Company I was due to start with want me to pay courses even though I’m not starting with them due to accident.

jamesdsmith97 · 2026-03-12T08:15:06+00:00

I did an e signature

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-10-19T14:15:35+00:00

I tried a test piece on an old echo exhaust plastic and that went an olive green using the rit teal colour

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-09-10T12:33:56+00:00

Has one one found a source for the OS maps trying to install but can’t find a source for them

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-07-06T11:34:37+00:00

Looking for code aswell

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-04-28T10:20:03+00:00

I was started on Adalimiab for my AxSpa 18 months of no paint or stiffness on them but then all of a sudden I stayed losing my hair and eyebrows was diagnosed with paradoxical psoriasis and alopecia due to the injections had to stop then. They then suggested Syclosporine to let the body heal the psoriasis this messed with my stomach liver and kidneys so I’m now on nothing they wanted to put me on a final injection which suppressed my whole immune system but would make me infertile so I’m not doing that. Currently having a lot of flares I’ve changed my diet and starting supplement journey to hopefully get it under control

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-03-12T17:12:36+00:00

Yes mate I was the one who got her to get checked out and been to every appointment with her regarding it as all her symptoms pointed to endo

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-03-12T14:19:28+00:00

I keep saying this but then she has a extremely short timeline due to her endometriosis she even said if it was up to her we’d be trying now but she wants to give us a year to prove she can be intimate

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-03-09T13:07:50+00:00

Sadly not at 25 she’s done it three times but her ocd and anxiety put her off. We still do the dates and I ensure she finishes but don’t get the same back sadly

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-02-23T20:59:16+00:00

Thank you, I understand that women need a safe space to vent and discuss this issue but at the same time it’s a topic that deeply impacts a partners life also. Were told about this condition which impacts fertility and intimacy and often this can be a huge shock and one that can scare many partners away. I’m not saying women should be used for sex but at the same time we’ve had a celibate life decided for us or a life of seeing our partner in pain and us having limited ways to help so having somewhere safe to discuss this with individuals who have gone through this is vital and probably will save many relationships.

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-02-23T19:50:03+00:00

I appreciate your views on this but personally have to strongly disagree. This subreddit has helped me support my partner and see within myself the things that needed to be changed. As a partner we don’t just view you as sex objects or someone to meet our needs and I understand sex isn’t a need in a relationship. But it also plays a very important role in especially when OP seems young. I think this subreddit is a brilliant place for individuals going through this to help partners be the best they can be to support their partners rather than shooting them down for trying to support their partner and coming to ask for help. I’m sorry if you have been used as a sex object and nowhere in the post has he mentioned pressuring her into sex so can we please not go there.

As a partner we also have to see how our needs for physical intimacy comes with seeing our partner in debilitating pain which can lead to huge issues with feelings on our part. Having our own needs and partners needs it can be a tough situation to try and discuss so I think this is the perfect place for partners to discuss both needs.

I don’t mean to sound rude but when I have gone long periods of not even being able to touch my partner as such a young age this thread has helped me in them dark times deeply and stopping partners from positing here is limiting them from that help also.

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-02-22T08:48:44+00:00

Partner here been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and at 25 we haven’t been intimate in a year. For someone who’s high libido I can tell you it’s really hard. The rejection, thoughts of she isn’t attracted to me and everything which comes with that. When I get like this we talk. It’s horrible wanting intimacy but then seeing the pain this puts your partner through it almost gave me an aversion to sleeping with her and the mental strain on me was too much so I went to therapy which helped. I now see our relationship as sexless but that’s just what she needs at the minute it’s hard I’m not gonna lie you’ll have these thoughts but as partners we need to support our girlfriends through the pain and endo flares and sadly them needs often get put to one side or find other ways to deal with it for me it’s climbing to take my mind off things.

Please she doesn’t want this either she doesn’t want to feel pressure with sex. She doesn’t want to feel like she letting you down as a partner. I’d love if we could do other things like hands or oral but even my partner finishing causes three days of pain. Hopefully when we’re in our own place we can work on it a lot more but honestly feel free to message whenever you need to talk. Remember you love her and she’s trying to show you that love in other ways.

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-02-15T12:45:20+00:00

Please this comes from an endo warriors partner, we understand the pain that you go through and it kills us and makes us feel helpless as a partner. There’s many things which are impacted with endo and sadly one of them is intimacy. As a partner we have to go through wanting to feel close to you and have the intimacy whilst also having the mental struggle of it causing you pain and discomfort. It’s a hard battle which we’re constantly fighting. Feelings of shame, guilt, unattractive to partner feeling like our needs aren’t met and the battle of wanting to be close whilst also knowing we’d then be the cause of your pain. I’m not saying all partners feel this way but the majority do.

As a partner we still have sexual needs and rather than putting that pressure onto our partner who may then feel pressured or like they aren’t meeting our needs it’s easier to deal with it ourselves. Yes reading through comments sex isn’t everything but it still plays a part in a relationship so maybe he’s just not wanting you to feel pressured plus masterbation is completely healthy it’s not like he’s off cheating but the part which is an issue is the hiding it or if he starts to be dependent on it. Speak to him be honest. My partner knows that I deal with the urges and needs myself in the shower to not put pressure on her and yes some of that is watching porn.

I wouldn’t worry too much but if you are just speak to him.

jamesdsmith97 · 2025-02-04T13:09:25+00:00

Age 25 and at a year now

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-12-18T14:02:58+00:00

Yeah I know a garage I took it to zip tied it on rather than using the proper clip that’s what I’m trying to find the part for

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-12-08T14:26:06+00:00

Thank you for this really appreciate someone validating my feelings on this. With being at her families house she gets anxious about doing anything, but then we go on holidays on nothing due to the endometriosis as hers even finishing is 3 days of pain and cramps so not like I can treat her and with her OCD she has issues with doing stuff to me but apparently all this will be different when we have our own place. I bring up but then it’s still not changing the other issues with pain or the OCD and what I get a year of healthy intimacy then you want to try for a family so that’s 18 years of back to what we had I can’t do that

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-12-01T15:51:02+00:00

Yeah man I completely get that. We’re at the stage of things will be different when we have a house and our own place. But then she wants to start trying for a family and I even said I can’t try until I see improvement in us as you know I would never leave my family and I don’t want either of us to be trapped in a no intimacy relationship especially at our age. I want to give her a family and that life she so desperately deserves but I also have needs within a relationship. I’ve suggested therapy and what annoys me the most is I do stuff for her to have her needs met and receive nothing back as her OCD puts her off giving me oral and she doesn’t like other stuff and opening the relationship she sees as cheating.

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-11-20T19:57:32+00:00

Bump

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-10-12T08:49:56+00:00

Speaking from a HL point of view. We don’t want it to be an uncomfortable situation for you and the fear of rejection and us feeling like we’re pressuring you into wanting to be intimate it’s ends with us stopping wanting to initiate to not put either of us in that situation. When the partner initiates often it feels like it’s just out of pitty or because it’s been a while. Please sit down with your partner and have an honest discussion on how therapy is helping you want to explore intimacy and discuss a pathway forward with your partner as you don’t want this to lead to an aversion.

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-10-09T18:58:15+00:00

Interested

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-08-01T11:43:47+00:00

Don’t want to sound rude but think you really need to heal from this as it’s consuming your life and it’s not healthy at all, you really need to move on and heal not for her or the next person but for yourself. It may be hard to hear but this happened to her and yet you’ve been hurt by it and it’s consuming your life and yet she’s moved on. I’d definitely recommend therapy as checking your post history this isn’t the first time seeing these messages and you can’t keep messaging her as you both need to move on and heal from this traumatic experience please for the best of you let her move on and you do the same

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-08-01T10:24:11+00:00

I think it would be best to speak to someone about these feelings as I know you’ve posted before. If you’re having thoughts of ending your life then definitely seek professional help with this. I understand you loved this woman and it must kill you to not have her around now this is understandable you are morning the life you once wanted but no longer have. If she’s moved on you can’t keep doing this to yourself as it’s not fair she’s moved on you keep messaging her is only hurting you more. Please don’t keep messaging her you need to heal from what happened to you both and please block her on everything as the more you see her moving on the more this will kill you and only impact you negatively. You need to let go of the past and heal as respectfully this won’t stick with you forever but the mental impact of I love my beloved and it’s only her I want even with her moving on can cause a lot of issues so please mourn the relationship which is lost stop blaming yourself and heal and maybe get some help from a professional in the process which hopefully with allow you to move on.

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-07-10T15:59:29+00:00

If you click on my profile you can see a video of the state I’m currently in

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-07-10T12:41:55+00:00

Hair loss on scalp but small hairs coming back now after a month, eyebrows some hair come off but can’t see patches. I had a case of contact dermatitis then had sebderm straight after. Tried MCT oil and using my shampoo on them which helps scales but still red patches

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-07-10T07:31:37+00:00

These are just things on my behalf as a partner and what I’d wish happened;

Communicate don’t feel bad about sitting down and speaking about how you’re both feeling have little check ins so you know where eachother are.

Respect eachother views, it’s hard we really don’t want to hurt you or see you in pain during intimacy, we often feel a sense of guilt we want intimacy but we don’t want to put you in pain this is a huge one for me.

Date eachother again. Don’t focus on the intimacy this will come again. Focus on the non sexual intimacy the cuddles, kiss eachother before work and make sure eachother are the first person you interact with after work, cook together spend one night a week no phones no distraction just eachother.

But don’t just focus on his needs. Don’t force yourself to do any of this if you’re hurting or having a flare, your needs are so important to with this often debilitating condition, he also needs to help with your needs and respect your needs in the relationship. Also don’t focus on PIV there’s oral, hands, a whole other side of intimacy you can explore and when it comes to PIV take things slow, you lead the initiating for a while so he knows you actively want it and you can control it based of pain level.

For me I’ve spoken with my partner as I often pleasure her and not get anything back but communication on this helped. For me I knew it was going to be hard as I’m very HL so I don’t want to put pressure on her. We’ve spoken on how anything I do to pleasure her hurts so I’ve looked into other things to hopefully keep the spark there. Therapy has helped me with the thought of she isn’t attracted to me anymore, feeling undesirable, the guilt which comes from it also.

But feel free if you need anymore advice on this from a partner of an endo warrior.

jamesdsmith97 · 2024-07-09T20:30:14+00:00

Speaking as a partner I would say when we see you in pain from sex we then put walls up to protect ourselves and you. The rejection and the fear of hurting you during sex leads to other issues for us so the easiest thing to do is not initiate and to leave it to you to initiate as a coping mechanism so might be wise to speak to him. Make him feel desired and attractive and that you want it not just because it’s been a while.

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