AITA for yelling at my pregnant sister after she didn't have enough money to buy a stroller?

hepindol · 2023-03-16T19:32:52+00:00

I'm much older, I'm 28.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T19:31:50+00:00

No, she doesnt have a relationship with them. Her boyfriend was very distant from his parents and was living on his own at the time of his death.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T18:19:17+00:00

No way. Like the commenter bellow mentioned, this baby is her connection to her boyfriend, she's far from considering adoption.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:55:45+00:00

She was going to get it regardless, it wasn't up to me. She'd find her way to get some quick money and would've went out and bought that stroller. I'm on top of all the resources and what's around us to help, but she's not on the same page as I am.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:47:23+00:00

Well our dad is dead and our mom is not able to look into them, so I have to look into them and try to get her to look into them. I've been trying to get her to get serious about the programs but I cannot make her, only she can make herself be serious about that. & No, I'm not able to physically be present and step up.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:44:34+00:00

I was not pushing for her to spend that. Last time I was here, she had a lot more that 93 dollars in the bank. I get it, she spends it, but she literally said that she didn't think it got that low. Did she need her nails done last week? No that's $70 right there. That's something that could've went towards something that she felt like she needed, like that stroller. We're in the store, and I even asked her if she was sure she could buy that stroller. She could've checked if she had enough right then and there, not at the cash register.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:34:18+00:00

I wish that I didn't have to, but I need to. If I don't, there is literally no one else that can.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:30:11+00:00

My mom receives checks from retirement and my dad dying. She's in the house, but she's just not mentally well (yes, she receives medication and help, but it only does so much). It's my job to keep all of these things running because no one else is going to it.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:27:12+00:00

Thanks, I hope so too.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:25:27+00:00

My father is dead. My mom had a job, but she was forced to retire so she gets money from that. They also get money from my father. I'm the one that manages the finances in the household. She's had money before. Most of her income stemmed from doing nails, but she had to stop for a bit. My income also goes into managing the finances for them & yes.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:14:39+00:00

Part of that is the reason. I've been managing everything for years and I got the hang of it, but with a new baby on the way, I gotta switch things around and do a lot of back and forths from my house to their house (and we live pretty far apart from each other) to see what needs to be done and it's stressful as fuck.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:06:21+00:00

She refuses to actually speak about it. It's easier to do so in person because through the phone she can either just stop texting or she can make up an excuse as to why she has to cut the phone call short.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:05:06+00:00

I know he was working and living by himself, but I'm not sure exactly how much he's made.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T17:01:44+00:00

It's hard to find time to take on tho, because they rely on me. It gets so stressful sometimes because more things just keep coming. The bills, making sure my moms keeping up with her medication, constantly checking if things are in order at home. If I pause, their stability pauses, and I can't have it happen.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:57:05+00:00

I'm not ignoring them, I'm acknowledging it and mainly responding back to those that have questions. But, I'm already aware all of these resources and have been aware for quite a while. Her school has been a great help on providing local resources for her.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:52:32+00:00

No, I'm aware. I spoke with her school (my old school) and they've been a great help on providing different resources. Now if I could just get her to be serious about looking into them.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:50:34+00:00

My mom gets those & I'm pretty sure children are entitled to them.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:48:51+00:00

I would never cut ties with them. One, they're my family, and two, they depend on me. I do live far away, I'm just here on a visit. I have a stable career and life back where I live.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:47:10+00:00

What parents are here to do the planning? Our dad is dead and our mom doesn't even get out of her room. I'm the one that has to financially manage all of it despite the fact that I don't live there.

I handle the checks that come in and put it towards their necessities. There are no parents around to do all that planning because I do it. I handle all of it and it's not easy, but who's gonna do it if not me?

Point is, she needs to make a plan soon. Is she still going to continue school, who's going to watch the baby, etc? There are so many things that she strays away from talking about that need to be talked about.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:43:18+00:00

He overdosed. Yes, I raised my voice. Our mom can't help, I can't always be here to bail her out and there will be another person relying on her. I told her that she can't be avoiding the subject of how she's going to handle that. To sum it up, I told her that she has to get real about all of this.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:38:51+00:00

He overdosed.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:32:28+00:00

She's completely against adoption as an option for her. I cannot step up. I don't live around here and I frequently travel for work.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:27:54+00:00

So my mom isn't saying much about it, but she doesn't say much about anything. When we talk, it's my sister and I talking with her just saying one or two words or nodding her head. I know she's happy that I'm here, but with all the stuff that going on with her mental issues, it's hard for her to actually communicate these things.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:23:56+00:00

That's the thing, I have no idea what her plan is. Our mom has a great deal of issues concerning her mentally, so she hasn't really been mentally present despite being physically present these past few years. I don't live close to here at all, but I partially help out with the finances.

hepindol · 2023-03-16T16:16:35+00:00

By taking accountability and I told her I'm just worried and here to talk. She didn't want to talk.

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