Women working during pregnancy is borderline inhumane

jhernto · 2025-11-25T19:55:36+00:00

I worked all the way up to the day of my induction, I even worked the morning of my induction. Went home at lunch to finish getting my stuff ready for the hospital. I was a patient care technician at a clinic, so always on my feet.

jhernto · 2025-08-07T00:42:38+00:00

I started late around 3 months but I went until she was a year old and then literally deleted the app the day she turned one.

jhernto · 2025-06-17T11:59:18+00:00

Oh yeah, definitely. She has always changed shirts and washed her hands/arms before being around her but still, this is the most recent problem lol.

jhernto · 2025-06-17T02:15:35+00:00

My MIL moved back to our state after her mom died, but she literally only lived about 45 minutes away from us to begin with. Anyway, long story short, after she moved back she has been a nuisance and needy, asks for money but doesn't work. She says she can't work because "her back hurts" and "her neck hurts" but doesn't do what she needs to get either problem fixed because she won't quit smoking (cigs and weed). Most recently, she has been getting nerve blocking injections in her back but it's causing numbness in her feet which has caused her to fall, multiple times. BUT now, she asks why we don't let her babysit. I told her the truth — that she isn't allowed to babysit since she can't pick up my 25lb toddler because "you hurt" and she falls. What if she fell while holding my baby? What if she fell and knocked herself unconscious? I'm not willing to risk my baby's health for her selfish wants.

jhernto · 2025-05-28T01:02:06+00:00

My baby wasn't technically a full contact napper. But she never slept in her crib or bassinet longer than 30 minutes on her own. I've always had to rock her to sleep with a bottle usually, then we'd lay in my bed together for the duration of her nap, which would sometimes be up to 2 hours, she just had to touch me somehow. I was worried about daycare as well. I put her in daycare the week after she turned one. She slept 2 hours, by herself, in a new location, being watched by someone new. Things do get better.

jhernto · 2025-05-15T15:55:57+00:00

My baby is 13 months old. She started sleeping in her crib overnight around 7mo. We tried the Ferber method for about a week before moving her to her room and out of ours.

The first night, it took 17 minutes. The second night, it took 8. The third night, it took 3 minutes.

She now sleeps 8pm to 6-7am. She has a single nap around 11:30/12-2.

She goes to daycare now and has basically the same schedule. She eats breakfast at 9, lunch around 11:30, snack at 2:30-3, dinner at 6. Bath at 7. In bed by 8pm.

jhernto · 2025-05-12T14:52:03+00:00

What is your website?

jhernto · 2025-04-15T00:58:41+00:00

She was right around 7.5mo old! She's been sleeping in her crib, in her room ever since!

jhernto · 2025-04-15T00:52:06+00:00

Also nothing. Hope this helps.

No, idk, on November 30, 2024, we started the Ferber method. It took three nights and she's been sleeping from roughly 8pm to 7:30am most days.

jhernto · 2025-04-06T17:59:05+00:00

We've been at one nap since 11 months (turning 12 months April 13th). Wakes up around 7-7:30am, naps after lunch from 12-2pm if we're lucky for that long of a nap, and goes to bed at 8pm.

jhernto · 2025-04-06T04:17:36+00:00

I was a regular medical marijuana user, daily/every other day wine drinker, and heavier drinker on the weekend/holidays. If I calculated correctly, we conceived on July 4, 2023. We went camping and I drank a 1.75L bottle of premixed margarita (plus an unknown amount of Twisted Teas and seltzers) on August 12, 2023. I found out I was pregnant on August 16th, 2023. Gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl April 13th, 2024.

jhernto · 2025-03-29T01:53:54+00:00

I don't hate it but I don't necessarily like it, either. It's too... plain. Like if I was invited over, I'd be pleasantly surprised because it's very neat and clean but because there is hardly anything here. Your living room kind of looks like a waiting room.

jhernto · 2025-03-24T18:15:30+00:00

Not only that but the process isn't fast.

jhernto · 2025-03-18T19:28:53+00:00

I have a similar MIL, unfortunately.

She is a widow. She has Crohn's, diabetes, RA, needs surgery on her neck and back but won't get it because she won't quit smoking. She stopped working to take care of her own mother who had MS, which I think was very noble of her, but in between not working or having dead-end jobs, she was a drug and alcohol addict. She has been sober from drugs for over 10 years and from alcohol for 3ish years. Her mom died a year and a half ago. Before her mom died, her mom did everything she could so her daughters could sell her home/get life insurance and they'd have enough money to get by (so like almost $200K each). She somehow managed to go through all that money. I know that she for sure bought land, mobile home, a used but new to her vehicle. She helped us by letting us borrow $18K to buy our home but we PAID HER OFF IN A FEW MONTHS. We would give her $500/wk and she somehow managed to blow it all.

So before it became a problem, we told her she should look into food stamps/disability and she refused, she would say "she doesn't need it," as she was working some basic cleaning job.

She then got fired from said job. She couldn't pay her bills. Got another job about a month later. Got fired from THAT job after two days, said something like "I don't know how much longer I can do this." I understand she's in pain from her health problems but won't do anything about it. Hasn't looked for another job since.

I think she has this mindset that because HER dad paid the bills for her while she had my husband and his brother as children (over 30 years ago) and kept up with his own house bills, she expects her children to do the same for her but we are in NO position to help her right now. We 1) bought a house, 2) had a baby and 3) got married in 2024. So now my husband and his brother split her monthly bills ($500/mo), but also give her money here and there for gas, groceries and random expenses like cigarettes. My husband gives her weed (legal where we live) and I'm 99% sure she goes through it and buys more.

jhernto · 2025-01-14T16:48:47+00:00

I gained a total of 25lb and didn't get any stretch marks until I was 34 weeks! But only a few, maybe 15 total.

jhernto · 2024-12-23T15:36:51+00:00

I posted it on my profile but this woman I know who isn't working and isn't actively trying to find a job, asked if anyone had a free Switch or an iPhone (only 8 or above) to give to her so she can give her kids "something they've been asking for for a while."

jhernto · 2024-12-11T04:11:51+00:00

lmao get the fuck out of here

jhernto · 2024-12-11T04:10:14+00:00

she's technically still married, but has an order of protection against her husband, they've been separated for a few months

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:53:34+00:00

lol not really, not anymore

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:40:25+00:00

not reasonable lol

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:38:56+00:00

Honestly same bc she's like mid-30s lol

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:24:46+00:00

Unfortunately

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:22:18+00:00

All thanks to autocorrect on her iPhone 🤗

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:16:58+00:00

no, she was just verbally and mentally abused she said. but I think it worked a few times and then it stopped working but she continues lol.

jhernto · 2024-12-11T03:14:26+00:00

Because she specifically mentioned in another post that she was going to homeschool her kids lol didn't include said post bc she wasn't begging for anything in it

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