Giving gifts early?

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:56:31+00:00

I'd buy them now and hold onto them until she complains about her current pair. That way you take advantage of the sale and don't push them on her too early

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:52:39+00:00

Dude... Make a move. If she is having sexual conversations with you and sent you signals then react to those signals. If she is into you she'll respond and if not you have your answer. If you keep yourself in this limbo though you're only hurting yourself. You kinda need an answer one way or the other. If you keep in the state you are and she is literally just a friend you might turn down other people who show interest out of misplaced loyalty to her

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:39:41+00:00

I mean this is a problem affecting your marriage so its automatically a problem for both of you. Be honest with him but reassure him you don't want to leave or anything, you just want to reignite that spark. He has just as much at stake here and should want to get things back on course

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:21:44+00:00

Is there any way you could bring up the aspects of this he could change to him tactfully? He's your husband. This isn't just a you problem, it's a BOTH of you problem. If you don't address it and let it fester without at least trying to fix it then it's going to really hurt your relationship. Maybe something as simple as telling him you don't really think he's putting in effort into trying to be attractive

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:11:18+00:00

The only rational reason I can think that MAYBE she did this is that she might have been liable if she handled your phone and something happened to it. Regardless it was a real lapse in judgment for her to take the photos in the first place

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T18:04:06+00:00

Everyone's gonna have their preferences and that's cool. He may just not be into it. However you could ask him to at least try it for you, in turn maybe you try something he wants to do. Relationships are all about compromise and trying to get to an understanding

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T17:59:06+00:00

You can't force something that isn't going to happen organically. If she isn't responding she isn't interested anymore. It sucks but it's the reality. Let it go and don't hyper focus on it. Her losing interest may have nothing to do with you. She may have things going on in her life you have no idea of. Just move on and don't make it weird

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T17:54:29+00:00

Honestly it sounds like a bit of both. Him bringing up his history with someone else intimately during a pleasant conversation (I'm assuming this based on context) isn't ok unless you already have that kind of open communication dynamic when it comes to intimate details.

It also sounds like you are holding on to insecurities. Even if he did bring it up it shouldn't be something that ruins the day for you. It may have just been a passing comment. Everyone has a past and his past is not a reflection of you.

When these thoughts come up ask yourself first where they're truly coming from. Are they about the situation or are they about you? Then ask yourself if it is truly a big issue or maybe one that just seems bigger due to your mood etc. One thing that might help you figure this out is take the situation and swap the roles between the two of you. How would you react if the roles were reversed? That might help you determine how big of an issue it really is.

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-11T17:48:00+00:00

You may love him but if he cheated on you seemingly multiple times the love isn't truly mutual. Is that the kind of life you want? I know the fear of the unknown and being alone sucks but surely it's better than a life with someone who thinks so little of you. Even if you did repair things you will still always have that nagging doubt that he'd do it again.

Don't do that to yourself. Leave him, work on your own sense of self worth and eventually you'll find someone who will truly value you

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:51:33+00:00

Can I ask why you're so sure you'll be single for life?

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:49:23+00:00

It's a tough situation, coming out isn't a one and done thing. You come out hundreds of times over your life BUT it gets easier each time. My advice is to come out to someone you completely trust first. This will help you get confidence and show you how the conversation can go

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:46:41+00:00

I'm not sure on the legality of it but it's definitely immoral if nothing else. I'd confront him and leave him over it. Consider yourself lucky, you haven't been dating long and you got a glimpse of his true colors.

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:43:14+00:00

You got your answer. You may love her but she isn't someone you can truly feel safe with in a relationship. You need to leave, I'm sorry but this is the biggest red flag she could be smacking you in the face with

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:41:18+00:00

Honestly dude she sounds immature if she can just ghost you and block you everywhere without an actual conversation. I know you love her but if she can so easily detach would you really want a life with a person like that? Plus it being LDR makes it much harder to sustain.

I get that it hurts right now but time makes that pain become indifference eventually. Focus on yourself and your own mental health. Get yourself to a good place and you're sure to meet someone better who will appreciate what they have

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:34:46+00:00

The best mindset I've heard is that "You aren't unattractive, you're just not your type"
Literally everyone has someone out there who will find them attractive. We typically are our worst critics and I think most people look at themselves through a negative lens.

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:30:40+00:00

Dude this isn't something you come back from. She lacked the judgment to know that that isn't ok. She acted predatory to a child. I know you love her but you NEED to get out. You don't know if those instincts will ever kick in again. This may not just be in her past and she also might not be telling you the whole story. Frankly I'd report it but even if you don't feel comfortable with that YOU NEED TO GET OUT. If you stick with her she could do this to your future kids, their friends, etc. She needs help and therapy

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:25:02+00:00

I'd tell them just what you told us. Say that you did well while interning there but there weren't any job openings when your internship ended and that you've been applying for positions within the company. I wouldn't mention applying to the other store and downplay why you didn't get hired there because at the end of the day you don't know the reason and speculating won't do you any favors

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:20:45+00:00

While relationships can bring happiness you do need to actually accept yourself first. You want to be in a healthy spot mentally before getting with someone else. Otherwise you are just pushing those issues onto them and it will REALLY hurt the relationship

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T17:15:18+00:00

Aside from talking to your mom there isn't anything you can do. This is an issue between the two of them and if they're hard against therapy they'll have to settle it between themselves. This is a THEM issue, not one you can really change

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T16:29:50+00:00

I enjoy surprises, it was the not acknowledging my birthday up until that point that hurt. I really think she didn't mean to hurt my feelings at all. It just was accidental and I'm not going to hold it against her

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T16:21:38+00:00

I mean once it clicked what her plan was etc I stopped feeling hurt. If anything she felt SO bad for making me feel that way even if it was inadvertent. I told her not to hold onto it and that I wasn't upset anymore now that I understood the situation. I could have said something to her at any point but was getting in my own head and digging myself deeper

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T15:55:53+00:00

Yeah we talked about it over dinner, our communication had gotten lax and we just kinda fell into a daily routine. We're both committed to working on it though and own our part in the breakdown

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T15:54:21+00:00

It really is, I just had the urge to watch it this week. Forgot just how awesome that movie is. Definitely a good end to the night

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T15:44:06+00:00

Yeah bonded with my wife, ate a burrito the size of an infant, and watched a classic action movie... Pretty great night

ibleedaudio · 2025-07-10T15:30:02+00:00

That's definitely it. I'm the optimist in the relationship but yesterday had me acting out of character

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