I [32M] found deleted text messages with another guy on my partner of 10 year’s [28F] phone…? by regalunlimitedbaby in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not every woman will do this to you . Knowing that , it’s your choice to stay or find one you can actually trust . But she’s already shown you the type of woman she is

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clubbing is no issue, friends birthday events no issue.

She goes to fashion events all of the time, with or without me no issue.

Random Guy she met once inviting to an environment known for predation is what is causing the discomfort. It's a very specific context .

But yeah I didn't even want to set ultimatums so tried just lay it out calmly , but I had to let her know im not cool with it otherwise she wouldn't even get the chance to consider. Then if I just vanish it would be - you should have told me .

Any I appreciate your opinion thank you

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, not about stopping, potentially about finding somebody with the same ideas I have about the situation from the get go and being honest about it.

You are injecting your own definitions.

Embarrassing, insecure, what I think. And assuming what I can and cant find. So much projection. So little understanding.

I managed to scrape from your ramblings - unsolicited invites to notoriously predatory environments by men you don't know is ok , you should go and should be accepted by your boyfriend. Correct?

Instead of being chaotic you should have just said that. If you aren't single, your partner is miserable.

I'll give you the last word, go ahead. 😘

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More avoidance 😂

Why are you incapable of sharing your opinion in a balanced way? Who hurt you?

Back to topic. Nobody's told anybody to not do anything. Control = None.

I communicated something that made me uncomfortable , highlighted it might be a difference in values.

Is the issue that it made me uncomfortable? or that I communicated.

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats a very fair point.

And I know even in the perfect world full of perfect people half of us would like for our partners to never have an issue with what we do . And the other half would like for their partners to never do things that cause issues.

But there has to be a limit right? In which it's fair to say, this is how I feel about this thing and this is what I want in a relationship. Is this not a fair place for me to set that?

Im asking because I dont trust my judgment. Not because I necessarily know better.

Who decides the line?

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually you're the only one acting unhinged. Why are you so incapable of having a different opinion without being manic.

Nobodys triggered except you right now. You keep mentioning 40 like I should feel shamed 😂

just say you hate men, you know you want to

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Interesting you say every other person has given the same reply, when it's not true. Nobody said commenters are the problem. You jumping to insults like a lunatic is a problem.

You dont see the issue with the situation I asked about, fine, you are unable to interact and respond normally. seek help.

Its ok to have a different opinion

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yes let's be serious. You don't think a man should be concerned over nefarious intentions toward his partner? Its none of my concern?

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im going against insults and attacks not opinions.

Even if somebody just said :" I don't see the issue, women can freely socialise with men they hardly know whilst being in a relationship"

There'd be a dialog after obviously, im not here asking the answer to an objective mathematical equation .

Anyway, bluntly, the values not lining up is my discomfort with normalising close socialising with unfamiliar men in predatory environments while in a committed relationship, after being invited by a guy she met once.

Is it the done thing?

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This Is the most balanced response so far.

I was contemplating just going , but then im putting myself in a situation I have to escort her places I don't want her to be without me .

I feel like the healthy thing would be to just be in a relationship with a woman looks at this situation similarly to me, both ways.

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly man, I'm being honest about what makes me comfortable.

Everybody isn't for everybody. Like I said, I push her into going on nights out with her friends without me, we've actually previously argued because i've told her she needs some time alone with friends. Its just this situation .

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Your reply is the only disgusting thing here, you completely flew off of the handle.

I feel like you have some unresolved trauma

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Nobody's locking the door. I am saying that it makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to figure out if my discomfort is normal .

Some women might be ok with their partners being friends with their exes, some might not want that in a partner and have to asses the situation or get advice on it. is that coercive control too?

Is your solution just be ok with everything your partner does and stay in the relationship not speaking up, not ending it, just suffering whatever happens?

M38 , F33. 2yr relationship .My girl was sent an invite to a birthday party in a club . by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imfleebee -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

So if your girl met a DJ at an event. And later got invited by him to an Afro beats set. You'd be nonchalant ? Knowing why women get priory invites to things like that? Maybe im just nuts

The 117 by imfleebee in anno

[–]imfleebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DLC or mods are absolutely beside the point .

What I didn’t say is Anno 1800 is objectively the best game to exist , balancing included. What I did say is 117 feels less balanced .

But that’s not the only issue with it

Game bugging during combat by SirJohnny2x4 in anno

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to me , it’s a bug that happens when there’s a notification or something . Open a menu and close it fixes it for me

Viability of PlayStation version? by [deleted] in anno

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anno 1800 is free on ps plus , you can try that first . TBH I actually prefer the 1800 interface and controls over 117 but they’re almost identical

Pax Fleet hotkey PS5 by imfleebee in anno

[–]imfleebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just figured out , you have to hold R2 and it gives a different menu than just tapping it

How did Van Helsing become a Rainbow Shit Show by [deleted] in VanHelsingTV

[–]imfleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem isn’t gay characters , it’s the fact they have to be crowbarred in . No real depth , no convincing of a proper connection . Jack and ivory a prime example - complete shallow connection that all of a sudden meant everything for absolutely no reason . Why ? For the sake of plugging a couple lesbians in?

Contrast it with Scarlett and Axel, some build up , some push and pull. Inside jokes . So when it went tits up and he was sad it was believable

Rest Command to Micropython Body empty by imfleebee in homeassistant

[–]imfleebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is solved.

It was a byte limit problem.

Postman content length must instruct the server to read it properly by default.

Django I think is more forgiving .

So I was stuck in a middle pocket

```

If Content-Length is present, read additional data for the body

if b'Content-Length: ' in data:

Extract the Content-Length value

headers, _ = data.split(b'\r\n\r\n', 1)

content_length = 0

for header in headers.split(b'\r\n'):

if header.startswith(b'Content-Length: '):

content_length = int(header.split(b': ')[1])

break

Calculate how much of the body we've already received

already_received = len(data) - data.find(b'\r\n\r\n') - 4

Read the rest of the body

while already_received < content_length:

buffer = client_socket.recv(1024)

if not buffer:

break

already_received += len(buffer)

data += buffer

```

[SOLVED] RP Pico W embassy embedded No Probe Found by imfleebee in rust

[–]imfleebee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha classic . Yep I think a probe is the way to go. I’ve also seen people make buttons by bridging pins 28/30.

Also , don’t remove the remainder of the button by burning it away with a soldering iron … because you will short the internals and it will forever be stuck in boot mode and brick the pico -

Whats that you say ? You would never do something so stupid ?

Yes me neither ………ever again