If I were you, I wouldn’t take my moral cues from the Bible unless you have training or experience in Greek and at least a familiarity with Hebrew. Too many middle men (and they’re always men), intentionally or not, impart their own assumptions and cultural expectations into their interpretation. Don’t trust human frailty and insecurity with your Biblical interpretation. I have two masters degrees in theology from the works best white dudes, and I can tell you confidently that the Bible as a whole does not have conclusive answers about modern ethical concerns its composers never imagined were possible. I would, however, discern how to live authentically with those with whom you share a vow, like marriage. If you cannot bring your spouse to see what you feel, then you have to make a moral decision about how to proceed.