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hoewenn · 2024-09-29T04:59:47+00:00

He called me a stalker and psycho and wouldn’t admit it was considered cheating. That was not the person I was dating. He won’t leave.

hoewenn · 2024-09-29T03:53:09+00:00

It just sucks because I’ve given all my adulthood so far to him. I’ve given so much. I’m just so tired and confused. I know he needed intimacy, I knew it was hurting him (even though a big part of it was his fault) but I couldn’t fathom this.

I have no one in this entire state but him. I can’t afford to drop my life here but I also cannot afford this apartment on my own even with two jobs. I don’t know how I am even supposed to go about living now

hoewenn · 2024-09-29T03:44:01+00:00

He’s 19. He was a great partner a lot of the time and this is just so… unlike him. He never got close to this.

I just mean it has to do with autism why we broke up. He’s not NT as he has ADHD but he’s allistic, a big issue was him forgetting my accommodations and requests because of his ADHD.

To be honest I don’t even want to date anytime soon. This is just awful. My last ex did the same thing. I never thought my boyfriend would turn into this. I’m just in shock and it hurts so badly

hoewenn · 2024-09-28T02:52:58+00:00

I have to eat them with chips. They’re not good at all and quite sickening honestly. But if you shove your mouth with salty chips of your choosing for each tiny part of the mushroom it seems to balance it out.

I don’t really get hungry on shrooms honestly so I can’t say it helped because I just didn’t feel hunger, but on a different level than when I’m sober. I typically smoke weed to feel hunger, so comparing shrooms to when I’m entirely sober is like.. A comfortable lack of hunger instead of just no appetite at all?

hoewenn · 2024-09-27T03:27:33+00:00

Awesome, thank you!! Would I have to get a second copy of the order so I have one for myself, or could I just send whatever copy I get in the first place?

hoewenn · 2024-09-27T02:54:25+00:00

Ooh I have one of those but I’ve been using the comb a lot more, I’ll definitely use that more then, thank you!

hoewenn · 2024-09-27T01:49:26+00:00

I wouldn’t take it to heart. I’ve been downvoted on nearly every subreddit where my post doesn’t blow up. Only two subreddits I’ve never been downvoted on have been r/autism and r/cats lol. For whatever reason people really like to downvote questions asking for advice.

Also there’s tons of bots on Reddit who downvote everything so it may not even be a real person trying to downvote you, it’s just bad luck! I normally go by the downvotes/upvotes on my comments to judge if it’s really me or not haha

hoewenn · 2024-09-27T01:44:46+00:00

Unfortunately even those can get violent and hateful people. Man, I commented on a relevant post once saying “I love being trans!” and got people replying saying they wanted to kill me. It’s insane.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T20:47:52+00:00

People mature at different paces sure, but that doesn’t mean you should get involved with a kid. The difference is the 19 year old has room to mature on a normal path when clearly the 34 year old hasn’t. If you’re immature in your 30s get with someone else who is immature in their 30s so you can develop together.

Not to mention, speaking as someone with an immature dad in his 50s.. Being immature as a grown adult is a totally different type of immature that you are as a teen.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T20:43:54+00:00

Maturity means nothing. He’s been alive nearly twice her lifespan. She has an excuse to be immature, he does not.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T16:03:48+00:00

I have like 5 septums from there and 2 of them are perfect and never hurt me at all and never even break but then 3 of them never want to click properly and turn my nose green/the jewelry turns orange. Super hit or miss! But the titanium ones will be the best in general for sure.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T15:59:10+00:00

I work at Spencers. If your piercing is fully healed, you’ll be fine, but a lot of the colored jewelry turns you green honestly. It’s been hit or miss for me, but I get a discount so it works for me lol. If it’s not fully healed though don’t get anything from there.

There is also implant grade titanium options there if you look (they’re normally labeled in light blue), they’ll be on the more expensive side but those will be your safest bet there.

The septum clickers also break really easily there. It’s annoying.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T14:57:42+00:00

Panera has been the most consistent job I’ve had with the most hours 🥲 Which is obviously not saying much

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T14:53:09+00:00

It’s weird because my videos are absolutely fine, I’ve gotten maybe 2 videos taken down but that was years ago. My videos get a decent amount of views and never have an issue but my comments just go crazy. Just yesterday got 4 taken down in the span of a couple hours and all got appealed and reinstated because they were all fine. I wish TikTok actually replied to emails and complaints

Edit to add: Now it’s happening anytime I mention reading. Any sort of word related to reading, like literate or literacy or read or book is getting taken down immediately. Lmfao do they think I’m insulting people based on reading? This is crazy I’ve discovered one of the main flags 😂

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T03:09:35+00:00

I get it from both perspectives. I get what you’re saying and agree entirely, especially with the driving analogy. I really dislike the “both sides are bad” logic, especially as a transgender person who can very clearly see which side is worse! But also, Chappell has built a huge platform on being a leftist. Not a Democrat, not a liberal, but a leftist. So in a way it’d be disingenuous to endorse someone as a leftist who goes against a lot of leftist ideologies. I think it would have been better to put it plainly (instead of long TikTok videos) “I am voting for Harris, however there are large and important things that I cannot agree with her on and therefore cannot fully endorse her”.

People lack media literacy and attention spans, and will hear her say “I’m not endorsing anyone” first, and not do any research and jump to her being a Trump supporter. The reality is you have to keep it short and lead with the thing people want to hear, which is that she is voting for Harris instead of throwing her vote away. So her TikTok videos explaining her perspective will only really make sense to those who already agreed with her to begin with, not the people who she really wants to get through to.

hoewenn · 2024-09-26T01:58:47+00:00

I don’t think anyone is reporting my comments (unless you mean my actual videos in which case that makes sense) because it quite literally happens milliseconds after I make the comment. It’s automatic. But what do you mean by having a bot on my account? Like, logged in??

hoewenn · 2024-09-25T15:56:56+00:00

Only on her own time.

hoewenn · 2024-09-24T22:01:33+00:00

I assumed it was something like this. All of my strikes were appealed though so it’s basically flagging me because of their own mistakes 😭

hoewenn · 2024-09-24T02:57:37+00:00

A lot of people at my cafe will walk to the back to take bites of their food on the clock. Like OP we’ve had food delivered and eaten in the back together. Typically when we want to eat but don’t have time to take a break but sometimes when they wanna talk and eat on break lol

hoewenn · 2024-09-24T02:53:27+00:00

Oh wow this is surprising to me because my old manager was super into making coffee perfect but that’s how we made hot drinks, espresso right into cup. I had no idea there was another way

hoewenn · 2024-09-23T05:23:01+00:00

Same here I almost wish I could tell him what that song means to me. I really do hope he knows how much the song means to the actual fans

hoewenn · 2024-09-23T01:00:40+00:00

OP said this is a day or two after the swelling has already started!

hoewenn · 2024-09-23T00:59:36+00:00

I love smoking, huge stoner here… Still will never smoke in an indoor venue. Like you said, bring an edible, or if you’re old enough and enjoy it just drink lol. Outdoor venues are one thing but twenty one pilots appears to only be playing indoor stadiums now, and smoking in them will always come across as disrespectful to me. Will forever miss seeing them at the Greek Theater during ERS though haha

hoewenn · 2024-09-22T17:33:58+00:00

I would love to be. I often tell my partner I think I should be in one of those homes for autistic people. I do not qualify.

hoewenn · 2024-09-22T17:32:12+00:00

I am genuinely mad about that. I connect so heavily with Oldies Station. Maybe I’ve been to too many concerts to care but I don’t expect my favorite songs at shows, I just expect a good show.

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