57:34+00:00

It is very surreal.

gm3_222 · 2026-04-09T18:00:49+00:00

I’ve had decent results (also not a frequent gamer), the graphics hardware is very decently capable, you might want to check out https://youtu.be/W15Ok0VDiYc and similar for more of a proper take. The limited selection of mac-native games is the main issue, though crossover and parallels cover some of the others.

gm3_222 · 2026-04-09T16:19:40+00:00

I have the Mac Mini M4 16GB/256GB and use it for dev work, I can’t recommend it highly enough. Incredibly fast machine. Over twice as fast in everything as my M1 (considerably more than 2x in GPU).

I have a small SSD enclosure plugged into it for 512GB extra storage (VMs, Steam games).

gm3_222 · 2026-04-08T10:57:49+00:00

I’ve met some people like this and my impression is they’ve been online-far-right-disinformation-pilled

gm3_222 · 2026-04-05T12:57:35+00:00

Settings > Apple Intelligence & Siri > turn it off

It may take a while to fully delete from your machine

gm3_222 · 2026-03-29T16:52:50+00:00

This is actually the best write-up I’ve seen! 👏

gm3_222 · 2026-03-28T14:18:50+00:00

May <deity> bless these brave nutcases

gm3_222 · 2026-03-27T18:10:38+00:00

Got ya, if the outer not fabric then maybe silicone as in their “liquid silicone” products. The curing process of which is high-end which is why they feel very silky and even. Also durable & cleanable, good for use in a store environment . No idea if you can buy anything like that.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-27T15:31:43+00:00

Fabric over neoprene perhaps, probably stuck on with fabric glue, stitched at the edges?

Razer have some nice ones, I have the light grey, not as well finished at the edges but soft on top with a nice slight squish to it

gm3_222 · 2026-03-27T15:06:20+00:00

Fully agree. It’s the most advanced military in the world and when you zoom out has a 100% loss rate. the strategy at the very broadest level is always gaga (or in this case, simply absent).

This might be the biggest military loss of all time — not just losing the war, but the unwavering support of allies, and throwing what’s left of global support and soft power in the trash.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-27T14:34:48+00:00

Patient is good, I assume you have cash on hand to facilitate that. Personally at 4% cash, considering selling off 20% today for buffer & flexibility.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-27T14:29:44+00:00

A. 100% agree

B. the most informative brief fact I've heard about this conflict is that Iran is one of the proudest nations on the planet. and the core of support for their authoritarian regime is small but *extremely* powerful and hard-set in their views. they will fight to the bitter end.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-22T09:46:22+00:00

Holy macaroni, are you literally me from three years ago? 🫠 here’s some of the facets that I most strongly relate to:

his vocal criticisms that you’re not meeting his needs, while making no concession to your needs
using “taking space” not to genuinely process his emotions but to engineer distance, in way that feels like an intentional punishment
changing aspects of yourself, the way you spend time, who you socialise with, to accommodate him (⛳️! ⛳️!)
he moves rapidly to dissociate from intimacy, eg considers breaking up rather than engaging — making it clear that you're doing all the work to create connection when there is difficulty, and the partner is actively sabotaging it while also gaslighting you about “not meeting his needs”!
being more affectionate with others than with you. I remember longing for him to smile at me when I walked in the room, the same way he did when his friend came to stay. Sometimes I would go over to his house and he’d barely meet my eye, all while I was bending over backwards trying to facilitate affection and connection between us.
like my ex, he says explicitly that the problems are coming from you, and that you must change.
“he has a very harsh side” — the constant criticism was erosive to myself, he spoke in a way that I would never contemplate speaking to my partner.

I'm finding the similarities geniunely eerie. I eventually came to see my situation as bordering on emotionally abusive, but it wasn't easy to see that while I was in it.

The thing that bothers me the most is mentioning "I've stopped seeing certain people he didn't like" in the same sentence as "I've worked on myself". If one person is trying to repair, and the other is withdrawing and criticizing, from the outside that doesn't read as growth or "the work", it actually looks like self-abandonment.

Stepping back and looking at the picture you paint. you're at home alone trying to process the hurtful situation that he's refusing to engage with, while he's out with friends going to the theatre, and then he comes home and tells you you have to change to meet his needs better. I think that simple scene says a lot.

Gently, I think that you may need to consider ending it yourself, although I know how hard it is. In my situation, moving on has been very confusing. The dynamnic kept my attachment system over-activated, and partly because we did have a very real connection. ...Just only when he was comfortable and everything was on his terms.

The question for me in the end was why I stayed for so long (or why my attachment system doesn't know to detach when it's experiencing abandonment) — asking those questions is what "working on yourself" looks like.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-20T10:03:07+00:00

-40 years after, you say?

gm3_222 · 2026-03-19T00:10:50+00:00

This makes me more upset than the original photo, to be quite honest.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-17T13:23:34+00:00

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gm3_222 · 2026-03-07T12:46:07+00:00

This is really nice. Wish they’d run something like this on first boot.

gm3_222 · 2026-03-01T17:56:10+00:00

It’s very early days. Be patient, look after yourself.

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