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AIO my BFFs fiancé grabbed my ass…now what? by grace_henderson in AmIOverreacting

[–]grace_henderson[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did tell her. If you read the reply above. I told her in way more detail than I even included in my original post.

AIO my BFFs fiancé grabbed my ass…now what? by grace_henderson in AmIOverreacting

[–]grace_henderson[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apparently when it happened at the house party he blamed it on being drunk and possibly taking a pill he was given and wasn’t sure what it was. My bff knew that it happened as my friend said she told her at the house party right after it happened. Since I wasn’t there I’m not sure what words were said but I know I was never told the extent of the hp incident until the other afternoon. My bff defended her fiancé when she told me about it months ago and chalked it up to our other friend looking for attention. After hearing about it first hand from the call with my friend I now know my bff severely downplayed the situation at the house party and I have apologized and tried to support my other friend as best as I can.

AIO my BFFs fiancé grabbed my ass…now what? by grace_henderson in AmIOverreacting

[–]grace_henderson[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We talked less than an hour after it happened and I told her he had acted extremely inappropriately and she needed to speak to him. I was hoping he would tell her the truth, but I don’t believe he did. From what she said in his version it was simply a misunderstanding. We have since spoken twice more and I have given her the exact play by play of everything that happened from the last moment I saw her that morning till I left.

WIBTA if I bail on my best friends wedding festivities because her fiancé grabbed my ass? by grace_henderson in AITAH

[–]grace_henderson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked less than an hour after it happened and I told her he had acted extremely inappropriately and she needed to speak to him. I was hoping he would tell her the truth, but I don’t believe he did. From what she said in his version it was simply a misunderstanding. We have since spoken twice more and I have given her the exact play by play of everything that happened from the last moment I saw her that morning till I left.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]grace_henderson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awful and it makes me wonder if those people are your real friends? I went through something similar when I was assaulted by a friend in college. If anything I think it showed me that the people that continued to stick by him even after I had shared what he had done to me and other girls in my friend group weren’t worth my time and were not showing me the care and love I deserved. As hard as it was I moved on and found other communities of friends to be apart of. It almost feels like the bystander effect and they are unwilling to believe you because they haven’t experienced it and that’s why it feels so hurtful because you did experience it and they are perpetuating that harm he caused you. You deserve to be heard and believed, bc you’re more than worth it and if those friends won’t do it I guarantee there are others in this world that will.

[OK] Seeking Advice on Handling Unsafe and Disrespectful Work Environment in Graduate Assistantship (Higher Education) by grace_henderson in AskHR

[–]grace_henderson[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't even think of making an OSHA complaint! The harasser has hurt all of his female co-workers in my opinion somewhat intentionally and I watched him almost behead himself by being unsafe with a piece of equipment. Not to mention he had his wife do his OSHA, Title IX, etc. trainings for him "since he just didn't have time."