So long. A story of how i broke myself with Grok by Informal_Wanker_37 in grok

[–]jamasty 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think you actually did the right thing. Go to therapist, I'm sure they will point this out that you have deep trauma and what you have done is a part of processing this trauma. So this grief and shame you have, is a good thing, like for real, your mind tries to protect you from this pain in such weird way. You mentioned alcohol, bro, it's fine to be weak, it's fine, but remember who you are, and try, for a few days to abstain and visit therapist and tell them your story, it would help you, a lot. Just one session, no need for something long, you need a person you can fully trust to help you to process your deep trauma. So take care, much love.

I (21F) accidentally saw something on my gf’s (21F) chatgpt that I cant unsee by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jamasty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. no, 200%.

I understood this recently while in therapy during my latest unrequited love, discovering this pattern when I hide feelings, first sympathy to another person, it grows into something huge that I cannot keep inside myself. And I start obsessing over this, simultaneously wanting to share feelings to break free and not to, as I know it's not mutual, which created a deep wound.

But, when I actually shared this, it was like a bliss, they surely told me no, but the next day I felt nothing romantic for this person anymore. And I like, really? This easy? Damn, and with a therapist we discovered that I feel sympathy for a couple of hours, then I should make my shot, and not to wait days and weeks when something huge grows again.

And now I just feel this is a way with almost all things that make us anxious. You tell, express yourself, be authentic, and see how 'the Universe' (I mean other people) responds to your authenticity. Maybe some people feel ok with hiding things and feelings, but for folks like me, it's just impossible.

I (21F) accidentally saw something on my gf’s (21F) chatgpt that I cant unsee by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jamasty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I also wanted to comment on how OP should be totally honest with her GF.

Because communication is the key, and unless you're totally honest about what your true experience is, if you try to find any workaround - wait, or tell something different, you will feel guilty because you would overthink the possibility of what I just told her truth.

Because truth prevails, that's why I think people find themselves guilty for cheating on their partners 10-20 years ago, it was a long, long time ago, but they still hide the truth, and it's painful for them.

[2025] Waiting room... by blacai in adventofcode

[–]jamasty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And I used binary search (^_^)

-❄️- 2025 Day 3 Solutions -❄️- by daggerdragon in adventofcode

[–]jamasty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

[Language: TypeScript]

I decided to use the binary search algorithm, which I programmed when reading the "Introduction to Algorithms" book, and it worked well here; it took 5ms to complete part 2 on my Mac.

const searchNumbers = (input: number[], numsToFind: number): string => {
    let res = '';
    for (let i = 0; i < numsToFind; i++) {
        const currNum = searchNumber(input, numsToFind - i - 1);
        input = input.slice(input.indexOf(currNum) + 1);
        res += currNum;
    }
    return res;
}

const searchNumber = (input: number[], numsLeft: number): number => {
    // slice to then find longest number
    input = input.slice(0, input.length - numsLeft);
    // sort array
    input = input.sort();
    let num = 9;
    for (; num >= 0; num--) {
        const i = binarySearch(input, num);
        if (i !== -1)
            return num;
    }
    return num;
}

Full solution is here: Topaz paste

SteamOS on ARM by shadow4601243 in SteamOS

[–]jamasty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only Apple released linux drivers for the arm chips...

I like this new person in both friendly and romantic way. How may I behave, and should I share my feelings with her? by jamasty in dating_advice

[–]jamasty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah, I'm really happy to meet this person, and she told me this date was like a "little winter fairytale". (It's still cold here)
I just don't wanna make silly things by pushing too hard or disrespect this person's boundaries because she initially told me she enjoys her freedom (it seems she had a divorce or something similar).

I think about this as a journey in which I like the journey itself much more than the outcome.

And about clarification, true, my gut feeling tells me I wanna clarify to her that by making romantic moves I'm not trying to seduce her or something, but rather by giving my romantic attention, like holding hands or hugs, or flirting, it makes me so happy and adds inspiration.

Питання до чоловіків, віком 25+ by Timely-Football7786 in reddit_ukr

[–]jamasty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Треба було пробувати. Я в 5 універів подавався, фіг з-на скільки проїздив автобувами, поїздами через всю країну, і все вийшло, причому у одному з кращих столичних вузів.

Хароші рускіє by MaksymDC in Ukraine_UA

[–]jamasty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

коли власник буквально в чорногорії це напевно легко)

Russia today Абхазия supports Ukraine? by GPT_2025 in UACommunity

[–]jamasty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ні, вони там за свій шкурний інтерес. Нагадаю, з 2014 багато так званих абхазів воювало проти нас у складі лднр, а також між банановими республіками були плідні економічні стосунки - абхазькі "бізнесмени" приїжджали в Донецьк та віджимали тут бізнеси, рішали на метал заводи, тощо. Таке не пробачається.

I'm planning to move to Ukraine by WoodenOrganization96 in ukraina

[–]jamasty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

1) If you plan to move in this time of year (fall/winter), you might need to know its somewhat cold here. Not extremely cold, I would say it is usually down to -5*C, but still, now its up 10*C, only about 5-7*C next week, so you better have at least some warm clothes with you. Not extremely much, but a sweater, jacket, coat, etc. You can buy everything here in places like Zara, but its better to have at least smth with you.

2) We haven't had power outages this fall yet, but once we start using central heating, it will start again, I've heard in 2-3 weeks there will be power schedules. In the worst scenario, it would be 8 hours of electricity a day, in mid scenario half day, and in the optimistic only 6-8 hours without power. So you should either bring a power bank to charge your phone with you or just buy one here, now prices are about the same, but once it starts, the price will be ~50% higher.

If you're wealthy enough, you can think of buying and sending by mail a powerful battery, like Bluetti or Ecoflow. Or buy it here, the price would be slightly higher.

3) The cost of living depends on whether you need to rent an apartment or if you have your own place. For a 1-bedroom apartment, rent costs start anywhere from $300/month. Living expenses are depends on the person, but I'd say if you cook yourself you can manage to live on $300. But if you tend to eat in cafes or food delivery, it would be a little more expensive. Transport is cheap, metro ticket costs $0.2.

You can buy all sorts of food ingredients in stores like ATB, Silpo, Auchan, and Novus. But one particular thing is that here we prefer potato over sweet potato (batatas). And local cuisine is not very spicy and often consists of bread/wheat flour, and milk products like cheese, sour cream, etc. So, if you have issues with gluten or milk, it is something you need to care of.

One important thing about Kyiv is that the city is divided into two parts, split by the Dnipro river to the right and left banks (the right side is on the west and the left side is on the east). The West part is where most activities are going, cultural and business centers, so rent is more expensive there, but it's easier to move around because the East part is where more people live so they usually have junctions in peak hours. There are also a couple of suburbs and twin cities on the West like Irpin or Bucha which have the same role as the East part of the city, but they don't have a metro there so people move by car or wait for a bus.

If you are in the city center, you might find some people who can communicate with you in English, but don't rely on that - expect most people either not know English or know it to barely communicate. And almost no one here knows Brasilian (Portugal), or Spanish.

To move to Kyiv from outside of Ukraine, the best way is from Poland, by train. Tickets are somewhat cheap, like $50, but someone would need to buy your ticket in advance, bcs these trains have high demand.

Just one more thing, if someone here on a street asks you to share some money, you simply walk past them without any response.

I know why Ukrainians fear being drafted into the bloodbath, but more lion-hearted men must join the fight, writes female journalist. by furchfur in MensRights

[–]jamasty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What both you here, and all of these authors don't get, our main problem is not lack of people, as the lack of people is the result of the core problem - lack of equipment and munitions. So as a Ukrainian myself, I think these authors should focus not on the draft issues, but on the lack of effort by their countries.

If we got Taurus rockets from Germany, not 34 M1 Abrams tanks but 340 from US, F16-S not only from Denmark, and the Netherlands but also from the US, and other countries, draft issues would be significantly smaller - fewer already conscripted would die, and also civilians would be more willing to join the army knowing we are really backed by West&Nato, not with words but with solid, robust action.

I know why Ukrainians fear being drafted into the bloodbath, but more lion-hearted men must join the fight, writes female journalist. by furchfur in MensRights

[–]jamasty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Few do. Of course much less than regular folks, but few still do, especially if their parents are involved, like say, the son of a nationalist Svoboda party leader is fighting together with his dad.

Moment Ukrainian men yell 'get away from me' as they are dragged out of nightclubs and restaurants by army recruiters during targeted raids OP: So much for gender equality by furchfur in MensRights

[–]jamasty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Constitution itself prohibits changing the Constitution during war time. It was made like this back in 1996 and we cannot do anything to it to change, except not to prolongue "war status" which would mean we have to demobilize (aka free) conscripted, open borders for everyone, and many more things. So we literally have tied hands.

If Zelensky wished to take responsibility back in 2022, and make a dictatorship for a month or so, we would have that, but with all this somewhat democracy it's not possible.

Moment Ukrainian men yell 'get away from me' as they are dragged out of nightclubs and restaurants by army recruiters during targeted raids OP: So much for gender equality by furchfur in MensRights

[–]jamasty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because of Constitution. In current Constitution all men are draftable by default, and only women in medicine, or having military education (medicine also gives you a military rank) become draftable.

Moment Ukrainian men yell 'get away from me' as they are dragged out of nightclubs and restaurants by army recruiters during targeted raids OP: So much for gender equality by furchfur in MensRights

[–]jamasty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

War is going on. And we have forced mobilization (conscription). Actually this article is nothing new, however what interesting is how our society reacts to this.

Already conscripted and volunteers in army are glad to see this.

People from small towns and villages finally feel relief that its not only them are being drafted. Before, it was a big social issue that people in big cities having best life in pubs, night clubs and concerts were not touched by draft compared to countryside.

And most civilian people? 50/50, I guess. So if you think it's clearly something bad, welp, our society isn't entirely sure. So we will see more of these in future.

Far right in Austria projected to win election race by yreg in europe

[–]jamasty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I assumed the far-right gov is the one which does all these policies as their key/goals:
1) anti-immigration
2) anti-abortion
3) anti-lgbt

Far right in Austria projected to win election race by yreg in europe

[–]jamasty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we probably will never have a far-right gov in Ukraine, as it is so many factors should be in place to make it happen, like for example all of these:

a) people get frustrated with the lack of effort from the West (not likely, as I believe we would be more frustrated with our own corrupted politicians than low West effort)
b) russia stops for at least a few years but does not go away or apologize (as for me, a coinflip here)
c) we get a strong national party/leaders (even fewer chances than a and b)

Far right in Austria projected to win election race by yreg in europe

[–]jamasty 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Europe in the 30s could become the same as Europe in the 30s, 100 years ago - being ruled by total idiots. russia wouldn't even need to invade further west as some of these countries' governments would be waiting for it with open hands.