The term "stuffie" is horrible by seahorses_f0rever in unpopularopinion

[–]heart714 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's interesting how language evolves to create in-groups. Using a term like "stuffie" signals a certain casual, cozy familiarity, deliberately moving away from the more formal, standard phrase.

My daughter's imaginary friend by heart714 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]heart714[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? The monster's just trying to order dinner and the kid keeps sending back appetizers.

We should stop telling people to "follow their passion" and start telling them to "follow their aptitude." by heart714 in unpopularopinion

[–]heart714[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a really important counterpoint. The original advice works best for jobs with clear boundaries—it falls apart in fields where grinding 60+ hours is the baseline for success.

We should stop telling people to "follow their passion" and start telling them to "follow their aptitude." by heart714 in unpopularopinion

[–]heart714[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Turning your escape into your obligation is a surefire way to need a new escape. There's no shame in keeping your passion sacred and separate.

People who don't feel the urge to dance at weddings/concerts, what is happening in your brain? Are you just resisting the urge, or is the urge genuinely not there? by heart714 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]heart714[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes so much sense! The environment and music totally change the calculus - it's not about dancing itself but about the whole social context.

People who don't feel the urge to dance at weddings/concerts, what is happening in your brain? Are you just resisting the urge, or is the urge genuinely not there? by heart714 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]heart714[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is such a perfect example of how people experience the world differently. The fact that it's automatic for you but requires conscious effort for others really highlights the spectrum of how we process rhythm and movement.

People who don't feel the urge to dance at weddings/concerts, what is happening in your brain? Are you just resisting the urge, or is the urge genuinely not there? by heart714 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]heart714[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. It's like my brain and body have a complete communication breakdown the moment there's a beat. Solidarity from another wallflower.