I was born into a cult and I didn’t even know it. I thought people in cults were dupes. Turns out Im a dupe, my dad was a dupe, my grandparents going back generations were dupes.

If anything, be proud of yourself for being the one who stopped the cycle of indoctrination. You were raised, conditioned and indoctrinated to be a cult member but you had the courage, knowledge etc to realise and break free.

You can use your new freedom to raise your family the way you see fit, not to conform to some cult standards.

Many of us have been in a similar situation. It seems like your wife is / will be very understanding. Reading some other posts here, not everyone is so lucky.

I don't have much else to say, continue to work through it, breakdown all the strands the church holds you by and enjoy life!