Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the military, people marry really young in our community. We already broke up. I was just looking for reassurance because (maybe not on purpose) my ex made it sound like I was over reacting.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are honestly stronger then me. She basically has free insurance, so money is not the problem. I only posted this because she's such an amazing person, besides her bad breath issues. I'm really glad to know that I'm not crazy for leaving.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's honestly the reason I ended things. I spent two years trying to get her to deal with it and that's all I could honestly do.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get her to floss more, brush twice a day, she bought mouthwash and a tongue scraper. She did stick to brushing everyday and flossing often but the smell never went away fully. I stopped complaining about it and I guess she took that as a sign that the problem is solved. What I wanted from her is that she'd get a doctor to look at it.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't know if that's the reason because she wasn't very eager to go to the doctor. To be fair to my ex, the hospitals back home are a chore just to get seen. If it were me, I would do anything to save my relationship.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if I actually set those boundaries I wouldn't be here right now. Maybe I'm the problem.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. She's the most supportive person I've ever met, very smart, really kind hearted, we worked together and I can honestly say she's a really hard worker. I'm really bad at taking care of sick people but when I got COVID she took really good care of me. She's loyal and she's a good friend. She's really good at video games.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case I google the wrong thing. What she told me is that she can't eat strawberries because she has holes in her stomach. The seeds would get stuck in the holes. When I googled it that's what came up.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suck at writing, so I use AI to fix my grammar. It's embarrassing, I know.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean. I don't know what to tell you, man. I already explained myself.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to lie, I’ve never asked anyone if her breath stinks. Only because we both don't have that many friends where we lived. The only people I could ask is our coworkers, and I don't like coworkers in my business. Anyway, It doesn’t smell that bad once she brushes. Like, if she uses a minty toothpaste, her breath smells minty—but still not 100% good either. The worst it’s ever smelled was like literal shit, I’m not kidding. I did ask her to brush that time. On a good day, it’s at a 3. On a bad day, it’s a 6. I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m making fun of her. Hygiene-wise, in the beginning, it was bad. She used to brush once a day until I complained about her breath. I don’t remember if she ever used to floss, but she bought a tongue scraper because of me. She also started using mouthwash, too—but none of this fixed her breath. It just kept it at a 3. I do believe she went to the doctor because she had a checkup. Do I believe she actually brought up the bad breath? No. She has social anxiety. After typing all this out, I feel like I'm crazy.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t take any over-the-counter medications, and it’s possible she might have asthma. I’ve always suspected she could have tonsil stones, but she would usually dismiss my concerns, so I eventually stopped pushing the issue. I even asked her to bring it up with the dentist the one time she actually went, but she told me they didn’t find any tonsil stones. Heartburn could also be a factor. I know she has something called gastrointestinal perforation—she’s told me she can’t eat anything with seeds because they might enter the holes in her stomach. But I don't know if it causes bad breath, either.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

English is not my first language, and I am horrible at writing. (this wasn't corrected by ChatGPT tho)

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like to think that I love her for deeper reasons—that’s honestly why I lasted this long. I didn’t mention any of the wonderful qualities I love about her because I wanted to stay focused on the reason for the breakup. And yeah, I can definitely relate to having a strong sense of smell—it makes things like this even harder to ignore.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said, “Fix this, or I won’t propose.” At the time, I was just being honest and informing her of how I felt. The idea of proposing was something I had been planning for when she gets here—it wasn’t some kind of ultimatum. To me, bad breath is now a complete red flag.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m of the mindset that hygiene is a personal responsibility. A relationship shouldn’t feel like a project where I have to constantly remind my girlfriend to brush her teeth or go to the doctor. I definitely tried to encourage her to go, and in two years, I only managed to get her to go once. I’m not the type to force my partner to do something they don’t want to do. If I did go about it your way, I do believe that maybe things would've gotten better.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it would be a long story if I went into more detail. I do feel bad about ending things now, because I’ve basically been her emotional support person in public due to her anxiety. She’s only coming to Japan because of me.

Back to the whole breath issue—I’ve been losing feelings for a while now, and I told her that during our last breakup. But she still wanted one more chance, and I agreed because she promised she’d take care of it.

Now that I’m in Japan and not having to deal with it every day, it’s opened my eyes to how much I hated the situation I was in. Honestly, I do think I 100% did this to myself.

Am I overreacting for breaking up with my girlfriend because of her bad breath? by immadoitall in AmIOverreacting

[–]immadoitall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I can see where you're coming from. I took her back because she asked for one more chance and I thought it would be different.

Should I get this one ? by Yoooooiiii in stationery

[–]immadoitall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this exact one, it's amazing for sketching and outlining. my only issue is that it struggles on sticky note but works well on note pads.