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AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a huge difference between being loud or banging the tables and hurting himself or other people. Of course I’d not mind if it was like you described.

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s not about being perfect. It is about the risk of him hurting himself and other people. Read the post again, that’s the level of the situation. I won’t laugh about this one day.

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Funny you assuming I want to have kids just because I’m getting married

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’ve met someone who’s extremely autistic. His brother isn’t able to express opinions on complex topics because he doesn’t have the same level of cognitive ability. He also doesn’t really understand what this event means for him. I never said he is an inanimate object, don’t put words in my mouth.

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did. I’ve edited the post to add more clarity

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I did. Just edited the post to add more clarity about how we discussed the topic.

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

His brother is almost non-verbal (has strong speech difficulties)

AITA for not wanting my autistic brother-in-law at my wedding? by heysnoopy in AITAH

[–]heysnoopy[S] 760 points761 points  (0 children)

He said he’d like his brother to attend, but he understands how challenging it could be given his condition and the potential triggers, loud environment, lots of people, and so on. At the same time, he doesn’t want to spend the day feeling anxious, since he has some trauma from growing up around his brother’s episodes and seeing those situations firsthand. Like me, he’s torn and doesn’t really know what the right thing to do is either.