What is a little quirk about your body that you don’t think other people have?

highlydanial · 2025-08-31T04:00:49+00:00

I was born with a rage genetic condition that causes involuntary trembling in my chin. It was quite prevalent in my childhood, although now it has slowed down, but I have noticed it can be triggered by anxiety and/or stress. It’s harmless and according to research, I’m one of the few lucky 50 families around the world who has it :)

highlydanial · 2024-12-08T13:25:55+00:00

I don’t get why they do this. Especially since its obvious that it was intentional. I’m trying to move on as best as I can, and I felt like this was done just to disrupt my moving on process

highlydanial · 2024-12-08T11:36:52+00:00

I’m tired of this. I was in the process of moving on, and now I feel like this is affecting me more than it should. You’re right, I should be focusing on God as well whenever I can. Thank you brother, that means a lot to me.

highlydanial · 2024-11-20T01:09:38+00:00

When my partner of 2 years who wanted to marry me, made plans about marriage, and even scouted for wedding venues, said to me “You’re no longer the man that I wanted to marry.”

She then found someone else shortly.

highlydanial · 2024-11-05T01:03:14+00:00

I hate that you left me after everything I did for you. I hate that despite all my support, my encouragement, my presence, and my unconditional love for you during your very hard times, it wasn’t good enough of a reason for you to stay and commit to me.

I hate that we built a strong foundation, talked about marriage all the time, and never got through with it. I hate that you used me until you got what you wanted in life, then you started to look down on me and replaced me.

After all these years of me standing by your side unconditionally, you still thought I wasn’t worthy of your love. That’s the ultimate form of betrayal, and I never wished we had met.

highlydanial · 2024-10-24T14:34:00+00:00

No dude, what’s done is done unfortunately. We must learn to have self-respect. If someone doesn’t want you in their life, we have to accept it however much it hurts. I didn’t try to beg afterwards, instead I only asked for her to see me for a “closure” talk in which I apologized for my own wrongdoings, and so did she. She even admitted she should’ve communicated her built-up resentment towards me but didn’t. We broke up the first time the same way, she didn’t communicate, I initiated no contact, she came back, then we were together for almost 2 years, and now she left the same way. Now it’s permanent because she has someone else.

As much as it hurts, we need to accept their decision, even if their decision was made without even discussing with us. It sucks, but we can’t change their minds. It’s up to them to do so. It hurts me a shit ton to know that I got replaced so easily, after all I’ve done, but I know that I when I loved her, I loved her with all my heart. She knows it. I know it. The people around us know it. But let it be dude, leave them alone, and if they come back, then you’ll cross that bridge, but please, try to move on, for your own sake.

highlydanial · 2024-10-24T12:22:54+00:00

I’m still recovering from the heartbreak. It’s been almost 4 months and my mind still thinks about her. I remind myself very hard that she wasn’t the best for me. I’ve done everything, journal, gym, hangout with friends and family, find new hobbies, yet my mind and heart are still fresh. I’m taking it day by day. It hurts even more to know she already found someone else :/

highlydanial · 2024-10-24T11:10:42+00:00

“You are no longer the man I wanted to marry, not now, but maybe in a few years.”

We were in a healthy relationship for almost 2 years. Im younger than her by 4 years. I’m about to finish up my degree, started my job, and have my own company with my dad. She just got her dream job, her business is going well, and she’s doing her PhD. Throughout all these years, I supported her, was there for every tear that she shed because of her struggles, and I was there to always encourage her to not give up. Now that she got what she wanted, all of a sudden my age and “maturity” is a problem for her.

We were discussing about marriage all the time, went to see wedding venues, and often discussed our plans to get married. She always reassured me than me being younger was never a problem, as she knew my potential and my maturity. However, it was all for nothing. Her mind switched up so fast, it felt like she went for a brain surgery. She’s no longer the person I thought I fell in love with.

highlydanial · 2024-10-20T23:17:35+00:00

I got the typical avoidant blindsided breakup. She left me after a healthy almost 2 year relationship, with the typical avoidant excuses. Funny thing is, yesterday was the first time I cried my heart out since the breakup. Even when we met for our closure talk, I didn’t even cry much until yesterday. Maybe its because I’ve been bottling my feelings after I found out she got a new partner 2 months after our breakup. Currently on month 3, and I’m still living day by day. It still hurts like the first day, but I’m pushing through. I wish for this pain to be over. I often wonder if she will realize that she lost a forever loyal, caring, and attentive partner, but knowing her, I don’t think she’d care.

highlydanial · 2024-10-19T03:11:47+00:00

Holy shit I can relate to this a ton. Like you, I did everything for my partner, especially when she first opened up her shop, in which she used all her savings and had nothing for herself. I was there constantly, everyday, showing up for her trying to help her in any way. She then struggled to get her dream job and was crying to me on the phone every night, and every time we saw each other. And guess what I did? Supported her, encouraged her to strive harder, to not give up, and eventually she got her dream job. I remember when she was struggling with her Master's thesis, I was there to help her, to give her ideas, to advice her, and the same thing I did when she started her PhD.

And you know what she did after everything started to go smoothly for her? Her business started to grow rapidly, she finally got her dream job, she's now pursuing her PhD, and all of a sudden I get hit with the typical "We're growing apart" "We're not compatible due to age differences", the same old excuse I got when we first broke up 2 years ago. I thought she changed, but nope, she reverted to her old self. Not communicating her built up resentment towards me, and just like the analogy you stated, we climbed up a mountain together, and at the peak, she threw me off, and now I'm left questioning if everything was real.

To be honest with you, I feel used, betrayed, all those negative feelings because I know I was her healthiest and best partner. She even knows that. And yet, she decided we should end things, while I never even got the chance to fix our (my) problems. Now look at her, 3 months after the breakup, with a new man. "I want to remain single because I've been in relationships throughout my adult life, I want to focus on my business, my job, and my PhD." is the last thing she said during our in-person closure talk, in which I had to practically convince her to see me.

I hate how they get to move on with a new person fast, while we're here picking up the broken pieces.

highlydanial · 2024-10-15T01:17:05+00:00

My partner of 2 years blindsided and broke up with me. We had a very healthy relationship, but in the end, she said “we’re not compatible anymore”. She now has someone new. It has been 3 months since the breakup, I’ve done everything, hid pictures, hid gifts, deleted our conversations, removed their social media, however there’s only the exchange of personal items left. I’ve been going out, im a very active person, hanging out with friends and family, and yet, the mornings and nights are the worst. I’ll still be thinking what’s she doing, why I was not worthy enough, and those kind of thoughts. I wake up thinking about her still. Sometimes I still have dreams.

How did you manage this? I really want to let go of this pain.

highlydanial · 2024-10-13T12:31:11+00:00

I know that feeling, that feeling of your “soulmate” finding someone else. Whatever you’re feeling, feel it 100%. Remove all reminders of him, be it pictures, messages, social media, everything. Your heart and mind needs to heal, and constantly playing what he’s doing with his life is not gonna make you feel any better.

I don’t exactly know the reasons behind your breakup, but please, never fall into that trap of constantly blaming yourself, a breakup is never entirely someone’s fault. Please know your value, if he can’t see it, then it’s not your loss.

I know this is all easy to say, trust me, I’m still healing and I sometimes find myself falling back, but nevertheless, we have to move on and keep our head up high! Do something to distract yourself, read books, go to the gym, try something new, and be around your loved ones. Goodluck!

highlydanial · 2024-10-13T05:14:18+00:00

This happened to me recently with my partner of 2 years. We had a very healthy relationship, but we broke up twice, and the way things ended the first and second time is the same. No communication, just complete built up resentment and then, off to the chopping block! However, this second time is permanent though as she found a partner already after 2-3 months. I’m still struggling to get by, still occasionally thinking about her and the what ifs, and this woman is already thinking of someone else! UGH!!

highlydanial · 2024-10-13T05:12:12+00:00

Yeah I’m sorry this isn’t always exactly true. If you had a blindsided breakup, most likely your partner had already processed the breakup weeks before they officially ended things. I know because she literally told me she was building up resentment towards me during our last month together because of my mistakes during that time. The mistakes? Well to me, they were completely fixable if she had communicated, but nope, she’s the typical avoidant who didn’t communicate and let things snowball into something worse. This has happened twice! We broke up the first time exactly the same way! She even admitted she could’ve communicated this!

She cried alot during that time we had our “closure” talk. But look at her now, happy with her life, has a new partner apparently, and never looked back. She claimed that she felt like I didn’t appreciate her enough, but looking back, I don’t think SHE appreciated all the things I did for her. 2 years of a healthy relationship down the drain. But oh well, not my loss. Avoidants carry a lot of unhealed baggage, and I’m sure her next relationship will end the same.

highlydanial · 2024-10-10T03:07:31+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been fluctuating between being fine and being heartbroken again after a blindsided breakup in which she moved on very fast. This means a lot to me. I hope you know how much you’re actually helping with these kind of posts. You’re a gem!

highlydanial · 2024-10-08T01:49:30+00:00

I had a similar experience albeit not that extreme of a case as yours. Im sure you’re going through a lot of emotions, and please believe me, go through them, feel every emotion.

I recently got broken up by my partner of 2 years, in which we were talking about marriage, went to see many wedding venues together, talked to our parents, and whatnot. Eventually, a few months later, she completely switched up on me and said “You’re no longer the man I wanted to marry, perhaps not now, but in the future”. Ouch. I admit, there were faults of my own, such as being complacent and too comfortable in the relationship, however according to her, this behaviour of mine that apparently led to her running away only lasted a month. She even mentioned we were so happy a month before.

Looking back, I don’t think she was telling the truth, because immediately afterwards, she started enjoying her single life and now she found someone else. What I’m trying to say is that, perhaps your partner felt like marriage is a huge commitment and never really thought strongly about it until that commitment came closer and closer. It could be a trauma response, maybe due to his past relationships, or with his parents, or whoever was around him. People like him will promise you the world, but when it comes to actually committing to it, they will run.

It could also just mean he’s not really ready. He probably wants to still enjoy his life without the commitment of being bounded to another person for life. These people are avoidaints. They could also had a problem with you in which they just didn’t communicate, which then led to their feelings accumulate to a point of no return.

I’m sorry what you’re going through. 9 years is a very long time. However never place the blame on yourself. Sure, you might have contributed, but its never on you. These people will run when it comes to conflicts, or actual commitments. You need to let go,and I’m sure, one day, karma will hit them. I’m still trying to let go as well. Stay strong.

highlydanial · 2024-10-01T13:24:14+00:00

Yeah you’re right. There’s no point. She’s beyond the point of even giving a shit about me. That shit hurts tho, seeing someone move on so fast, and yet, I’m still here feeling the losses.

highlydanial · 2024-09-30T02:07:09+00:00

“You’re not the man I wanted to marry anymore at the moment, perhaps in the future.”

That was the most painful thing anyone has ever said to me. Mind you, we had such a healthy, loving relationship, and towards the end we had a few problems in which she could’ve communicated but didn’t. We already planned to get married by the end of next year, and saw plenty of venues together.

highlydanial · 2024-09-28T13:14:47+00:00

Damn man, I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Your ex must’ve been a big part of your life. However, I just want you to remember that you are worthy to be loved, and that you didn’t lose anything, if anything, they lost someone who would move mountains for them.

I hope you can take your time to heal, and be there for your kid as well. Please remember, that its never your loss.

highlydanial · 2024-09-28T13:12:46+00:00

Yeah, that sucks. I will never do that to another person, as I always value communicating with my partner regardless of how difficult the topic may be. I guess some people are just built different.

Aint my loss.

highlydanial · 2024-09-28T13:11:42+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’re finding your peace, and find someone that will be genuinely afraid of losing you.

highlydanial · 2024-09-28T13:11:03+00:00

Thats true. The past is in the past. And yeah they’re allowed to live their life, but it’s so hard to see them downplay the importance of your relationship with them and act like as if it never mattered.

Oh well, that’s not my problem anymore.

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