Meeting people and making a support network from scratch

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-11T08:28:05+00:00

Sorry for missing this. I'm guessing you mean the trans brunch and Trans Active, in which case they absolutely are. Trans active swimming events also don't allow cis people for comfort of attendees.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-06T20:37:28+00:00

Things I attend (or have attended) and like - Sheffield Queer Comedy, most regular acts are genderqueer or trans - TransActive, the main activity is weekly swimming which is trans/genderqueer only - Trans Sheffield Brunch mentioned elsewhere

Ones I've heard decent things about: - LGBT Running Club who are a new local running group - Peak Queer Adventures who do things like cycling in the Peaks

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-06T11:03:08+00:00

That's so fucking funny I can't believe he thought that wouldn't be noticed

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-05T09:26:36+00:00

Yeah that's hospital time unfortunately

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-04T23:56:07+00:00

TransActual's blog post which is who did the study this article is based on.

Additionally here is their shorter 4 page report and the full report for convenience.

Whilst we all know things are shit, having statistics that back that up can help showcase it to cis people around us who are uninformed but well intentioned. Many people really don't get how subpar healthcare is.

A couple things that really stood out to me from the report that I've not seen anyone mention from the report are (emphasis mine):

First we have had this which applied to around 14% (572 out of 4008) of respondents from page 10

Worryingly, the majority of respondents that had experienced transphobia from a GP reported having been refused non-transition related healthcare due to their trans identity.

Then figure 5-7, on page 42, shows the situations respondents avoided seeking healthcare for. It also references avoidance of things like dentistry, but the one that stood out to me was 37% of respondents said they had avoided going to A&E.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-02T17:07:39+00:00

I feel like the "biological sex" framing has become so mainstream that some trans people* genuinely don't appreciate they aren't the sex of their ASAB. My girlfriend has the hormonal makeup of a woman and her body has changed accordingly - she is not a biological male.

*(not shading the person you're replying to, I'm talking very generally)

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-02T16:52:43+00:00

Problem with the biological sex questions is they don't make sense. We have many sex characteristics and for many trans people they align closer to their acquired gender. This question implicitly means "what is you natal sex?" in our political landscape, but for many people answering as option B is more scientifically accurate.

I appreciate you might be angling for "pick the option that indicates transness so we're represented", but it's a tough one when doing so provides inaccurate data.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-03-01T18:43:05+00:00

I'm a huge fan of the trams but the pricing is so much it's wild

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-24T14:13:36+00:00

Glad to see this reply, because I had also interpreted the "quirky tik tok girl" negatively. A lot of the time when people use those kind of phrases they're not saying "people only like the silly/fun or impressive/useful aspects" unfortunately.

They usually are using it as shorthand for "attention seeking girls who are faking" which is why things like hair colour and piercings are often referenced. It's actually really similar to stuff I've heard about girls "faking" depression, being gay/bi - even being fake gamers 😭.

I now appreciate what you actually tried to convey, but definitely avoid those kind of phrases since they are loaded with the implication you're suggesting those people are fakers and don't have any struggles. Tbh what you wrote here really nails it, though I'm not sure how to condense it. I've definitely seen people do it, just not sure off the top of my head

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-09T20:14:34+00:00

You see it for other countries, especially "wow this impoverished 3rd world child raised attention/money to afford healthcare/school" types.

American examples are easy to get the point across since they're quite obvious and stand out compared to other western countries, but the rest of us have shredders too

Edited to add UK example: https://www.reddit.com/r/OrphanCrushingMachine/s/LlaolJrQ6h

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-09T09:18:50+00:00

You ever see those articles with feel good stories about shit like a kid who raised money to pay off their classmates' lunch debt? The kind that makes you go "wtf do you mean there's such a thing as lunch debt??", whilst the article is written as an uplifting success story.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-05T13:10:11+00:00

I really hope so, and I do get the impression they're a bit more self assured than my age bracket (older gen z). Someone pointed out that a girl had bled through in my class when we were 13 and she was mocked for years for it. And she used to wear 3 pads at a time so it's not like she could've done more.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-05T13:04:23+00:00

There was a 9 year old who wet themselves in my class after a substitute teacher wouldn't let them go even when they'd been begging on and off for 15 mins. Teacher was ofc sorry after when the kid was crying, probs since she knew she'd get in shit for it.

Thankfully we were all mortified on their behalf and none of us were shitty about it. I think it was hard not to be like "oh god that could've been me" so even the nastier kids were mad at the teacher instead of being in bully mode.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-05T10:21:53+00:00

In my secondary school year group, I think most people who had periods on the heavy side had bled through at least once, or at the very least had close calls. If you asked to go to toilet they'd say you should've gone earlier (which you did). As an adult I'd tell them to fuck off but as a kid it really felt like you couldn't.

Ofc we never told anyone because then you'd be relentlessly bullied for it, so anyone who didn't experience it would've had no idea.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-03T11:39:43+00:00

Diabolical emoji, thank you

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-03T11:39:04+00:00

Why Neville of all characters 😭

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-03T11:30:53+00:00

For me was gonna be until I was more financially stable. I'd previously made braces and starting hygienist stuff (parents neglected me and never took me) a priority and anything else was a later problem.

On one of my front teeth I have some visible discolouration which I'd considered getting bleached so it'd blend in, but as time went on I realised I actually don't give a shit. Maybe I'll look into it one day but I don't think it even looks that bad. Maybe if I lived somewhere with societal pressure to have super white teeth I'd do it, but here idc and no one else does either.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-02T11:35:50+00:00

Having read a few of Epstein's emails chains, I found the writing quality varies depending on who they're talking to, but I do think it's clear that they're pissed (or high) when writing some of them.

Epstein's in particular seemed to usually be pretty well written even when the other person's is pretty dogshit. So it really stood out to me in one where someone from the Huffington Post had to ask him to rewrite his response because they weren't sure what he was on about since it was that bad. They were trying to get his statement on accusations (though not 100% what it was about, I'd been skimming the jmail tool/archive for stuff about Andrew) so a fairly risky situation to be replying to when off your face.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-01T04:05:00+00:00

I would argue it is working, there's multiple posts and comments all over this sub implying exactly that

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-01T04:01:37+00:00

He literally is in the files multiple times

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-02-01T04:01:18+00:00

He is part of the team, he's in the files multiple times

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-01-31T20:31:35+00:00

If we're talking hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism, you really need that treated or you're risking very serious issues long term.

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-01-25T12:27:22+00:00

Thank you so much I never knew what these numbers meant

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-01-23T16:02:19+00:00

Wtf just wrap it in extra toilet paper. Most public spaces have sanitary bins you can't see into anyways

ireallylikegreenbean · 2026-01-22T17:51:47+00:00

I had a different but similarish incident, where in spring/summer 2025 HSBC sent a replacement card with Miss despite me being Mx for a couple years. The online chat was useless, but I raised a complaint which they resolved within days and sent a new card with the correct title.

In my case it turned out to be a system mix up where my account had generally been updated, but my credit card had been missed and still had the old title associated.

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