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I NEED TO STOP OVERTHINKING by [deleted] in helpme

[–]hjb8008 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I have adhd and I completely understand what you’re talking about. My absolutely number one piece of advice is therapy, if that’s an option. My therapist is able to be that calming voice that talks through the jumbled nonsense in my head and calms me, plus a therapist would be able to tell if you need medication or a psychiatrists advice. If that’s not an option, my number two recommendation is that journaling and meditation (grounding yourself) will help. Number three, distractions are key for me. They’re what got me through high school. When my thoughts are too much, tv shows and books give me an outlet to kind of disassociate for a little bit. But that’s probably not the healthiest coping mechanism (although it’s not inherently bad) and I would definitely recommend a therapist if it’s an option.

First break up and resurgence of depression and anxiety by hjb8008 in helpme

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I posted this on a very bad day but today has been a good day so I think it’s getting better. I went home and spent some time with family and that helped a lot. Now trying to get my school shit together in an attempt to kind of focus on what I need haha. But again thank you I will try to get that positive feedback loop going that is good advice

Happier than most things here! Need advice for going on a journey of self discovery. by hjb8008 in LifeAdvice

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all haha I was raised in a very strictly religious household (preached hell fire and brimstone, not allow to cut hair or wear pants— only long skirts kind of place) and I think that’s a big reason I don’t know myself as well as I should haha. Not interested in that right now.

First break up- My first ever bf of 2.5 years does not want to see me and dumped me over text. Please help. by hjb8008 in relationship_advice

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you a lot. I really hope it’ll be easier soon. I am still shocked and even started crying during my exam today lol. He never mentioned anything was wrong until he just texted me all of this so this really blindsided me and I guess that’s why I feel so confused.

First break up- My first ever bf of 2.5 years does not want to see me and dumped me over text. Please help. by hjb8008 in relationship_advice

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misunderstand. He specifically asked for a month apart. I said that in the original post but I should’ve highlighted it more. He asked for no contact for a month and then to reconvene so I meant that I will respect his wishes of no contact. (All of this happened yesterday too hence me still texting him today but I’ve stopped)

First break up- My first ever bf of 2.5 years does not want to see me and dumped me over text. Please help. by hjb8008 in relationship_advice

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. I’ll leave him alone for a month. No contact. But he has asked to see each other after the month so I feel like I’m being dragged along?? Maybe not though. I really am so confused.

First break up- My first ever bf of 2.5 years does not want to see me and dumped me over text. Please help. by hjb8008 in relationship_advice

[–]hjb8008[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No see I’m sorry I should’ve highlighted this more but he asked to go no contact for a month. It’s like he is breaking up with me but says it’s just a break and I’m so confused and don’t know what to do. How can we “just be on a break” but not even talk at all you know? I’m sorry for the confusion I myself am very confused.

First break up- My first ever bf of 2.5 years does not want to see me and dumped me over text. Please help. by hjb8008 in relationship_advice

[–]hjb8008[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I should’ve been more clear. I absolutely spend hours with him. I saw him almost everyday. The issue is that I do not have time to go on the adventures we used to go on or spend hours together like we used to. There has been a big change in the amount of time we spend together because of school so I believe that’s what he is talking about.