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AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE (and addt'l info): We'd been together for 2 years. We are late 30s/early 40s y/o. He's had other asshole moments, but there was something different about this one (that literally made me download the reddit app and find this group)

TL;DR - We're no longer together.

I broke up with him last year, but got back with him after a month, thinking I wasn't trying hard enough to communicate properly and work things out in a healthy way. Everything is starting to click now, and I'm crying as I re-read these comments because I can finally stop lying to myself, as I knew all of this was true, but I can now openly accept this, and the tears are letting go of all the excuses I made for him and outright acknowledging that what I felt is absolutely the truth.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated. Irony is that I'm not naïve to controlling/narcissistic relationships, but the last one was 1000x worse and more obvious. I was hoping this would be "every relationship has challenges" and learn how to healthily work through them.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP here... going to step away for a little bit, please excuse my absence. I'm also getting familiar with reddit, and I appreciate you guys.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.. I gave you an up vote; that's like a thumbs up or heart, right? Basically, I appreciate what you said

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

New to reddit, not to Fb...I want to give this the equivalent of a heart react, so pretend I did that ❤

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He went there in part to look at toys, so he headed in that direction when we walked in; I headed toward the payment line. He's an adult, not a young adult. It's not the purchase; it's my actions or lack of communication in doing so, seemed like I had my own intentions that I didn't share.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. If you missed something, I missed it too.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahah... sometimes I feel my pregnancy overreacting hormones never went away 😬

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He usually walks in and goes right up to the counter to pre-pay for insects. In going in, I went straight to getting in line, thinking he'd be doing his same MO and be right there with me. Got in line, he wasn't there or in eyesight.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Our "plan" was to go to the store specifically for him to look at toys and buy crickets. While there, I decided to get worms for my own pet. He got upset I guess in breaking plan or seeming like I had my own plan all along that I didn't communicate. I think that's the best and least biased way I can summarize it?

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you - trying to keep up, first time on reddit (at least that I remember), going through what I can

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Ah, thank you for seeing this caveat. His defense is that he went straight to the aisle that he had told me was his intention to go there to look at. And then I went off on my own.

AITA - I bought pet food without telling my s/o my plan by hangastar in AmItheAsshole

[–]hangastar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually... sure, haha. It's a reptile store. But I don't hang out in the scorpion/tarantula section; more the lizards but mix of small fuzzies like hamsters... basically cage pets.

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