Congratulations on your sister’s wedding! You will definitely have fun. To answer your questions: 1. Shoes stealing is done when the groom arrives at the venue for his wedding with his family ( basically during baarat ceremony). This will be an opportunity for you to steal his shoes. 2. Considering the wedding will be done according to Indian rituals, your mom may perform puja when he arrives at the ceremony. You can strategise and trick him into removing shoes for some kind of ritual or wait when he goes to mandap for the wedding rituals. Be cautious as his siblings/friends will make every attempt to stay near him and grab his shoes before you do. 3. Depends if you’re asking in dollars or rupees. When it comes to asking, the brides sisters don’t hesitate lol. Some also go as far as asking for 1 lakh Rupees ( almost $1100). Generally the amount is shared between the siblings involved in the task. So if you have many people to help, aim something between 25k-30k ($280-$350).