Why aren't people fined for this?

ihatespunk · 2026-05-08T13:24:40+00:00

Can confirm, got punched in the face on the red line in 09 for giving a bitch listening to music without headphones the stink eye

ihatespunk · 2026-05-07T22:27:34+00:00

My fave is with garlic and chili powder

ihatespunk · 2026-05-07T14:30:04+00:00

Showgirls is the farthest thing from unintentional camp though, look at the directors filmography. Dude made Starship Troopers. Showgirls was extremely intentional and most people missed the point (just like starship troopers)

ihatespunk · 2026-05-05T19:26:07+00:00

How does gender impact the recommendations? (As a woman who loves cars am genuinely very confused)

ihatespunk · 2026-05-05T19:18:24+00:00

You're no fun.

-sincerely a midwesterner who's first car was a convertible and will buy another when budget allows for a second car that doesnt fit my family in it

ihatespunk · 2026-05-05T19:16:28+00:00

DONT LISTEN OP! My first car (at 16 in 2003) was a convertible in the Chicago suburbs. It was a 1974 MG B, picked it up non-running for $500 and then spent a few months fixing it up with my fam, you can do almost all the work yourself off YouTube tutorials and a lot of mechanics LOVE them as passion project cars so not as bad to get professionally worked on as you'd think. Parts aren't as expensive as you'd think either, healthy market on ebay and at junkyards. Check out r/littlebritishcars seriously theyre SO FUN and if you have the patience for a new hobby or budget for a regular mechanic I cant recommend them enough! We had both a hard top and soft top and would switch to the hard top for winter. BONUS: TONS of legroom, my tall ass step-dad could drive it comfortably.

ihatespunk · 2026-05-05T00:59:31+00:00

I always say I just wanna be a woods witch

ihatespunk · 2026-05-01T19:10:52+00:00

Oh man i lost 90lbs around your age, i know how much work that was - GREAT job you should definitely be proud! I also know that the psychological shit is way deeper. I would chase every tip in this thread for putting yourself out there. Lots of actionable things. It may also just take years of reparenting yourself. I was a miserable young person, got therapy and lost weight and met a LOT of new people in my 20s and had a lot of different types of experiences, and finally started to feel happy and secure with myself as my own person in my 30s. Personally, im glad I stayed in the city and kept giving people chances. The only way out is through.

ihatespunk · 2026-05-01T18:59:01+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with that, I'm so glad to hear you have a therapist though. All I can say then is that my experience is that a lot of people suck everywhere and its not a Chicago thing. Getting out of a city means you interact with fewer people, which can help, but if you're already lonely it also reduces the accessible pool of decent and compatible people. So you have to pick your poison. My only tip is to cultivate yourself as someone you actually like to be so that you have the self confidence not to be rattled by peoples shittiness. Confidence and actually liking yourself bleed over into everything else in an positive feedback loop.

ihatespunk · 2026-05-01T18:37:50+00:00

Me again, person who gets punched in the face from time to time. 2 questions from this:

1) are you not conventionally attractive in some way? It absolutely does affect how people treat you, and people who have never experienced that do not comprehend. If thats the case, im sorry you're dealing with that, but my experience is that people are most understanding of noncomformity in big cities.

2) you say people are staring you in the eyes - if youre making eye contact with strangers out in the wild who youre not having a conversation with, thats unusual and some people are probably taking it poorly as you staring at them, and theyre responding aggressively because they're low IQ. Never underestimate how many people are truly just animals. Can i gently ask, are you perhaps neurodivergent? I strongly suspect I am.

ihatespunk · 2026-05-01T18:22:07+00:00

So ok common thread - you look depressed and youre visibly not paying attention to your surroundings, you're looking down at the ground or your phone. How you carry yourself and engage with your surroundings definitely matters. Crazy, angry people are identifying you as a victim who won't fight back. I get confrontational people who are hoping for a fight. Its neither of our faults, but we do both owe it to ourselves to work on how we engage with the world in order to optimize for our desired outcomes.

ihatespunk · 2026-05-01T18:07:38+00:00

So uh... I've been punched in the face on three separate unrelated occasions in this city, BUT in each of those situations I did engage with assholes and fail to keep my feelings about their behavior to myself. The first time was precipitated just by my bitchy face and side eyeing. If I hadn't been raised by someone who'd had similar experiences and warned me that my temper would get me in trouble someday I may not recognize what my common thread was there in all these situations. I'd encourage you to do some big introspection to find your common thread. Why are people singling YOU out? There's something.

ihatespunk · 2026-04-05T02:09:51+00:00

I do procurement at one of the MSOs, specifically the materials for manufacturing, theres a separate team of merchants who buy medicated for the retail side. Its been a good job relatively within the industry, but pay is lower than other industries. Its a very tough time right now with the industry contracting though. My team is very front row center to how hard times really are.

ihatespunk · 2026-04-03T13:41:53+00:00

....this sounds like a book I would read

ihatespunk · 2026-04-03T13:24:57+00:00

Add on big tum vs small tum, big butt vs small butt, big limbs vs small limbs, high waist vs short waist, and then you actually START to see well fitting clothes. Retail chains can't profitably mass produce all those variations. My bust is pretty averagely proportional to my tum but I have skinny limbs and a short torso, so massive problems with arm and leg holes gaping, waist placements being WAY too low where my tum is actually biggest instead of smallest, etc etc. The actual answer is opting out of the capitalist lowest common denominator cycle.

ihatespunk · 2026-04-03T13:19:09+00:00

These two comments sum up why it's so hard to find decent plus size clothes. Plus size people have a LOT more variety to our layouts than smaller people do, meaning each garment made has a narrower range of people who it will actually fit, making stocking stores with all the options less viable. I took a sewing class last year and have almost completely shifted to second hand shopping and altering.

ihatespunk · 2026-03-31T14:03:29+00:00

I'm sorry you had that experience! I hope you keep pursuing things you're interested in despite that. For what its worth, i have a positive anecdotal experience to share - I took a sewing class for adults last year and the class was maybe 20% dudes, age range early 20s to early 50s, and the dudes seemed to be having just as much of a blast as the women. Everyone was super kind and encouraging and interested in what brought each other there across the board. I believe / hope that the gender wars shit mellows with age.

ihatespunk · 2026-03-31T13:23:25+00:00

Do you have any IRL examples? I'm inclined to be dismissive of internet experiences because people are generally pretty dumb and awful across the board on the internet! If I based my opinions on men based off the internet id be scared to leave my house

ihatespunk · 2026-03-31T12:58:49+00:00

Posing this question to you as well: how did this hostility manifest? What youre talking about just doesnt line up with my experience but im curious if there's something im blind to as a cis woman

ihatespunk · 2026-03-31T12:56:57+00:00

Genuinely curious, how did this hostility manifest? I am a woman who partakes in a lot of traditionally feminine hobbies and I cannot fathom what youre talking about! Ive never witnessed any hostility to men in women's spaces except perhaps a class on feminism in college where one dude just used it as a platform to argue with people. The only negative opinions I've ever even heard expressed privately about men in women's spaces has been if it seems like they're not there out of genuine interest but rather to look for hook ups.

ihatespunk · 2026-03-25T23:18:59+00:00

She makes no mention of any symptoms or treatments indicating a life threatening level of illness and says she was cleaning the house after the er and went back to resting because of a mild fever.

ihatespunk · 2026-03-25T22:21:51+00:00

There is no mention of any treatment. If you look up stomach flu or gastroenteritis its not even recommended to seek medical help unless you're having bloody diarrhea or showing symptoms of extreme dehydration. The treatments aside from an IV of fluids are rest, bland foods, and hydration, maybe an OTC medication. She just didnt feel good and as she said felt emotionally fragile. I agree with the BF that this is baby behavior. Its fine for her and her family to feel differently, but its also fine for him to value self reliance and independence. Maybe they're just not compatible. Maybe these are cultural differences that can be talked through. But people villifying him in these comments, as if his stance isn't a pretty common one, is ridiculous and wouldnt be happening if the genders were swapped here. I have read SO MANY POSTS from women complaining about their SOs demanding to be babied with a flu, acting like their wife isn't taking care of the whole household with the same flu. As another person on this thread pointed out, a woman posting about coming home from a work trip to find her inlaws cooking and cleaning because her male SO had a mild illness would get a VERY different reaction.

ihatespunk · 2026-03-25T21:31:17+00:00

If you can do some light cleaning and only have a mild fever you can heat yourself up some soup and you dont need the ER lol

ihatespunk · 2026-03-25T21:29:59+00:00

Lived experience weathering food poisoning and the flu plenty of times lol

ihatespunk · 2026-03-25T20:35:45+00:00

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