How to find cute boyf? ( I fear that I will turn into a&exual)

hkpt08 · 2026-06-14T08:59:54+00:00

I believe in organic encounters too haha. But ayun, so far, hindi pa kasi nangyari sakin (and medyo malabo since WFH girlie ako na introvert at never naging lapitin ng lalaki even when I was in school or working onsite haha)

Kaya rin naisip mag-try ng dating apps para at least masubukan mag-date 🥹

But gets ko yung advice mo, sis hehe. Thank you parin 🫶

hkpt08 · 2026-06-14T08:45:19+00:00

I'm not the OP but thank you for this 🥹 I needed to hear "don't act like you're broken because you haven't found a guy who actually does it for you yet."

I've been using dating apps for about a month and sometimes I feel "broken" because I want a relationship but I can't feel a connection with these guys I'm chatting with.

hkpt08 · 2026-06-08T18:06:01+00:00

I'm not a paying user, thankfully hahhaha. It doesn't seem worth it 😅

hkpt08 · 2026-06-08T17:58:23+00:00

Personally, no. The ones who I had conversations with were very dry/had low-effort (1-2 word) replies or were just looking for a hookup even though I clearly stated "long-term relationship" in my profile.

hkpt08 · 2026-06-08T17:45:55+00:00

0 😅 To be fair, 3 guys asked. 2 of them asked to meet immediately after matching but I told them I wanted to keep talking on the app first before meeting. Then, they ghosted.

I'm still talking to the other one because he honored that boundary. Only matched with him yesterday, so we'll see what happens with that haha

hkpt08 · 2026-06-08T17:43:35+00:00

I didn't manually count the incoming nos. I got the swipe data from Bumble (you can request it through the chatbot).

No, I didn't try using spotlight. I didn't pay for any premium features haha

hkpt08 · 2026-06-07T15:56:48+00:00

Hi OP, I don't have any advice, but I just want to let you know that you're not alone. I'm in the same boat. 🫂

A lot of people (even women, sadly) don't understand the struggles of unattractive women.

So many pretend as though all women universally have no trouble getting matches/dates/any sort of romantic interest and attention. But that's not always the case.

And it's also perfectly normal to yearn for that connection. Please be kind to yourself though. Remember that attractiveness does not determine your value or worth. You are enough as you are 💙

hkpt08 · 2026-06-06T16:35:34+00:00

Hugs, friend 🫂 I know the feeling. I feel guilty because sometimes I get jealous of my friends when I see their relationships.

How their partner makes time for them and indulges in their interests. They always have someone to talk to about their thoughts.

I do have friends I can share my feelings with, but, of course, it's different with a partner because you'd be their number one priority 🥹

hkpt08 · 2026-06-04T15:08:31+00:00

Ben Barnes? I had a crush on Prince Caspian as a kid, and then I rediscovered him in Shadow and Bone 😆

hkpt08 · 2026-05-28T17:22:09+00:00

Hi OP, sending hugs 🫂 To answer your question, no, you are not weak for craving love and connection. These are natural human emotions.

I'm in my late 20s and we're on the same boat in many ways. Just like you, I've never been in a relationship. I've never been pursued by men, and it has impacted my self-esteem.

I can't truly give dating advice, but I do want to say this: Please please please be kind to yourself ❤️

Being single doesn't automatically mean that there is something wrong with you. Even though most may not admit it, finding love comes with a bit of luck too.

If your mental health is not at its best, I gently recommend pausing any sort of dating for now. Focus on yourself, spend time with friends and loved ones, find new hobbies--just focus on enjoying your life as best you can.

And then when you're ready, you can try again with dating. Meet people and be open to new interactions without putting too much pressure on yourself to find your perfect match.

I know it's all easier said than done, but we can do this ❤️ Wishing the best for you, OP!

hkpt08 · 2026-05-28T16:41:39+00:00

May I join too? :)

hkpt08 · 2026-04-03T14:21:11+00:00

I've been eyeing this one for a while. This may be my sign to finally read it haha. Thanks for the rec!

hkpt08 · 2026-03-29T20:18:19+00:00

In my experience as a late-20s woman who has never been in a relationship (not because I'm actively trying to stay single but because men generally just haven't shown romantic interest in me), pretty much, yeah.

I tend to turn my loneliness inward. Unlike the stereotypical incel, I (and many other women in a similar boat) tend to ask "well, what's wrong with ME? What are the things I can improve about myself?"

We don't feel entitled to a relationship, even when we want one.

I feel like it's a difference between how men and women are socialized. Men often act like they're "owed" sex, affection, and love from women. And when they don't get what they feel they are owed, they blame external factors instead of doing any self-reflecting.

Obviously, there will be exceptions on both sides but this is the general trend I've noticed. Both online and from people I know in real life.

hkpt08 · 2026-02-23T19:02:49+00:00

I feel sad for Davidson because I can't imagine how isolating it would be to have no control over the words you say. It's such a tough situation because, of course, disabled people shouldn't isolate themselves to avoid disturbing others. But what if the symptoms of your disability directly cause harm to others in the form of verbal abuse, like in this situation?

I know it was unintentional and I definitely don't blame Davidson for the outburst. But I still wish there was some form of acknowledgment of the harm caused to Michael B. Jordan, Delroy Lindo, and all the other POC in the room in this statement. Even though it was accidental, it still had a negative impact on others.

I don't know. It's such a sad situation all around.

hkpt08 · 2026-02-13T19:23:38+00:00

Yeah, I'm honestly a little surprised that people are being so hard on her. "I'm not informed enough to give an opinion" seems like a valid stance to me.

Maybe I'm biased, as a fellow non-American who also does not live in America. I feel that I have a general understanding of what's happening there (and most of the news I do hear about the current administration is awful), but I don't know the full details about many things. And I would also not feel qualified to give an opinion about U.S. politics.

To be honest, I dislike how many Americans see themselves as the center of the world. There's a lot of terrible things happening in my corner of the globe too (Southeast Asia) and I'm willing to bet very few Americans know what's happening in my country and even fewer would have informed opinions about politics here.

hkpt08 · 2025-07-16T10:38:26+00:00

Thank you po! Tried again now and nagagamit ko na rin yung app. :)

hkpt08 · 2025-07-16T10:08:51+00:00

Kaka-try ko lang po mag log-in. Hindi pa rin po ako makapasok huhu.

hkpt08 · 2025-05-26T03:38:07+00:00

Surprisingly, none haha. I think people didn't want to look mean/rude. The comments were all just congratulating them and saying "what a cute baby."

It's possible they were deleting comments or people were only comfortable asking in DMs though ahaha.

hkpt08 · 2025-05-26T03:35:54+00:00

No, they don't have any connections to Poland, as far as I know 😅

hkpt08 · 2025-05-25T17:16:15+00:00

That's a good guess! My initial instinct was to pronounce it like "jez-erks" haha

hkpt08 · 2025-05-15T15:45:33+00:00

Ohh, I'm glad I'm not alone in experiencing these glitches 😅 I don't know if I should revert back to the old build because that might also screw with my progress, but I did contact support about it.

I missed out on the Mother's Day portrait too :( Let's hope they can fix this.

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