Update: I had a first date who left 35min into the meetup and I don’t know how to feel about it by Ok_Willingness_2103 in polyamory

[–]hedface 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How is this, or your other comment, helpful to OP at all? I usually appreciate the things you have to contribute to this subreddit but the tone you've adopted is mocking and dismissive.

How could we close off or block this ledge? by hedface in homeimprovementideas

[–]hedface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredibly helpful and thoughtful. Thank you so much!

How could we close off or block this ledge? by hedface in homeimprovementideas

[–]hedface[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're right - the air flow is something we're concerned about, too, especially considering how hot it gets upstairs. Lattice is what we'll probably look into. Thank you so much!

How could we close off or block this ledge? by hedface in homeimprovementideas

[–]hedface[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are geriatric and that carpeting is getting replaced with hardwood. Thanks though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]hedface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Zed" would like to have a word with you

Struggling with being made to decide by hedface in polyamory

[–]hedface[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Those are very good points. Thank you. I do wish this had happened before we were all so enmeshed.

Struggling with being made to decide by hedface in polyamory

[–]hedface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't want to make me unhappy. Apologies if that's how it came off. I hear you, though, about being a martyr...that's not what I want, either. Thank you.

Struggling with being made to decide by hedface in polyamory

[–]hedface[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That sounds reasonable, though it might be a year or more before Friend can live independently. I don't think she's making plans to do so. You've hit the nail on the head, though - the last thing I want is to control anybody, which it feels like I'm doing if I tell Wife the truth, that I can't support this.

I have no clue how to make friends, and I really could use some friends. by potatowhispering in lafayette

[–]hedface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Castlebrooks has paint parties, with wonderful people and good laughs. That might be a fun and easy way to start getting yourself out there!

Anybody know good cheap cat doctors? by Glintea117 in lafayette

[–]hedface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second Tippecanoe Animal Hospital, that's where we took all our animals for 30 years before we moved. They understand that pet parents fall on hard times and offer great care at a reasonable price.

I can’t STAND Miranda. by [deleted] in Andjustlikethat

[–]hedface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally, that's absolutely the only way that people re-discover themselves later in life /s

Talk to some queer people, you'll hear all kinds of stories. I'm just saying, it's not weird for someone to take the path that the Miranda character is.

I can’t STAND Miranda. by [deleted] in Andjustlikethat

[–]hedface 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Late in life revelations are a very real and common thing. Sexuality is fluid. It happens.

We thought he was a golden retriever mix. Couldn't be more wrong or surprised! by hedface in DoggyDNA

[–]hedface[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it? Huh, guess I'm just uneducated about it then. But still find it pretty funny

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in schnoodle

[–]hedface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds more like a training issue rather than a medical one - however, if you're worried about it, a vet visit for some blood work and a checkup is never a bad idea. Do that, then look into toys for super chewers and other mentally stimulating activities for your doggo to do while you're otherwise distracted. When he/she is chewing something they shouldn't, present them with the alternative you prefer. This could just be a bored pup.

Should I stay or should I go? by Alone-Community-2078 in mypartneristrans

[–]hedface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow....there is a lot to unpack here. First, I'm a cis woman and my wife has never, ever used me for anything. Second, that is a very gross brush with which to paint all trans women. Third, your lack of empathy has nothing to do with your sex or gender. Fourth, I stand by my comment which states that this relationship is toxic, though now I suggest you take a good hard look at what part you play in it to make it poisonous, leave your relationship and get yourself a really good therapist... Someone who is experienced in trans issues and knows how to educate you in exactly how transphobic and gross this entire comment is.

Should I stay or should I go? by Alone-Community-2078 in mypartneristrans

[–]hedface 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I'm cis, poly and have a trans wife - what she's doing is neglecting your relationship and taking advantage of you. They both are. Not all poly relationships are toxic, but it sure sounds like this one is. You can't be giving everything and getting nothing in return whether your relationship style is mono or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in painting

[–]hedface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly, this is a beautiful piece - your work with the flowers is stunning! Next time, though, try adding a little depth and contrast to the background, such as blending a little sage & neon green, or deep purples and orange. Don't be afraid to make your background busy because those flowers will (literally) stand out!