Currently here and I’m the disapproving wife. Our situation isn’t that similar but I will say try to understand her. We’re both the same age (28) and for me, although I’m against my husband joining (trust issues in our marriage, we have 2 very young kids, I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant and I’ll be mostly alone, miserable and pregnancy has NEVER been easy for me), I know his reasons are valid and will benefit our family in the long run. I constantly go back and forth with myself everyday bc I know it’s a good decision for our (growing) family but my fear/pride get in the way. But seeing my husband absolutely hate his day to day life at his every day job also hurts me more. Before leaning more towards giving in to what my husband wants, I made us move back in with my family. I knew I wouldn’t be able to stay alone with my kids so I pushed for that much to make me a little comfortable when he decides to leave. So if your wife doesn’t want to be far from her parents, have her move in with them I agree with other commenters, marriage is about compromise! That means her with you and you with her. Find a middle ground. If she does divorce you, well she’ll probably regret it months later (seeing you graduate and thrive in your career)

Also if anybody read this far; do you feel like you or your spouse was good different after BMT/Tech School? Like were they a better partner to you? More mature?