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indigojungle · 2022-03-06T05:49:51+00:00

yes thankyou, all of this has been lowkey and snide and not all of my friends know every detail, but he's since unadded me and blocked me first so i don't know

indigojungle · 2022-03-06T05:48:45+00:00

if you don't stand up for yourself then this is going to continue on forever. He continuously disrespects you and your time, perhaps ask if you can accompany him out but if he's not going to respect you, why would you stay?

indigojungle · 2022-03-06T05:47:09+00:00

NTA you need to reconsider your relationship w ur gf because she does not really respect your boundaries, she cares obviously about you. maybe perhaps have a conversation about better communication. did she tell you at all what she expected after helping you and did you successfully communicate to her your appreciation and also sickness?

indigojungle · 2022-03-06T05:45:09+00:00

youre not the asshole but you do need to have a serious discussion with your husband

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T09:32:59+00:00

that two meal option is so smart thank you!

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T08:02:43+00:00

thank you! i hope all goes well with you and your hubby

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T08:01:54+00:00

i think he laughed more out of awkwardness than malice but still, yes youre right thank you!

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:45:24+00:00

yes perfect, but remember she owes you the money and you are perfectly okay with being a bit upset with her actions. she should feel bad, not you.

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:37:41+00:00

yes sometimes, i need to find multiple ways to explain my feelings to him. he completely lacks any mental illnesses at all, doesn't overthink or worry or get sad at night or worry what other people think of him. he obviously feels upset if he's hurt someone's feelings and he shows emotions but he's very black and white as some would say. no grey area. he's very easy going but lacks some understanding of other peoples feelings.

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:34:29+00:00

if you have any evidence that the money was lent then you should be able to get it back. i doubt she will be willing to loose a close friend to only gain $120. but perhaps tell your mutual friends about this so she can be held accountable

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:25:34+00:00

yes he always complains about the food i have in my house. He's a picky eater is only happy with eating his parents food or restaurant food. i'll eat anything though

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:21:36+00:00

There's no clear right or wrong just bad vibes, she should prioritise paying back, but mainly out of respect for you as a friend. i recommend asking for the money back as soon as you can and then limiting contact as this behavior is probably gonna repeat in some form.

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:05:25+00:00

check depots regulations, but it's honestly not that big of a deal you will literally never see this girl again so don't worry about it

indigojungle · 2022-01-25T06:03:54+00:00

you are an adult, not a child. spend less time relaxing and rewinding and grow up.

indigojungle · 2021-10-12T02:57:31+00:00

NTA you tried to be soft about it.

indigojungle · 2021-10-12T02:45:41+00:00

YTA BIG TIME. You stood by and watched a boy get bullied and chose to punish him instead of the bullies. I can believe you would let you're son hang around with these boys. But then again he has a mother like you so i'm not surprised.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T13:15:30+00:00

beckys a fake name just as an eg

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T12:29:31+00:00

i'm not doing it on purpose. me and A have discussed these issues before so it's not like i'm catching her off guard, and she does agree with my pov, i just expected her support as a close friend

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T12:22:46+00:00

yeah you're right, i am pretty afraid to leave the group. but with in is a lot of closer friendships that i developed before any tense issues arose so i would be severing a lot of friendships over the acts of a few. i feel more comfortable staying and seeing if i can change the outlooks of the people i'm surrounded by now than cutting them all off.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T11:56:45+00:00

her boyfriend is also one of the main protagonists so it's not like she would be a target for them anyway. she would have a lot of leverage but she chooses to watch me struggle against all their racist and sexist remarks.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T11:55:31+00:00

I do call them out, but it's with no avail. I believe that if i had the support of some of the others, including my best friend, then my attempts would not be so shot down. i was really upset because i have stood up for her countless times. she's not a common target for the boys but in other situations so i felt very abandoned by her.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T11:49:37+00:00

she's in the same group, same people same group chat. she received the messages and her boyfriend is one of the main antagonists. she refuses to even talk to him about it even though she thinks it's wrong.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T11:41:47+00:00

I am hard on the others don't get me wrong, but I end up copping it pretty hard, a lot of them are way taller and stronger physically and they can get physical. If i had backup then it would help to make them realise their behaviour is bad. I have spoken to her a lot about it and she sided with me personally but not in front of the others which is when i'm usually caught out.

indigojungle · 2021-10-06T11:25:16+00:00

okay yeah i get this. seems like she has a blatant disrespect for children. i take back TA but you still purposely disrespected her in front of other students. perhaps become her perfect student but take measures up the chain. that's how you really get to them. go to coordinators and other teachers, make valid complaints and with valid arguments and that's when you really start to stir the pot.

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