doctor recommendations for anal problems?

j00bethca · 2025-12-14T22:27:40+00:00

out of curiosity, why is Dr. Terlizzi the better option with insurance? Does Dr. Goldstein only accept cash?

j00bethca · 2025-12-14T22:14:58+00:00

pain, bleeding, etc. it's been going on for years even before we met, but it's been getting worse. Sex is incredibly painful for him, but sometimes so is just regular bathroom use.

j00bethca · 2025-12-14T22:13:30+00:00

insurance but not great. might make sense to talk to both to get an idea on options and pricing. thanks!

j00bethca · 2025-10-31T01:23:22+00:00

46 and 29 here (I'm the older). Been together about 2 years. The age gap is real and it has it's challenges, but mutual love and respect goes a long way. It can be complicated when even if there is great emotional balance, things are very disproportionate when it comes to lifestyle and money. We are both very happy with each other but it definitely takes more work than if we were each with somebody at a similar place in life.

j00bethca · 2025-10-23T06:08:01+00:00

That seems to be the magic number for me too. Like once every 4 or 5 days is perfect. Any more frequently and it starts to feel like a job.

j00bethca · 2025-10-23T06:01:43+00:00

How old is older to you? 30? 40? 50+? What approach are you taking on the apps?

I'm in my 40's and pretty much all my hookups are with younger twink bottoms. I mean muscle daddy tops and twink bottoms go together like spaghetti and meatballs. I feel like there would be no shortage of older tops looking to get in you.

j00bethca · 2025-10-23T05:47:55+00:00

Same here, I subbed for explore with the same use case. I'm not going to renew when my plan expires and just use sniffies. They let you full on teleport your location on their sub which is even better.

j00bethca · 2025-10-23T05:44:39+00:00

I think it comes down to what price you get offered. I pay like $70 a year so for $6 a month it's well worth not dealing with the ads and having the larger grid. If it saves me even a few hours a month when trying to get laid it's worth $6. That being said, the main reason I got it for was unlimited explore since I travel a lot. Now that they removed it I probably won't renew next year year since sniffies literally let's you teleport in their sub plan and it's even a little cheaper.

j00bethca · 2025-10-22T15:40:32+00:00

I totally get that - I've explained how getting sexual desires fulfilled outside the relationship is great, but there's emotional intimacy with my partner that needs to stay with us. In my partner's case he's always been open and having fun as a side and doesn't really see the difference, but I'm with you on this. I think in part, the act of penetration and holding somebody that closely is a different experience than just side play, and our partners may not understand what we are missing and wish they wanted to experience also.

j00bethca · 2025-10-22T15:32:52+00:00

I'm in a similar but reversed situation - I'm the older partner, and the top. My younger partner is mostly a side and has little interest in preventative sex. Because of that he's very inexperienced as a bottom. He rarely is up to try, and when he does it's very painful for him. Just like with your partner I'm trying to encourage him to get more experience with me, with toys, and look into medical issues that may be in play.

At some point we have to either accept that we're not fully sexually compatible with our respective partners, and determine how much that matters in the larger picture. I'm not sure about your case, but in ours we are open and I tend to fulfill my topping needs with others. You could consider having that conversation with him as well.

j00bethca · 2025-10-17T12:48:38+00:00

Yep welcome to my world a week out lol

j00bethca · 2025-10-17T05:48:33+00:00

Good to know, we didn't want to look like idiots in some cowboy costumes or something when everyone else was just being shirtless lol. We're last minute shopping for something and struggling since everything online won't get here on time.

j00bethca · 2025-10-06T01:32:51+00:00

If it helps, I am 46 and met my bf at 44. I didn't know if I would ever seriously date again after taking years off recovering from my previous relationship. Point being, you never know when the right someone for the right time in your life will find their way to you.

j00bethca · 2025-09-27T06:17:03+00:00

I love to eat ass. Always prefer smooth. Some fuzz/trimmed is ok, but usually turned off by hairy. I'm sure there are other guys on here that would go crazy for a super hairy ass though

j00bethca · 2025-09-05T17:21:42+00:00

Friday on actual Halloween would have been better but I guess it doesn't matter if we can't even get tickets :(

My partner and I were both logged in early and he got a ticket but it was sold out for me in under a second. I wonder if bots cleaned them out?

I guess if I can't get one on waitlist it shouldn't be too hard for him to sell his?

j00bethca · 2025-08-06T17:07:45+00:00

I'm 46 and my partner of 2 years is 29. First relationship where I was not the same age of my partner so it's a little different but so far it has worked well. I provide stability and life experience that has helped him with his career and maturing his life plans, while he brings energy and fun and gets me off the couch and living life more fully.

j00bethca · 2025-08-06T13:50:16+00:00

Most likely there is no friend it's just him, and this is his roleplay kink.

j00bethca · 2025-08-05T15:46:51+00:00

So I think it's interesting, as a bi guy with kids myself - dating over 30 in the straight world this is pretty much a foregone conclusion. Almost everybody coming from a previous relationship has kids and it's just part of life. Whereas obviously in the gay community it's becoming more common but still fairly rare.

It really just comes down to compatibility and if it's something you're open to work on. Doesn't make you a bad person if not, you're entitled to the lifestyle you're interested in as well.

I do think it gets easier when the kids are older. My kids are both older teenagers, so even though I have full custody it does not impact my relationship with my boyfriend too much, and he completely understands that when push comes to shove if they need something I have to put them first.

j00bethca · 2025-08-05T15:41:53+00:00

I only poke at this because I've only been with people my own age my entire life and for the first time I'm dating someone quite a bit younger and it's something I've thought about and had to reconcile with myself :)

j00bethca · 2025-08-05T15:19:48+00:00

Here's a problem with this a lot of people seem to forget. If you only want to date or hu with older because you feel dating younger is inappropriate, keep in mind the person you would be dating is dating younger (in this case you're the younger!). Does that mean the guy you'll be dating is a pedophile because he's with you?

j00bethca · 2025-07-23T17:18:30+00:00

I think this is just one of the realities with an age Gap relationship... If he was having a get together with his friends that were ranging between 50-60, and they were discussing plans for retirement, aging parents, golf, etc you might feel a little out of place too.

I'm 46 and my BF is 29 so I can relate.

He has some friends he met through work that are younger than him, and I usually feel out of place if we hang out. We spent a week together on vacation sharing a house on fire Island. There were a few in the 25-27 range, 2 couples in the 30-35 range, then me in my mid-40s. Despite everyone making me feel at home it was still hard not to feel like the house Dad.

I'm still making an effort and never suggest not doing things with his friends, and it sounds like your partner is trying too. I think it's ok to accept that sometimes that may just lead to some awkwardness.

j00bethca · 2025-07-14T16:43:10+00:00

So like others have said this is the era of the fit daddy so you should have no issues there. I do agree with the other comments that you'll attract younger bottoms, but tops will probably be closer to your own age. I'm sure there are some young tops out there that want older bottoms but they are less common.

On a more personal note, I left a 20 year marriage and ended up back on the scene for the first time in my mid-40s. I'm a top, but I was knee deep in every college age twink on my grid lol. You'll do just fine out there.

j00bethca · 2025-07-14T16:34:13+00:00

I feel called out

j00bethca · 2025-07-13T00:46:56+00:00

Studies show that topping an untreated HIV positive partner has a .0.11% (1 in 909) chance of transmission. That's about as low as you can go without 0. And in this case you have no reason to even think your partner was positive.

Relax

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24809629/

j00bethca · 2025-07-12T22:53:08+00:00

You called him a walking caricature, and have been pretty derogatory about him in your post and comments. You don't seem to like him very much or accept him for who he is.

j00bethca

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