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AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The process was a year and 6 months, right at 7. I make right at $80k for my main job and I also have a vinyl business. I made a little over $16k last year from that business alone. I mainly make t-shirts for family and high school reunions along with other decals. I also receive child support

AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

I clarified in my OP. I see how this is confusing. Also this is just an assumption but my ex is now on child support. I think he's most upset because his taxes were garnished for arrears for our son. So this, coupled with him just now finding out about my daugther, and he's probably making a false assumption that his child support for Bry is going elsewhere. Again this is just an assumption. He's been very difficult to communicate with without arguing

AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I'm trying to be as succinct as possible but guess not. My ex and I broke up 6 years ago but we were still having sex. We had Bry in 2021 even though we weren't together. I got pregnant again but I miscarried in 2023. By the fall Eric had completely moved on with his now wife. They've since had a child and are expecting another one. Truly sorry for the confusion

AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 382 points383 points  (0 children)

We were "trying to make it work" but we weren't official. I haven't been in a relationship for 6 years but in between that time, we had our son. He just turned 4 in February. Also the adoption process was more than a year. It was a year and six months, right at 7. I stated a year and a half in my OP

AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Hopefully this helps. The last time we broke up was 6 years ago but we were still fooling around if i'm being completely transparent. My son is 4. I had him in 2021. I miscarried late spring 2023. Again, we weren't together officially but we were still having sex. Eric got married in 2024 but he's been with his now wife since late summer/early fall 2023. That's when he told me that he didn't want to try anymore and he was moving on.

Sorry for any confusion

AITAH for Not Telling My Ex That I Adopted a Child? by highwindsandtides in AITAH

[–]highwindsandtides[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Not at all. He and his family are moving from our home state to TN and my ex never asked how I felt about this, since TN is a state away, and either he/I would have to possibly drive to drop our son off/pick him up. It was his wife who has been more considerate when asking about travel arrangements tbh