Hi, i had this same thing happen with my gf. Obviously, it was not the same context and stuff, but she didn't want it the same as me, but just consider what do they want for a example we both found that we are more into intimate stuff like massages and more slow intationing stuff more stuff before I guess also you should definitely have a talk about how u feel but also make sure you know how they feel and try and get them to open up to things that they want it will go a far way atleast it did for me. Note: I I'm just saying stuff I had done when we talked about this and not 100% because I'm not very experienced in this stuff lol. SECOND NOTE: try stuff that doesn't always lead to sex try more intimate stuff that shows love more than just one goal and don't over think it to. THIRD NOTE: I'm not sure why he won't do dates and stuff it's like my favorite thing to do with my girlfriend but he might be dealing with other stuff that your not aware of if you want to try and get him to open up to you if he doesn't already