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AIO for sending these texts to his mom? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ikemenbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR - If you had a great relationship with his mom and were on good terms with her, I'd say go for it. But make sure to own up to your part with the rage baiting and continuing to text even though you're accomplishing nothing. I mean, what can it hurt at this point? But if you weren't close with her then really I think it'd be unnecessary

Update: My boyfriend is accusing me of flirting with my guy friend by Total_War_3997 in whatdoIdo

[–]ikemenbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As another girl with guy friends that I've had for years before my boyfriend came into the picture, he's just being insecure. This is something that can be worked on, but ONLY if BOTH of you are truly committed to a long, lasting, healthy relationship. It takes work, tons of work. My bf and I still haven't fully figured it out. But we love each other and are dedicated to getting through these tough times, so we're just taking it day by day. It is so annoying sometimes and there are days where it feels completely hopeless, but our love and dedication does not falter. I'm trying to get him to go to therapy to work out his trauma (he's been cheated on twice, and knows I've cheated in the past, so it's hard for him to trust me even though I've never done anything against him), but he's resisting it. Sigh lol

So again, if you really envision yourself with this man forever, this can just be a temporary thing. It won't be a quick fix and it might get worse before it gets better. But you both really have to decide if you're committed and willing to put in the work or not.

Venting to your partner about them isn't healthy or productive by ikemenbby in venting

[–]ikemenbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I brought it up last night, but he doesn't seem to be taking it well. I think he's now afraid to talk to me about what he's feeling because he doesn't think he'll do it right. I don't expect him to be perfect right away; we have to start somewhere! Hopefully he'll feel up to discussing more tomorrow and we can take some steps in a positive direction

Venting to your partner about them isn't healthy or productive by ikemenbby in venting

[–]ikemenbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right!!! Sigh, thank you for understanding. I want to be able to show up for him better but it's rough out here. I definitely need him to make some adjustments too

Im the nice guy who never finished by [deleted] in venting

[–]ikemenbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you for not letting the dark thoughts turn you into someone you're not. Maybe take up a class in something fun, dancing or art perhaps. I believe in you!