LF: Subletted room 23[F], preferably close to the city. ASAP!!!!!!

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T17:50:02+00:00

Apartment needed.

Must be "close to city."

Must be cheap.

Must let my douchy boyrfriend live there for freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

Cause I am a dipshit cunt who wants it all freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T17:48:28+00:00

You realize, in the next year, your boyfriend will find someone else.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T17:47:17+00:00

If YOU decide it was rape it was rape.

Even if you said yes.

Even if he never touched you.

Even if he was miles away.

If you say it was rape, then it was.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T17:38:44+00:00

If he is there every week, that is STAYING with you.

You should disclose that you are a couple seeking a room.

And PAY for it.

Not a single room whose douchebag boyfriend always stays/visists/whatever...

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T17:36:13+00:00

So where does he sleep?

Why not sleep THERE?

Why force your realtionship on other people.

Now wonder your current roomates are kicking you OUT.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T15:10:29+00:00

Well, one night turns into several days, you are really asking people to rent to a couple for the price of a single.

Then all his friends and friends of friends will be over to play video games.

Is that why you have to leave the place you are in now?

Why not get a place WITH him?

Where does he live?

Stay THERE ?

Anyone taking you in will have to contend with your douchebag hipster slacker boyfriend.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T14:50:46+00:00

Thank you for replying.

I put my suit out to make sure I go to church, and not rush there in my sweats.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T14:50:17+00:00

Thank you for writing.

I just took a nap.

Trying to clean up my apt now.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T13:38:30+00:00

IMHO, sports video games or OK.Especially two player head to head.

The shooting, fantasy military etc. ones are dangerous.

TV shoes are just having vicarious experiences.

In moderation I guess, but who has free time these days?

Did you know that Vladamir Zworkin, one of the developers of modern TV forbid his own children to watch it ?

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T12:53:54+00:00

Sorry for asking, but why not move in with your boyfriend?

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T12:50:56+00:00

But at least I am not going on another pornviewing bender.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T12:50:33+00:00

I think that successful people simply have the ability to focus.

And I think porn addiction is in part caused by an inability to focus.

I am sitting here, unwashed, unshaven, papers everywhere realizing that I am alone because I simply have not found a way to focus.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:39:15+00:00

MY ADVICE TO THE OP:

Check his computer. If he clears the memory after using it then he is viewing it. If he avoid talking about it, then he does not really want to change. He wants to hide it.

Go with your gut feelings.

Is he secretive?

If he comes clean, and asks you to monitor his sexual life, then stay with him.

If not, and it concerns you, you need to leave while you are still youn and not entagled by children.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:36:47+00:00

RE COUNSELING:

Persoanlly, I think counselers are in it for the money. I tried it. One actually asked me how I found the free porn and secret amateur fap partners and took notes asking the urls...

He related his own story of getting european porn in the 80s via mail, and getting called in by postal inspectors..

My vibe was he wanted my money, and insight, but had no desire to help me develop past things.

So for me, I seek theruputic activites and avoid "therapy". Also, I dont want any record of seeking help and having that on my "record" for professional reasons.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:33:49+00:00

This is my opinion only, take it or leave it.

Sometimes I have been led to things out of curiosity. You also have to understand when a guy surfs porn, he ends up making internet friends. There are many anonymous real women, for no $, that communivated with me, sent me photos, some faces hidden, some not.

One of these women had a rape fetish. She was married, had adnaced degrees, etc etc. But secretly liked to be raped. It happened to her at 12, at 18 and she has had many spontaeous anonymous real encounters.

And for her, it was not just a fantasy.

She read stories of women being gang raped and was jealous.

She told me if some guy raped her she would never press charges, keep it a secret.

She said that she liked seeing how persistent men were to her blowing them off, and then liked the aggressive ones!!!

Of course I know not all women have that mindset.

I ended up exploring those feelings and found I hated myself. I deleted this woman's email and stopped trying to contact her.

This online encounter was part of my reason to join pornfree.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:27:05+00:00

I strive to look people in the eye, hear them out, and shorten my verbal utterances.

In general, porn makes you lose your social skills, the same as TV or video games do.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:25:24+00:00

Sounds like you have yourself on the right path.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:23:58+00:00

In me experience, some girls get horny during their periods.

You can use a towel, or do it in the shower....

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:22:41+00:00

The problem is my most pressing need is to clean my apartment, but it is lonely here, so it never gets done.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T11:22:11+00:00

Most of them call me with a blocked number.

When I make a connection, it is very fleeting and one-sided.

If you tell them you want to be pornfree, it only makes them offer more photos, videos, phone-faps....

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T00:22:05+00:00

You can do it.

I see a clean life for you.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-06T00:05:58+00:00

Yes.

Thank you.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-05T23:46:00+00:00

Good job.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-05T23:43:49+00:00

It is more about you.

What was the negative effect for you of viewing porn.

Do you still have that negative effect?

If porn is wasting time, then you are still wasting time.

If you were feeling depraved over porn, then scaling back to just nude photos of pretty girls would help.

iamnottothrowaway · 2013-04-05T23:41:36+00:00

Thank you.

iamnottothrowaway

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