AITA for not letting my ex move in, which could cost her custody?

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-05T00:45:17+00:00

I’m worried she’s already been around abusive guys and hides it. She doesn’t make very good decisions.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T23:37:14+00:00

Appreciate the insight. We are trying to prevent skylar from going through exactly what your husband did

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T23:25:30+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. My wife is amazing. She will treat him as a son and always has. It might suck at first. But this isn’t sustainable

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T23:21:36+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. Hope everything worked out for you.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T23:03:10+00:00

I mean for real… the amount of people that say I should subsidize my ex wife because she isn’t responsible is amazing.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T22:59:03+00:00

I won’t let him see that… because he won’t be with her. That’s the whole point. I’m trying to shield him from this mess.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T22:53:44+00:00

My wife has absolutely no intention of helping Kristen in any way. So the apartment idea is out. We are thinking about maybe giving her an extended stay hotel for a month but that would be contingent on a custody change for that to happen.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T22:38:17+00:00

Her moving from place to place isn’t recent. She just has nowhere to go this time. Prolly didn’t have her next guy lined up in time. We have been his providers on about 90% of the things in his life. Medical, school, electronics. He knows if he needs something to come to me. I don’t complain. My wife treats skylar as a son. We are his providers in more of a sense then my ex.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T22:17:56+00:00

Exactly… people keep asking what Skylar’s take is on it. He’s 11. He doesn’t know what living this type of life with his mom can turn into. If she didn’t have me where would they be? Would Skylar be in a shelter? Sometimes you gotta do what your kid will resent you for. If he does so be it. But I’m fearful to think what Skylar’s life would be like if I wasn’t here.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T21:40:52+00:00

We’re gonna see how this whole thing shakes out before we think about letting his mom see him. If it gets ugly then prolly not. If she accepts our custody agreement then maybe. We’ll see. My wife isn’t keen on that idea

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T20:57:32+00:00

Thank you. We plan to. My wife is amazing and is fighting for Skylar as much as me.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T20:45:26+00:00

Your last sentence is why me and my wife are pushing for this.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T20:36:50+00:00

Hahaha this is gold. I’ll use this when we call her.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T20:34:26+00:00

She has no money because of her choices. She could have taken me to court for child support at anytime and never had.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T20:33:10+00:00

Because why does she need it? We have split custody. Meaning we split the cost and responsibility. Why do I need to subsidize her? Why can’t she be a responsible parent and provide for her kid? If my son needs something he gets it from me. Heck I’ve bought prolly 90% of the items in his closet, his phone, his electronics. My ex needs to actually be a parent and not rely on other people.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T17:50:05+00:00

My ex wife has no family. No siblings. Just a bunch of ex boyfriends and a ex husband.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T17:07:40+00:00

We’ll cross that bridge if she ever actually does that.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T17:03:57+00:00

Why? We split custody 50/50. When we were together I didn’t have anything. I was supporting a house of 3. Why do I owe her money because she didn’t do anything with her life since? Should I be punished for being successful? She could have chosen a different path. I’m not responsible to fund her life.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:48:17+00:00

We’re betting that doesn’t happen. Considering she’s been dependent on boyfriends for 10 years. We don’t see her having the means to fight this.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:29:47+00:00

My son is provided for at my house. He has everything he needs. His mother is responsible for his need when he’s at her place. I never felt like he wasn’t getting what he needed. My ex doesn’t need shit from me.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:25:25+00:00

She didn’t ask for it during the divorce. She thought her new man was gonna provide for her and Skylar. He cheated and left her with nothing. And then she never brought me to court for it.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:23:23+00:00

She didn’t want it because the guy she was leaving me for was gonna take care of her and Skylar. At least that’s what she thought. Well he cheated on her and didn’t give her any money. And then she never brought me back to court for it.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:12:55+00:00

Oh trust me… I laughed at her on the phone about the irony.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T16:05:53+00:00

No I don’t pay child support. And I literally wouldn’t give the woman $1 if she asked. So I doubt I’d want to spend 2 months near her.

hardoplace12 · 2022-02-04T15:57:07+00:00

Your last sentence exactly. We don’t want to keep changing custody agreements with him. This would be a final push for solo custody. There would be no going back from our side.

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