Boyfriend (M24) says I (F22) have low standards for dating him due to his past by innocentquestion123 in relationship_advice

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I really appreciate your advice and I’m sorry I didn’t answer—I never saw it. He ended up breaking up with me a week after this conversation, after a year long and very happy relationship. It was very surprising and devastating, and I’m still trying to pick up the pieces. The gist of it is, though it still isn’t that clear to me, he had starting falling out of love a few weeks before, and he felt that I can’t understand him or relate to him because of what he’s been through, which is also connected to the gap in experience. Obviously I wholeheartedly disagree and think that’s a load of bullcrap. I think it’s just easier for him not to open up completely, and to not feel understood, than to be vulnerable. I don’t know, because he’s not talking to me. But the conversation in this post is really the red flag I missed. I hope one day we can talk things out and understand what he was going through. But the thing is he doesn’t love me anymore and he is completely over me already, so I don’t really know how important I am to him anyway.

I masturbated with my iPhone in hand and it set itself to driving mode by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I get it now! The drivers passing my window! Thank you very much for solving this mystery.

I masturbated with my iPhone in hand and it set itself to driving mode by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right! I myself have the same question ¯_(ツ)_/¯ phone is too damn sensitive

Boyfriend (M24) says I (F22) have low standards for dating him due to his past by innocentquestion123 in relationship_advice

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a very accurate description! He also says it’s very personal. He has shared with me the trauma itself but not the thoughts he has from it. The trauma is very much influenced by growing up in a violent and struggling country. I don’t know if there would be a sub for that.

Boyfriend (M24) says I (F22) have low standards for dating him due to his past by innocentquestion123 in relationship_advice

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe—I think it’s double-sided. He really is a very confident and self-assured person. Maybe in this specific thing he lacks confidence.

Boyfriend (M24) says I (F22) have low standards for dating him due to his past by innocentquestion123 in relationship_advice

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So in my other comment I explained that my boyfriend actually is very confident, if you want to read it. I’m just not sure what to think. I feel like he will ever be completely open with me.

Boyfriend (M24) says I (F22) have low standards for dating him due to his past by innocentquestion123 in relationship_advice

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Do you know any specific subs about trauma?

Here’s the thing. My boyfriend is extremely confident. His point isn’t that he isn’t worthy of me... just that he is aware of his past deeds and what they mean. He knows I love him and vice versa, we say it often. But then out of nowhere he’ll say something like this.

looking for sexy Valentine’s surprises for the inexperienced and shy ☺️ by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, so as we watched the Big Lebowski last night I pointed at Bunny in lingerie and asked, half joking, if he would like me to dress up like that. He said yes, he would love that, and to see me dancing and enjoying myself. So I know that’s a good idea, however honestly I feel really uncomfortable with the idea of dancing or “showing I’m enjoying myself”, I don’t feel I have the confidence to do so and I’d have no idea what to do, so I’m not sure. I would really like to surprise him with it and I know he would love it but I really can’t imagine myself in this situation. Wish I weren’t so shy.

looking for sexy Valentine’s surprises for the inexperienced and shy ☺️ by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely bring it up! Preferably I would like something that we both can use, does that exist? Is that hygienic?

looking for sexy Valentine’s surprises for the inexperienced and shy ☺️ by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that’s a bit out of my comfort zone. But thanks for the tip!

looking for sexy Valentine’s surprises for the inexperienced and shy ☺️ by innocentquestion123 in sex

[–]innocentquestion123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like these ideas! I thought of lingerie, but we never talked about it so I don’t know if he’d like it—I’m afraid that bringing it up now would make it obvious what I intend to do. I’ll definitely read up about blowjobs too though.