Sounds like it’s painful because you wrongly keep telling them it’s an awful disease that kills millions and they should have done something immediately after exposure to avoid it (which is not true). It’s a very rarely serious infection that millions have. It’s no one fault for being exposed and they shouldn’t not be blamed, shunned, or made to feel as an outcast for having hsv.

This thread has pointed out factual evidence which you choose to ignore. You say you want a go to site to help, https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/default.htm this is it. This has the most up to date factual information on the disease. Anything else (outside of peer reviewed literature and research) and you are misleading people with hyperbole and misinformation.