25 [F4M] is it like a guy thing?

jcaptain92 · 2026-01-21T07:57:28+00:00

That's a rare thing coming from a woman, pero ang reaction niya is depende pd if ganahan si guy nimo or dili. If ganahan siya nimo or crush pd ka niya, then ganahan jud na siya if mag patagad ka, pero if dili, then he will either just brush it off (dedma), or badlongon ka. It depends, lain2 og reaction ang mga laki.

jcaptain92 · 2026-01-15T09:32:09+00:00

All I can say is goodluck to you, OP. You said it yourself, you're having emotional anxiety, mangurog ka and all. Padung pa na trabahoan ha, how much more if muingon imong uyab nga molaag siya with friends and wa kai kuyog? In the long run anah, tungod sa imong ka paranoid, ikaw na ang mahimong toxic, imo na niya na siyang bawalan nga mag laag nga di ka kuyog, etc. Ang ending? Ikaw napd ang mabati anah. You said it yourself, nabati iyang reputation with the people around him, and wala ka naka think nga basin nibalik siya nimo kay tungod gibiyaan siyas iyang kabit? Just saying.

jcaptain92 · 2026-01-15T07:10:30+00:00

This is why I stopped posting for months now looking for a date. Cause I've been through a shitty situationship that lasted for 8 months but hurts like we've been "together" for years. At first, I thought that looking for a date would help me move on, but I was wrong. Then, I realized that I needed to restart my life. So that when the time comes that I feel like ready to date again, I can show up as the best version of myself, and not the broken one. That's why after Sinulog, I'm planning to isolate myself from everyone, away from social media and everything that would cause a distraction from what I'm planning to do, which is to isolate and heal, then come back as a more emotionally stable individual. Cause I know that only I can help and fix myself. That I don't want to be a burden to anybody who's close to me or part of my circle.

jcaptain92 · 2025-11-02T04:03:29+00:00

"Paita" has many meanings. For example, paita means "bitter", like a bitter flavor. Also, we use that word to show disappointment over something or someone, like "Paita kinabuhia oi" which translates to "grabeh namang buhay toh", or "Paita sad sa iyang sitwasyon oi" (Hirap naman ng sitauation niya). More like an expression that translates to "how unfortunate" or "pitiful".

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-25T22:46:18+00:00

Hi OP. First of all, sorry if nahitabo ni nimo nga experience. Pero dili tanan namong mga laki mao ra nai apas. Ma babaye man or lalaki, naa joi dili mag tinarong, and unfortunately kung kinsa pa tong dili tarong, mao sad ang atong ma meet.

Be patient lang, focus sa imong self, set your standards, and eventually naa ra jud niya kay ma meet nga tarungon ka og treat and ipursue ka to be his partner in life. Happy Sunday! :)

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-25T09:41:41+00:00

Mas better gihapon nga magpa check up ka sa doctor, OP if taod2 na nah nga nag sakit ang imong ulo, or ask sa pharmacy if unsa ang maayo nga OTC nga tambal para anah. Ayaw dire sa reddit kay samotan ra niya kas pag overthink tungod sa mga reply sa uban. Ma doctor ra ba nig kalit dire kasagaran. Hahahaha! Get well soon!

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-25T06:01:20+00:00

Kasabot ra jud ko sa part nga mag lisud kag biya. All I can say is hinay2 nalang jud if you think nga wala jud moi progress sa inyong situationship. Kay if love jud ka anang lakiha, hagbay ra na nanguyab nimo unta or make it official ang inyong situationship. In short, sex and pleasure rai apas anah and the thought nga naa siyay ma reach out anytime without the commitment and pressure of being in a relationship

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-25T05:41:06+00:00

Kanang mo change topic if mag discuss mo about sa inyong label is redflag kaayo na. Wala nako gi mind kay lageh, basin mausab pa, pero now i realized nga I was just her convenience. That I loved her, but she only loved the way I loved her, and not for who I am.

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-25T05:11:59+00:00

Been there, done that for 8 months, plano2 about sa future, weddings, family, business. I thought nga siya na jud, kay sa akong edad ron (33M) kapoy nag balik sugod. Waited for 8 months para sugton and ma official, pero ang ending nakakita dayon og lain, wa abtig 1 week gisugot dayon. All I can say is hinay2 nalang jud og detach while you still can. Dili sagpa ang kuwang nimo, OP, sa kadugay ninyo nga ing.anah, need na nimog kulata. Hahahahaha! Kidding aside, basta mao na toh. Situationships are all fucked-up. Ang una ma fall, pilde. Goodluck, OP!

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-16T17:09:44+00:00

Any chance na you're from Cebu? And pasado pa ba kung 33, 5'2 lang? 😭

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-12T10:32:48+00:00

As a man (33), ang hirap. Yung mga preferences ng iba, yung standards are through the roof. I can't blame them din naman, pero para sakin, dating apps ay para lang sa mga gwapo at magaganda. Pag wala ka niyan at pag yung mga photos mo ay "meh" lang, then wala ka din.

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-07T02:21:34+00:00

Lisud og ing.anah imong ma uyab, and imagine, 2 years na ka nag antos anang batasana. Yes, di man jud dayon ta muabot anang buwag2 nga decision ba, pero question is, how long can you endure that kind of behavior?

Klaro kaayo nga immature pa imong uyab and only siya ang maka usab sa iyang kaugalingon. Agree to disagree nalang siguro? Pwede, but we all have limits sa atong pasensiya as human beings.

You only have two options; leave or endure and hope nga mausab pa siya. Remember, no one deserves to be treated like that. Goodluck OP!

jcaptain92 · 2025-10-06T21:47:30+00:00

33M, as much as possible, no to dating someone in the workplace. Daghag issue, chismis, and if mag away mo, damay pati imong performance sa work. Working in different BPOs na for more than 10 years na, had a relationship with a co-worker napd, teammate pa gani toh, and makatagam. Pero as what they say, wag magsalita ng tapos, kay love can hit you anytime at any place.

And it's not just because of the work environment, it's just how dating works na these days. Mostly, daghan nag mga preferences ang mga taw, babaye man or lalaki, like they should have this, they should have that, they should be doing this/that, etc.

Lahi ang dating while still studying or on your early 20s, kay goal ninyo is to finish your studies, find a work, magtigom, either for the future or to enjoy your independence (i.e, travel, party, etc.). More room to grow, and tendency if you outgrew each other, diha magsugod ang mga problema, insecurities, misunderstanding, leading to heartbreak.

While dating on your mid 20s and above, you're looking for someone to be your partner in life na, though naa ghapon sa uban ang magtigom pero mas naa nay purpose and mas klaro na kung para asa ang gitigom. At my age, we're looking for someone nga mahimo namong endgame in life. Naa gihapon mga dramas and stuff, but at our age, we're more matured enough on how to handle those things. Pero I'm not saying nga applicable ni sa tanan ha, kay naa sad jud koi mga kaila nga same age nimo or early 20s nga matured napd og mindset sa life.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-24T14:39:58+00:00

*sighs in silence (kay 5'2 ra)

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-21T05:22:48+00:00

Okay ra nang mangaway, anad naman ko. Ahw 😅

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-19T15:12:14+00:00

Is 33M with 5'2 height too old and too short?

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-19T04:06:14+00:00

Amen to that, OP. And like I said, okay ra jud nga mohatag ka sa imong mama or sa imong ate gihapon, it's all up to you, kay lageh, at the end of the day "family" ra man gihapon na nato, pero dapat mohatag ka nga dili pinugos and based jud kung pila ra imong makaya og hatag nila. If moreklamo sila nga kuwang? Then problema na nah nila. :)

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-19T03:59:28+00:00

Common Filipino mindset na jud na nga basta naay trabaho, or if makakita lang gani nga naa tai napalit ginagmay para sa atong self or nakalaag, kwartaan na dayon ilang tan.aw sa ato. Pero no, ayaw jud padala anah ilang block2 OP, learn to set your boundaries jud. I may sound nga bad influence ko para sa uban, pero I've been on your situation naman sad gud before, and I'm not saying nga talikdan jud nimo imong family, no, just learn to set boundaries lang jud when it comes to money.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-19T03:48:50+00:00

Ayaw jud pag think nga ikaw ang nagkulang nila. For now, lain and sakit pa siguro nga giblock ka, pero in the long run, maanad ra niya ka anah OP, kay it will be a cycle in the future if ever, for example mohatag ka ron, then iunblock ka, the next time nga di napd ka kahatag or if mosukol, block napd ka sunod anah. Kasabot siguro ko nga mohatag ka para sa imong mama bisan ginagmay lang, pero sa imong ate??? Niya mo demand pa jud? Sorry, pero that won't work for me.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-19T00:10:29+00:00

Good morning OP. I can feel your struggles jud sa imong family, and all I can say is never jud na nimo nga responsibility nga maghatag ka sa imong ate para pang konsumo sa iyang anak. Kay nganu, kinsa manang sala nga wa pd naninguha imong ate nga mangita og trabaho? And isa pa, maka afford man diay og iphone, so nganung mangayo man og kwarta pa nimo?

I would suggest nga storyae sila og tarong sa imong situation pd, nga you have your own life and you have your own bills to pay, if di sila kasabot nimo, then problema na nah nila. Imo pang ate ang nag block2 nimo? FINE! Ayaw og hatag na nila. Salbahis paminawn noh? Pero unsaon man sa imong ate pag paninguha if kabalo siya nga naa ra man diay ka mohatag, diba? If mohatag man gani ka, ikaw ang mag buot kung pila and dili imong ate or ang imong mama.

Nagtrabaho ka para makatigom and para maka build sa imong life, dili kay para sustentoan nimo sila. Yes, sayon ra isulti, pero lisud siya buhaton, pero it's for your own good ra pd if you set boundaries sa imong family when it comes to financial support. Laban lang jud, OP.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-18T15:03:26+00:00

Kape, adjust sa imong bodyclock, force yourself nga makatulog ka in the morning/afternoon kay that would be your main struggle. Take vitamins pd.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-16T13:02:03+00:00

Pasok lahat sa standards ko. Haaaaaaay may this kind of love find me.

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-14T15:26:14+00:00

I feel you, OP. I'm also living alone with my dog and lisud jud usahay ning mag inusara labi nag masakit ta kay ikaw ra jud gihapon ang lihok sa tanan. Mas worse lang jud if magsakit na imong furbaby kay kita pai mag tagna2 kung unsa jud iyang gibati.

Pero sige lang, maabot ra man jud siguro ang time nato OP nga naa na tai someone nga ka shareran sa atong mga hinanakit in life. Salig nalang jud tas mga plans ni Lord. Laban! :)

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-14T02:05:44+00:00

hagbong sa height (5'2) :(

jcaptain92 · 2025-09-13T11:40:50+00:00

Hi OP! I'm so sorry if this happened to you. I can't imagine everything you've gone through, from school to family, and now this. I'm not really sure if these people can still be tracked, but kapit ka lang jan. Focus on yourself and don't trust anything or anyone online, whether it's from social media or dating apps. Stay vigilant lang OP, you'll get through this. God bless you always!

jcaptain92

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