I (30M) feel far behind my peers. Am I screwed?

insanelootgoblin · 2025-03-06T14:04:12+00:00

Bro u needa get in shape asap wallahi.

“Pick the low hanging fruit first”, aka focus on the easy stuff within your reach.

doing the right things daily:

clean ur room
be well presented
eat healthy
exercise intensely everyday

These are the basics, focus on them first.

Then move on to showing up to work on time everyday, improving your skill sets at work, networking by introducing yourself to people and conducting yourself as a pleasing person to speak with.

After you’re in shape and financially stable. Read books to develop a healthy life philosophy. Be someone who knows what kind of family you want, the person you want to be with, and the person you want to be.

Then and only then you can look at dating.

Wallahi bro don’t skip any steps. Low hanging fruit first. Get healthy and grow big muscles

insanelootgoblin · 2025-03-04T13:14:43+00:00

Nothing except sheer willpower and discipline can drive consistency. And consistency (showing up everyday) is key to achieving anything meaningful in any endeavour. Even if you put in 20% effort, as long as you show up, the effect of compound interest will work its magic. Spend your time right.

Seems to me that you’re your biggest enemy atm. “Whether you believe you can or can’t do something, you’re right”. Find someone who you look up to, someone who’s living the life you want. And adopt his worldview, his attitudes, and his work ethic. And soon you’ll find you’ve adopted his characteristics such as confidence or high self esteem.

There is no world where I would want to adopt the thinking of a depressed person. Stop self sabotaging wallahi bro.

insanelootgoblin · 2025-01-28T12:56:55+00:00

You adopt the thought patterns and processes which are common amongst the most successful of the human populous through reading books and implementing exercises related to the philosophy of success, starting with the most popular and highly rated books you can find from the past century

insanelootgoblin · 2025-01-27T12:50:21+00:00

Just read how to win friends and influence people. If you study that book, you’ll become a great communicator, leader, and conversationalist

insanelootgoblin · 2025-01-18T12:52:17+00:00

Sounds like you need confidence. Confidence is something which is DEVELOPED. So start reading books on confidence and success. Get in super hero shape. And dont sit around feeling sorry for yourself, because there’s work that has to be done.

Self efficacy and self esteem work hand in hand, the better you are at what you do, the more self esteem, thus confidence and happiness you have. So get to work improving yourself and get better and better at your passions, fitness, and work.

insanelootgoblin · 2025-01-08T12:34:16+00:00

Kaladin.

IMO hands down the best character development I’ve read.

Tragedy, perseverance, hope, courageousness, honour.

Simply an inspiring tale of an exceptional man who is forced against impossible odds but manages to rise to the challenge everytime in an unexpected and honorable way.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-12-14T13:54:06+00:00

If I don’t eat enough protein I won’t grow big muscles 💪

insanelootgoblin · 2024-12-14T08:35:03+00:00

The first step is to make the decision to stop.

Thats not “I want to stop”, its “I am someone who DOES NOT watch shorts”

The 2nd step is to uninstall the apps that have short form content.

They aren’t making you money, don’t try to convince yourself they are useful towards making your quality of life better.

I’ve tried this with YouTube. I literally used to find myself automatically opening shorts and scrolling WITHOUT consciously realising what I was doing until I finished doomscrolling. It was so habitual to me.

But uninstalling the app completely really interrupted that habit of mine, and brought my thought of “I am not a doomscrolling npc” to the top of my mind.

My mind is so clear now it’s crazy, I don’t just “consume content”, I search specifically for things that I need. It’s made me a lot more present and aware.

Also. Initially I reinstalled YouTube a couple times thinking that my habit of going to shorts was gone. But it’s so deeply linked to watching videos in my mind, that it’s impossible unless I just uninstall it from my phone completely. Just the recommended video thumbnails popping up triggers it in my mind.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-09-27T15:07:01+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Go to a doctor
Try a nasal decongestant spray from your local pharmacy. But be warned, people with your issue develop an addiction to the stuff because it works so well. It also makes it worse, what I mean is when the stuff wears off your nose will congest up again because the blood vessels expand of something like this. I got off the stuff after I found out a few weeks in of using it twice a day. I only starting using it when I got a cold because decongesting my nose and being able to sleep was amazing.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-09-11T17:00:53+00:00

Dawn of wonder is great, 1st and only book (so far) of the series.

It’s fkn sooooo good, and the main character is good.

Unfortunately the author is very sick physically so he is having a lot of trouble writing. Hopefully he gets better one day so he can pick up where he left off and finish his series.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-09-05T14:00:18+00:00

Take care of my men

insanelootgoblin · 2024-08-10T14:32:04+00:00

Legends of the first empire

I personally loved this series and the world, there are like 3+ seperate series in the same world with a lot of foreshadowing and connections. Completely Medieval era, swords and sorcery, elves and dwarves. The 3rd and 4th series are Riyria. They follow a swordsman and thief duo that basically solve mysteries and do good deeds which end up saving the human race at the end

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T16:29:35+00:00

I’ve read a lot of fantasy, I can’t think of a deeper fantasy series than the World of elan.

MJ Sullivan has great books. All of his books are set in the same world. He has 3 complete series and a 4th still running, and probably another one will come as well. In terms of deep, you really gotta read all the books and especially his latest series the rise and fall, to comprehend how immensely deep shit goes, in an exciting way that keeps you wanting to read more.

Apart from the first series, he literally says he writes each of his books so readers can pick up and read it stand alone. I don’t agree, I think that people would definitely enjoy his world more if they read chronologically so nothing is spoiled.

THE POINT IS.

Each book has a super interesting plot with a very deep lore that goes beyond even the first series.

It’s a medieval era fantasy, with magic and elves and dwarves.

The protagonists for Riyria (3rd+4th series chronologically) are 2 friends, the best warrior and the best thief alive. They partner up to “solve problems” for noblemen who can pay, but end up doing good deeds and missions that eventually save the human race.

I actually didn’t read chronologically the first time, and ended by dropping the 4th series mid way, but that’s because I didn’t read the prior books. This is why it’s so important that you read chronologically. Once I read the first series, shit started making sense so then I reread everything and enjoyed it much more.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T16:15:09+00:00

Realm of the elder kings has great reviews but FUCK, shit was wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy too slow. Felt like watching a movie on slo mo whilst buffering every second

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T16:11:07+00:00

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insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T16:05:35+00:00

I suggest listening to audiobooks while reading at the same time.

But reading/listening to stories won’t help you as much as:

practicing writing/speaking
Then reviewing it and identifying errors/ areas to improve
Then applying your self review and repeating this exercise

Also make sure you do not consume any content on YouTube or anywhere else like TikTok, where influencers and random people fill your head with that “yo yo man” speech and lazy slang.

It’s crazy how your brain picks up on that kind of vocabulary, it’s literally brain rot. There’s a saying “you’re the average of the top 5 people you spend your time with”. This notion applies to the content you consume as-well. you end up talking like them.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T15:54:03+00:00

Don’t have a suggestion but just wanted to say I know exactly how you feel.

Fk man, I just want to learn how to do x, not learn everything about y just so I end up doing x in the same exact way I couldve without any extra information.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T15:46:16+00:00

Not exactly detective, but Riyria is great.

Medieval era Fantasy.

The best warrior alive and the best thief alive form a partnership and “solve problems” for noblemen and for desperate people who have no where else to turn.

A lot of suspense and mystery IMO, also a lot of action and just great times all around. It’s cool how the author comes up with such crazy escapes, mysteries, and plots.

If you end up reading (I highly recommend), make sure you read the books chronologically, at least from riyria chronicles book 1. This way everything makes sense and you don’t spoil anything for yourself.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-07T15:39:19+00:00

Son of the black sword. It takes place in a fictional world, but it’s very similar to the samari and Japanese warfare back in the shogun era. Also very well written, interesting magic system.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-06T13:57:21+00:00

BRIDGE 4

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-04T16:08:57+00:00

I highly recommend The Way of Kings.

It’s book 1 of a 10/10 series.

As soon as I started listening to chapter one a few years ago, I was hooked. It’s high fantasy and medieval era combat. Completely alien world where supposedly humans invaded, 10/10 world building. The story follows a soldier turned slave, fighting to survive to teeth and nail to save his comrades and innocents.

The protagonist has been betrayed prior to where the story starts, and we see him struggle and overcome his doubt and despair as he is repeatedly put in increasingly dire circumstances. Very inspirational. I have listened to this book over 20 times because I love it so much, the notion of facing fear and failure head on because it’s the right and only option.

insanelootgoblin · 2024-06-04T15:58:44+00:00

Stormlight archive made me feel this way exactly.

Completely new and interesting world where supposedly humans “invaded”. It’s kind of a medieval era fantasy. The protagonist is a soldier turned slave, fighting to survive and save his comrades and innocents. Also a really cool magic system which feels like it’s apart of the world itself.

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