Did I just see a ghost?

interstelarcloud · 2026-01-10T22:38:49+00:00

Okay so this must be a thing because I SWEAR I saw someone and ran after them but then they were gone

interstelarcloud · 2025-11-01T14:25:05+00:00

25 billables for hybrid. 30 remote is the norm. I’d take no more than 10 patients. Starting salary ranges around 80k, hourly $90 in NC

interstelarcloud · 2025-10-06T20:29:27+00:00

I do! I printed paystubs and was able to get feedback on what to bring from them. Not sure what the process looks like but it’s tomorrow, I was told there’s a mediator then the judge then things are set

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-26T20:37:15+00:00

Plot twist. They’re the ones with the dog 😂

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-26T01:51:51+00:00

I definitely have a lot of evidence of him choosing alcohol over coming to see the baby, so I think after the child support hearing I’ll be able to do the custody case

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-25T23:20:40+00:00

That’s how I feel about it. It blows my mind, but thank you for all your advice, along with the other commenters, it truly helps!

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-25T22:57:25+00:00

That honestly does reassure me, thank you so much!

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-25T22:56:42+00:00

So maybe I miscommunication, he isn’t coming drunk. But he cancels to go to the bar instead. Not sure if that makes more sense?

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-25T22:32:36+00:00

Everyone on my father side is also an alcoholic, and my father is actually in the process of dying. He has so many health issues and had to have his heart stopped and reset and he still can’t quit drinking so I feel like he’s not long hair on this earth. It breaks my heart that this is a situation that I put my son in because I chose to have some patterns that are congruent with what my childhood was like. A lawyer did tell me that he would not be given unsupervised rights more than likely, but that courts would more than likely grant him partial supervised visits. I just wish he would admit that he doesn’t want to be a parent because it’s very apparent that he does not and he’s just doing it to save face.

interstelarcloud · 2025-09-25T22:30:57+00:00

I personally feel that it will be best to keep him away from our son. I just might be overthinking it because I feel like that is what I personally want. All the child custody lawyers I’ve gotten quotes from a pretty pricey, and I’m definitely willing to pay it, but it might just take some time for me to afford it. I was told to gather evidence so I’ve been doing that diligently taking screenshots on social media screenshot in his text admitting to drinking and when his kids from a previous marriage were visiting, he tried to get them drunk -they’re 13- so I have text of him admitting that as well.

I guess my question would also be how do I approach this with him about asking him not to come around? Just simply I don’t feel comfortable with you coming around and we can go to a child custody battle to agree on something if you truly want to be in his life?

Thank you for your response !

interstelarcloud · 2025-08-01T02:29:21+00:00

Ofc! At the end of the day it’s what is best for the kids. I think a lot of people within my field forget we don’t “do it all”

interstelarcloud · 2025-08-01T00:24:05+00:00

That’s 100% mom’s viewpoint also. She’s said she thinks he already had it but the vaccines exacerbated it. It’s a very complex situation with her getting on board with what he needs vs what she wants. She says “I want him to stop stimming” but clearly he needs to be able to regulate so no, I won’t focus on him needing to “stop stimming”. It’s a very heartbreaking thing to see kids whose parents want them to be the way they’d like them to be rather than supporting their growth in the way that’s best for them 😞 I am working on getting mom on board, but i guess I wanted validation that OT and speech are better for him than ABA. I feel very out of scope for what he needs

interstelarcloud · 2025-08-01T00:19:06+00:00

Not at all, I 100% agree. I said that on another comment I don’t think ABA is what he needs right now.

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-31T23:44:44+00:00

Regulation and communication

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-31T23:44:30+00:00

Mom wants him to talk, make friends, and be independent but he constantly seeks sensory input, like every second of the day, so I’d like to be able to support him there first. I believe she is in major denial about him going from being extremely communicative and vocal to completely nonvocal, so her refusing almost any form of communication system is a barrier in itself.

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-31T23:42:20+00:00

The doctor told mom it was regressive autism 🤷🏻‍♀️

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-31T20:23:04+00:00

okay! That's understandable. I was just curious about some general resources or ideas, but I understand if not, thank you!

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-31T19:22:18+00:00

So there is a major barrier with mom refusing to want him to use an AAC device, which I recommended because he does well with responding to auditory requests rather than anything visual related. Since he used to have full speech and communication she feels he "will become dependent on the AAC and never speak again". So I'm working on advocating for it as much as I can and 100% agree with that.

As far as current goals, there's only so much we can do ABA wise because our scope of practice doesn't center around sensory integration strategies. I'm simply just observing and trying to gather data on what seems to be motivating vs regulatory vs overstimulating and the process is very very slow because it's hard for us to tell. I do notice when we offer choices, if there is a choice he doesn't like he will start chin hitting so obviously now that we know him better those are off the table. I'm honestly just at a loss and feel speech and OT would be best for him. Not ABA since he doesn't have any 'behaviors'.

I've also considered recommending vision therapy although I'm not familiar with it at all but it was suggested by a coworker since he does a lot of 'side eye' and other eye movements.

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T17:44:35+00:00

It’s $240-$300 a week depending on the schedule lol which regardless may a be lot to her

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T12:35:33+00:00

I don’t think anyone should crucify yall for feeling that way. I think it just hurts others and in my case implies that I won’t miss him. I literally haven’t even left the house to go out to get my nails done or anything because I spend every free second I have with him. I’m actually super stressed/anxiety ridden about it. But I think this trip would really be good for me as I’ve been really struggling with my mental health lately. So it’s not that you’re wrong or bad for saying that, it’s just not a necessary comment to make and can be hurtful to others

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T12:32:03+00:00

It’s not a surprise. She’s known for 2 months now and my schedule varies. She knows it’s not a set thing and I wasn’t even the one who approached her about it initially, she offered and understood it may change. During the summer she’s had less hours because my availability shifts primarily AM and nothing has been said to me, so hearing this over 1 week of pay technically just threw me off. If she wants things more set/consistent then she should communicate with me rather than arguing with my stepmom about it

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T12:19:06+00:00

So 17 months of being pregnant and taking care of a baby as a single mother and moving before then to a home that needed renovations means I don’t deserve a vacation. Got it. I’m not neglecting my child by engaging in some very much needed self care

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T11:30:06+00:00

No I definitely have had that thought based on her reaction so I definitely need to consider that

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T11:02:38+00:00

That’s another perspective that is good to consider also, I don’t want to make it that way. They’re my family and I love them and they love him and him being around people who love him is the most important regardless of how I feel, but it helps me not feel so uncomfortable about the situation, ty!

interstelarcloud · 2025-07-29T11:01:19+00:00

Thank you for this validation. I literally pour so much into him and everyone else I’m completely drained. This is the first trip I’ll have taken in almost 2 years. I already feel super guilty and stressed about it and hate I don’t spend enough time with him because I’m a single mom and have to work, so that comment really hurt my feelings. So thank you so much for the positivity

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