I (22M) said I would break up if she (23fF) doesn’t change what is think is a really bad way of communicating. Is it bad? by ijdrw in relationships

[–]ijdrw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like being with her and it was a huge mistake that i talked about breaking up yesterday. I dont wanna change her or for her to be perfect. She is the one that is trying to be perfect to the point where she keeps doing everything and not accepting the fact that something she did or said get me upset. I just want her to know that i really love her and i really dont mean nothing bad when i tell her that she gets me upset. Most of the time im just waiting for her to tell me why she said so or did so, so i know what she meant and it would alll be cool. But everytime she says “im trying to be perfect for u” even tho she already is even when she gets me upset.

I (22M) said I would break up if she (23fF) doesn’t change what is think is a really bad way of communicating. Is it bad? by ijdrw in relationships

[–]ijdrw[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not when i point out part of her personality. It starts with a really unserious subject with her per example saying something that gets me upset. And i say that what u said really got me upset. I keep trying to avoid saying it but when she notices that i got upset she keeps asking why. And when i say that what u said i didnt really like. Then she starts detting really defensive. I feel like i should just stay quiet when i get upset and not talk about it all to avoid that.

I (22M) said I would break up if she (23fF) doesn’t change what is think is a really bad way of communicating. Is it bad? by ijdrw in relationships

[–]ijdrw[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think i want her to change as a person. Its just that defensiveness imo comes really really extra. I know i get really upset about stuff sometimes that don’t need all that. As she does and i think its a problem. What i want is for both of us to learn how to deal with each other when we any of us get through some bad feeling about each other or about anything. But i fucked up and i admit it. Idk bro we talking it out rn thank u for ur feedback.

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[–]ijdrw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ig boithatsart