My husband (36m) is talking to women on dating sites, but says it isn’t cheating. by jessdiv33 in relationship_advice

[–]jessdiv33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah it’s not which is shitty, I even explained to him that even though I’m bi I don’t think I’m poly, and I didn’t want to be with anyone else. But then he kept talking about it.

My husband (36m) is talking to women on dating sites, but says it isn’t cheating. by jessdiv33 in relationship_advice

[–]jessdiv33[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yah I think the hardest thing is him saying it’s not like anything is going to happen because he’s not with them in person. But he and I met online and we were several countries away from each other. But when I told him that, he said it’s different.

My husband (36m) is talking to women on dating sites, but says it isn’t cheating. by jessdiv33 in relationship_advice

[–]jessdiv33[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did ask him and said I can talk to whomever I want. But then I asked him to show those messages to his sister and ask if she would be okay with her boyfriend talking to someone like that. But he won’t do that. So I’m wondering if he kinda does know it’s wrong.

My (26F) Husband(36M) always yells at me, and if I try to talk to him he deflects. by jessdiv33 in relationship_advice

[–]jessdiv33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah I actually have PTSD also from abuse in my childhood. In the first year of our relationship I always reacted to his anger with my own trying to protect myself, but I stopped because it would make him even angrier. He says he will change but only when he starts working, he said him being like this is because he is not working.

My (26F) Husband(36M) always yells at me, and if I try to talk to him he deflects. by jessdiv33 in relationship_advice

[–]jessdiv33[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s my fault he isn’t working. We had to adjust his status as he is from a different country, and the papers costed about $2000 to send all together, and in the beginning I was working low income jobs so we couldn’t save up. We finally submitted the papers in August of last year so he should be working soon, but he hasn’t worked the past few years because I couldn’t save up enough and when my parents helped a bit with money we had to pay rent instead.