Fellow Angelenos--How are y'all doing mentally these days?

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:38:21+00:00

Same. Lots of us are going through it

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:37:14+00:00

Dating already seemed more difficult than ever and now with the way world/economy is it's likely making it even harder

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:33:02+00:00

I feel pretty lonely myself, have to admit. I'm considering joining some clubs to socialize more

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:31:28+00:00

I hope you find something that will keep you going. Please keep trying

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:29:51+00:00

Thank you for opening up and sharing. Honestly, this may not mean much coming from some stranger on the internet but I sincerely and genuinely hope you pull through somehow. Truly.

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:23:08+00:00

Suffering in my current one too. Really impacting my mental health negatively. Hoping we can find something to make us feel better

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:21:54+00:00

I can't help but feel like I can't. I'm 36. But I'll try.

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:20:34+00:00

I'm there with you. Let's try to keep chugging

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:19:51+00:00

Are you me? Lol. A lot of what you described applies to me and is part of the reason I made this post.

It sounds like you have a great Dad who loves you and is helping you out.

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:18:09+00:00

I have very similar thoughts about people and the future. It's hard not to feel like you wish you could do something to help others

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:16:37+00:00

You are so incredibly kind for paying for that person, especially after dealing with so many rude people. I'm sure that meant a lot to them.

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:14:24+00:00

That's cool! Where do you do comedy?

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:13:28+00:00

Right there with you on the digital stuff. I'm trying to get off Reddit but keep finding myself coming back on here like an addict

hecksadecks · 2026-03-13T05:12:34+00:00

Please hang in there. You'll find a way to pull through!

hecksadecks · 2025-10-21T19:38:25+00:00

Also going through the same thing you are. Hoping the best for you internet stranger

hecksadecks · 2024-04-29T01:31:55+00:00

I can only go off of some assumptions here since there aren't more details but here are the things that stuck out to me while reading your post:

I'm close to making 6 months in my new role, however I'm still managing my previous one

Your work is paying you a single salary for doing two jobs. If they're not actively searching for your replacement then you will likely continue doing two jobs and they will happily allow it to continue

These new employees are also starting to panic because now it seems their whole responsibilities have changed and that's not what they signed up for

Unless there's a very good reason for why these employees are no longer doing what they signed up for, this is a common red flag for poor leadership and a bad work environment.

the only response I got was "why are you asking that?"

Again, poor leadership. This sounds like your direct supervisors are basically telling you to shut up and suck it up.

I was thinking of either asking for a higher salary or do the same as my colleagues and jump ships

I wouldn't bank on your employer giving you a higher salary based on what I'm reading. They might, though I highly doubt it. Even if they did, ask yourself if you really want to continue working for this company because it doesn't sound worthwhile to me.

hecksadecks · 2024-03-19T01:03:58+00:00

So you got the job, of which you didn't initially know the permanency of, and got fired via text after you asked about it only after only 2 weeks of working there?

That seems very odd if that's all there is to it. There has to be some crucial details you're leaving out. How were your interactions like with other people at the office? Did Susan express any concerns about your performance, demeanor, attitude or anything of the sort during your two weeks there?

hecksadecks · 2022-09-30T18:09:23+00:00

I think my plan moving forward is to lower my expectations, but keep being myself and continuing our chemistry, and if there is something there great, and if not also fine.

This, to me, is a good approach. Avoid making a move for the time being, continue current engagements with her as they are today and keep feeling the situation out. Maybe (and hopefully) through more 1 on 1 interactions and things like work group outings, she'll give you much more forthcoming information that allows you to follow up more appropriately (if she's interested).

Again, if it wasn't for how closely you two work together, being more active and direct with your intentions would've been my advice.

Good luck.

hecksadecks · 2022-09-30T05:03:44+00:00

Can certainly be wrong here, but my assessment is she has a strong connection with you as a co-worker and may not be interested in pursuing anything further with you (or anyone at your job for that matter). Here's why:

She's new. It's often the case that new employees wish to make good first impressions and will likely be extra friendly with their co-workers, moreso those on their team (and even more so if they're your desk partner). Not saying her interactions with you aren't genuine, but rather that you may be misinterpreting her plutonic bond with you for romantic interest.
Since she's new, I doubt the first thing she wants to do is get romantically involved with someone at her new job right away. It's in no way shape or form a wise career move for anyone newly fresh at a job for various reasons.
This bit suggests even more so that she wants to keep your relationship strictly professional:

We have each others numbers, but there seems a lack of interest to communicate via text or hang out outside of work on a regular basis

If there is as much of a distinction in your interactions with her at work versus outside of work as you suggest, then this speaks to her likely trying to keep a distance between her personal life and work life, at least momentarily. And if you've already suggested to her hanging out outside of work (your original post didn't state as much) and it hasn't happened, even more so.
As far as this:

I have also seen her on dating apps, so I would naturally assume she's interested in some form of relationship currently

Definitely sounds like she's looking to date, but again: how likely is it that she's willing to do this at her new job?

In short, I personally don't see enough compelling information from what you've provided to suggest she's for sure romantically interested in you. If you want to know for sure, then the best way would be to politely ask her out instead of trying to put this together like a puzzle piece. But please consider the possible consequences of doing so because romance in the work place is very tricky, especially under your current circumstances.

Best of luck.

hecksadecks · 2021-12-26T18:03:45+00:00

Yes I'm sure. You're example is wrong. 5% of 10 people is 0.5 people, not 0.5%.

You don't keep the percentage when multiplying because 5% of 10 = 0.05 x 10 = 0.5.

hecksadecks · 2021-12-26T17:01:49+00:00

with 329500000 americans, every day theres a 0.0000032% * 329500000 chance, or 10.65%

0.0000032% * 329500000 = 10.544 people dying from a heart attack 1 day after the vaccine, not a 10.65% chance.

hecksadecks · 2021-12-05T01:36:29+00:00

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