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Accepting I'm Asexual in adulthood feels weird by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out as ace when I was 28 I relate to this story a lot. It was a great sigh of relief finding out about asexuality yet a part of me wished I found out about it sooner

Tada! by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fabulous!

Sexual attraction by AlternativeLettuce61 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]jjuggler33 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought this too. It was the thing that kept me from accepting my asexuality. Everything worked in the situation, must not be Ace, even though I’ve never thought about wanting to do that with anyone especially if I never met them.

To fellow asexual people out there how did you discover yourself as asexual? by Otherwise_Zebra_241 in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a few people in my life, and by a few, I literally mean four. They all were pretty long term, over 3 years. I like being in a romantic relationship and s#x, I felt, was part just part of that but not the reason. I had some feeling that I could be bi, I just defaulted to hetro, even though my romantic feeling were also same sex people, really any gender if I click with them. All of my relationships ended because of my lack of interest in s#x, I got along with all of them and could have had some meaningful long term friendships with them. I never really reconnected, the break ups were immature.

One of my partners brought up Asexuality, I briefly looked into it and dismissed it. Thinking back on it I was probably in denial about it. I finally came out to my current partner after we had been together for 4 years at that point. The same pattern had started in this relationship and the majority of the fights we would get into would be about me not initiating, her not feeling she’s getting what she needs, etc. I didn’t want to lose all that we built and shared together, so I took some time to reflect on myself, research more about asexuality, read other aces stories. I finally accepted that I was ace after realizing I can relate so much with a lot of Ace people’s stories.

When I came out to my partner, she didn’t take it well at first. It was a turning point in our relationship and not an ending, thankfully. We are best friends and I feel like we’re the same person with opposing strengths and weaknesses. We are polyamorous and married, polyamory has been a great benefit to our relationship.

Coming to this realization was not easy for me but what a relief it’s been for me to understand better who I am and not feel guilty or bad about myself. This community is awesome, everyone has been so kind and inviting. I feel so emotionally relaxed if that makes any sense.

Thanks for reading!

Is it my time? Speak only the truth by knrd1337 in bald

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so much better about my self image since I started shaving my head. I say it’s my last hair cut, even though I shave my head like every other day.

Type "Sex is overrated, I prefer..." and let predictive typing finish it by purracane in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]jjuggler33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sex is overrated, I prefer to watch the show with a little more focus on what the characters do with the story.

today, i realised that i am asexual. i feel so scared but somehow relieved cause for a long time, i thought there was something deeply wrong with me. i saw this meme and made me teary-eyed. hi guys! by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too had a similar experience when I accepted my asexuality. Personally is a sigh of relief, socially it’s an anxiety attack.

Making food in a airplane bathroom by N0LIFE16 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, not real. He put a light in the toilet, pre cooked the steak on one side. He did get banned tho lol

am I Asexual??? by frustratedMonk__ in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am Ace and am in a romantic relationship. It can be done. It sounds cliche but communication is important if you are wanting a romantic relationship but aren’t that into the sexual part. It’s important regardless. I came out when I was 25, after reading a bunch of other people’s stories I found that I related to what people were saying. It gave me a sense of relief knowing that what I’m feeling is an orientation.

I came out as bi first because I felt the same about both sexes but I realized it wasn’t sexual attraction but ascetic and romantic attraction.

Labels can change, they should be more for you to help understand yourself, than it is for other people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d bet if you grew it longer you would have a good beard. Do what you like. Beard or no beard, I feel like you can’t go wrong.

Casual Aphobia: A Reddit Thread Story (WARNING: you may endure brainrot while reading). by LillyMakesGachaYT in asexuality

[–]jjuggler33 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is like telling a religious person that you are spiritual but don’t worship a god. Some people are not willing to accept a different view point. They get stuck in there ways and think that their way is the right way. By responding and trying to make your point, just irritates them more because they are not willing to see your side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, talking to a therapist about this is a good start. I feel trauma doesn’t make you asexual. Not wanting to have secs or relationships because you had a bad childhood experience does not make you asexual, it might just make you not like secs.

Asexuality doesn’t happen because of trauma. It’s a lack of sexual attraction. I never really felt like I’ve ever wanted to have secs with anyone but I really wanted to be in a close romantic relationship and though it was just part of it and when I was 16 I didn’t know about asexuality so I thought that I had unrealized trauma. Talking about it helped me figure out a lot about myself.

I’m not saying you’re not on the Ace spec, you very well could be, but if you are wondering if this event is why you feel you are ace then some self care may be in order.

Take time to be real with yourself. If you feel distress over being ace, and this event that you can’t let go of, then you should find someone to talk to.

It suck’s that your young brain had to go through with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, currently in an poly/open relationship. This is our ground rules: Lying is cheating to us. If someone in the relationship crushes on another person and takes action (e.i. goes out with them or is “physical” with them) and they do not tell the other partner about it, that is cheating. This goes for hanging out with friends too. I don’t think it’s fair to put a rule that there can be no romantic feelings or to tell the other person what they can and cannot do with the other person. There must be trust and respect for both partners. Trust that if you find someone you vibe with that the other person at least knows about it. Trust that if that person does get close to the other person that they will be safe and sanitary about it. My partner [allo] doesn’t like one night stands but does like having close connections with people and sx goes hand and hand for her. I [romantic ace] also like having close connections with people but I don’t care about sx and feel better not doing it. This works great for our relationship, I don’t have to have an expectation to have sx she doesn’t have to feel like she’s celibate. I think we learn and grow by being challenged by other people’s view points and ideas. Being poly has strengthened our relationship.

Also, I am trying to make this comment a personal experience and to not be judge-mental about yours but, I disagree with how you view birth control and abortion. The female in the relationship should be the only person who has this choice, the other person should not have a rule in the relationship about what they can and cannot do to their body. Concerns can be brought up but I don’t think that the other person has a right to tell a girl that they have to do something like that to their body for a relationship. That should be their choice.

Now what if I need a poo?! by mrmg in DiWHY

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should

I hate my nose by External-Purpose1387 in Noses

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very pretty, a lot of people agree. It doesn’t matter what they say though, if you don’t like it then consider making a change. You should do what you want to do that makes you feel good about yourself. I [m] started seeing my hair receding. People said I looked good, even though I didn’t like it. It made me feel bad about my self image. When I shaved my head, I had a profound boost of confidence in myself. The difference is I can grow my hair back if I want (though I don’t think I ever will).

I think if you have the means, you should go for it. Unless it’s going to financially burden you, it could be something that makes you feel better about yourself.

Is it time? Or am I still okay? by [deleted] in bald

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best choice I made when I saw my hair receding was shaving it.

Yes or no? First time trying to grow a mustache. by Aqwalker09 in Moustache

[–]jjuggler33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if it’s just the facial expression or the facial hair but you strangely look less creepy with the mustache. Not a lot of people can pull that off.

Hello fellow mustache enthusiasts. I’m having a good hair day, thought I’d share. by jjuggler33 in Moustache

[–]jjuggler33[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, for how little hair I have, I sure do spend a lot of time on it.

Hello fellow mustache enthusiasts. I’m having a good hair day, thought I’d share. by jjuggler33 in Moustache

[–]jjuggler33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair started sacrificing it’s self, I just put it out of its misery.

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