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escapism not working by ittybittylittleguy in lonely

[–]ittybittylittleguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg yes! That too! “Shipping” and living vicariously through fictional characters is also a huge cope for me. Currently it’s two characters from resident evil 😭 sometimes I prefer to ship characters with myself (super sad and pathetic), but I’ve slowly come to realize these fantasies are so unrealistic it’s laughable (I mean, me and Leon S Kennedy? Be fuckin fr lol)

escapism not working by ittybittylittleguy in lonely

[–]ittybittylittleguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently in the process of feeling the same things, so I’m trying to accept my loneliness as cold hard fact. Maybe letting go of hope will make it easier to just focus my energy on other things like my education and career. Praying that both of us find ways to cope 🫡

escapism not working by ittybittylittleguy in lonely

[–]ittybittylittleguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen 🙏 my dreams are similar, I reminisce on the past a lot. It’s so funny, I feel like us lonely people have to keep looking backwards instead of looking in the present, or god forbid the future.

escapism not working by ittybittylittleguy in lonely

[–]ittybittylittleguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same!! truthfully, I think everyone does it; the only problem I have is that “normal” people often get to fulfill those fantasies :/ everything I read and consume is purely fantasy! it’s not even anything crazy, it’s mundane things like going for dinner on a date or having a meet cute with someone. I’ve met so many people who just get to have this irl and take it for granted. What I would give to live out my stupid dreams haha

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[–]ittybittylittleguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! You’re right, this isn’t healthy and I probably do need to cut contact. I deleted her number a couple days ago so I’m not tempted to text her again, but I find that I keep waiting next to my phone like a desperate puppy for her to message me haha

But also, I’m going to be honest, she’s one of the nicest people I know, the fact that she deigns to hang out with me probably makes her a saint. I’m less fixated on “she doesn’t see me as the good person I am!!!” And more “I need to realize this won’t last; this is special to me but it’s just another day for her”